Here is a link to all the symptoms and she thicks every single one..
http://www.mcafee.cc/Bin/sb.html
It is text book stuff said T, I asked her why people turn into this and she said no T or doctor knows, its just a personality disorder.

[Emptty]

My T said that about my father. I remember rolling my eyes... I heard most veterinarians are sociopaths but I don't really know that for sure.

Was that upsetting to hear from your T? Do you agree with him on it?

Originally Posted by Emptty

My T said that about my father. I remember rolling my eyes... I heard most veterinarians are sociopaths but I don't really know that for sure.

Was that upsetting to hear from your T? Do you agree with him on it?

Sorry to hear about your dad Emptty, Did you read the link? Do you think he was?
It was upsetting but also a very enlightening moment for me because now I understand that it was nothing I did and I can stop blaming myself.

[Wren_]

your T seems to be doing a lot of diagnosing of other people without knowing them and without knowing you for very long either maybe your ex is (I don't know); but first you have her say your mother as an abuser now your ex as a sociopath/psychopath ... I don't know, it seems very weird she is labelling these other people so quickly

[Healingchild]

Button30. If I remember correctly, you had told me your mother was a psychopath and so it's not surprising that you were attracted to another. I don't know how long you have been going to a T or whether your T is too quick to diagnois.

[Chopin99]

Healingchild has a point. People seem to marry their mothers. Some people say women marry their fathers, but it wasn't true for me. I married a man (sort of) like my mom. However, your T does seem quick to judge/diagnose others. It's really hard IMO to diagnose someone without talking to him/her in person.

[Healingchild]

Button30. How long were you 2 together?

[Emptty]

Originally Posted by button30

Sorry to hear about your dad Emptty, Did you read the link? Do you think he was?
It was upsetting but also a very enlightening moment for me because now I understand that it was nothing I did and I can stop blaming myself.

When my T said it I googled and came across the same link you've put up.

It's a little scary to think that your ex was a sociopath/psychopath because considering they are characterized as charming and manipulative, there was probably nothing you could do to 'catch early warning signs'. I hope if dating individuals with these characteristics is a habit, you will be able to keep your radar up and try to avoid the psychologically troubled types.
They could make a relationship real toxic.

My first H was textbook psychopath....that's a scary r/s to be in. I know it's hard, but it's much better to not be with someone like that.

[Healingchild]

Originally Posted by Emptty

When my T said it I googled and came across the same link you've put up.

It's a little scary to think that your ex was a sociopath/psychopath because considering they are characterized as charming and manipulative, there was probably nothing you could do to 'catch early warning signs'. I hope if dating individuals with these characteristics is a habit, you will be able to keep your radar up and try to avoid the psychologically troubled types.
They could make a relationship real toxic.

My x was very convincing. I really thought I had found a healthy relationship.

[KazzaX]

It's hard to believe there are people out there with no remorse!! Even me, with the horrible things that I do, I feel bad about it. Imagine not having that there.... there would be no incentive to do things right. We would all just go blundering about our day, knocking aside any obstacles (ie people) that we may come across.

I think LIVING with a psychopath would be triply(sp?) as hard as BEING one. It would be hell.

[mixedup_emotions]

My ex-husband is as well....quite pathological, although I don't typically see him as dangerous - which is what always scared my T. I seem to have become really good at normalizing his behavior. I did divorce him, but that was mostly because of the impact of his behavior on our daughter...She deserved better.

She did diagnose very quickly I have not been seeing her very long at all! This is only my fourth time! I was seeing T1 for a year and a half and she never said anything about my mother or my ex she tried to say I was responsible for my life not them, in a way she was sigh but when you lived with such destructive people it was hard to control anything that happened without getting blamed for everything! I mean my ex war a total charmer, especially at first! Now, I did see some red flags at first but since it was my first relationship my radar wasn't tuned yet! Towards the end of the relationship she was still the same, abusive and manipulative! But once the affair started, her personality changed, her clothes changed, she never admitted it, trying instead to tell me I was imagining things, imagining seeing her car outside this girls house, imagining seeing a bill for flowers on her credit card receipt, imagining finding a picture of this girl under her bed! And for a while she had me so convinced I thought I was going crazy, I had a nervous breakdown and my last t just kept saying, this is your life button! Why are you. So concerned with everyone else, can you imagine how unhelpful that was to me at the time? So now I am finally glad that someone is not blaming me for everything! That it wasn't my fault and I did nothing wrong! I later found out my ex had lied to me about everything in her past and that she was only pretending to be this person so I would love her! It hurt at the time because I blamed myself for everything when in hindsight I couldn't have changed anything I did because she did this to all her other partners only I was the longest so it hurt more! My x t, wasn't very helpful with all of this, I asked heh once if I was going crazy and she said I don't know button, do you think you are? And I said I think I am having a nervous breakdown which I was full blown in the middle of one and she said I don't know as I have never had one but that is what your doctor is for!

[Healingchild]

Originally Posted by button30

She did diagnose very quickly I have not been seeing her very long at all! This is only my fourth time! I was seeing T1 for a year and a half and she never said anything about my mother or my ex she tried to say I was responsible for my life not them, in a way she was sigh but when you lived with such destructive people it was hard to control anything that happened without getting blamed for everything! I mean my ex war a total charmer, especially at first! Now, I did see some red flags at first but since it was my first relationship my radar wasn't tuned yet! Towards the end of the relationship she was still the same, abusive and manipulative! But once the affair started, her personality changed, her clothes changed, she never admitted it, trying instead to tell me I was imagining things, imagining seeing her car outside this girls house, imagining seeing a bill for flowers on her credit card receipt, imagining finding a picture of this girl under her bed! And for a while she had me so convinced I thought I was going crazy, I had a nervous breakdown and my last t just kept saying, this is your life button! Why are you. So concerned with everyone else, can you imagine how unhelpful that was to me at the time? So now I am finally glad that someone is not blaming me for everything! That it wasn't my fault and I did nothing wrong! I later found out my ex had lied to me about everything in her past and that she was only pretending to be this person so I would love her! It hurt at the time because I blamed myself for everything when in hindsight I couldn't have changed anything I did because she did this to all her other partners only I was the longest so it hurt more! My x t, wasn't very helpful with all of this, I asked heh once if I was going crazy and she said I don't know button, do you think you are? And I said I think I am having a nervous breakdown which I was full blown in the middle of one and she said I don't know as I have never had one but that is what your doctor is for!

I am so glad you are not seeing your old T. Maybe she should become a budget counsellor or something like that. As a child growing up in a abusive environment, things are happening to you but everybody is acting like nothing is wrong. That's crazy making. So when you see it happening again it drives you nuts.

I agree healing child, I think what I need now in my therapy is validatiopn and explanations. I mean old T said I think you come here every week looking for answers, well I dont have the answers...
I just wanted her to tell me I wasn't going crazy that my ex had problems, I wanted for her to listen to me and to help me, instead she would always say you in charge of your life, only you can change-this is true and I am changing but all I needed was for her to hear me, she wouldn't let me talk about my ex after a while too and this really pissed me off.

Originally Posted by Healingchild

Button30. How long were you 2 together?

six years healing child.

[Healingchild]

Originally Posted by button30

I agree healing child, I think what I need now in my therapy is validatiopn and explanations. I mean old T said I think you come here every week looking for answers, well I dont have the answers...
I just wanted her to tell me I wasn't going crazy that my ex had problems, I wanted for her to listen to me and to help me, instead she would always say you in charge of your life, only you can change-this is true and I am changing but all I needed was for her to hear me, she wouldn't let me talk about my ex after a while too and this really pissed me off.

Button39. Why are you still talking about your old T?