T eating while in session

The other one I see has offered me things to drink. I decline. Seriously, who hands me hot projectiles?
I had the first one I saw, 25 or so years ago, ask one time if I minded if she ate. She was diabetic and had gotten off schedule. It did not bother me because it was only that once and not usual. If it had been a regular thing, I would have minded. And I do remember what she ate. It had an impact of some sort on me.

I am all about being professional in the traditional sense, I guess you could say. My T dresses professionally (always business to business casual in dress...dress pants, dress shoes...dressy top--not full suit). I am always going to see her after work. So, I am almost always dressed business as well. I am convinced that neither she nor any of the Ts in her group would ever eat a meal in front of a client. I kinda have this feeling that it is a rule there. Now, my T will drink, but that is fine. I drink at my desk at work all day too. She will have water, or coffee, or tea, or soda. Sometimes I bring in water, coffee or soda too. I mean, we are both talking the entire time. One gets thirsty/needs to wet the palette. I once gave her a baked item, and she tried it in front of me, I think to show me that she appreciated it. She offered me some at the time too. She once offered me a mint when she had one, and I took it and ate it. This is the extent of her eating.

So, anyway, I would say something. I think that Ts should set aside time for themselves to eat. My T gives herself a lunch hour. I have seen her a number of times during my lunch hour (either an 11, 12, or 1 appointment), and she has never eaten during that time (neither have I). I also usually see her during dinner time (5 or 6). Again, she never eats during that time. I would (personally) find it distracting and rude, as I am paying for her time and undivided attention. This is my personal opinion of course. So, if someone is fine with it, then that is his or her decision. However, since you are not, I would politely say something about it. Your T should be respectfull/receptive. Good luck with that!

I know my T sets aside a lunch hour for himself. However, I also know that he uses it on occasion to meet with clients on an emergency basis, and sometimes he uses part of it to make calls, or say, email me. So if he ever wanted to eat during a session with me, I would be okay with it. However, I agree if it becomes habitual then there's a real problem.

Mine has a lunch hour at noon. I know this because I have had a 1:00 appointment and he's told me that it's the dangerous appointment time where he's most likely to fall asleep.

Just caught up on this thread...

My T encourages us to focus on "process" rather than "content"....so if you put the topic of discussion aside and focus on how we feel towards and perceive about others, I wonder what would come of it...

That makes me think about how his digestion is going versus what he is actually eating, and I KNOW that is not what you meant...

LOL....Yikes. Vivid image of bowel movements...ack!

I would probably want to club any therapist who said that to me.
And then I would focus on the process of how to club them.

I have found that it leads to really important and worthwhile discoveries, especially when people are open to receiving feedback and are willing to share their honest reactions.

I know - different approaches for different people. I am glad it helps you. I would not react well to it. I did give an honest reaction to my thinking about how I would react to the one I see saying that to me.