Loordy, Lourdy the COUCH is 40....

No, I'm quite sure I should quit. But I'd like to know why!

Because you are stubborn my dear.

Aha!

I don't know how to say this without sounding critical...
Why don't you use the quote option?

sorry...lazy i guess.

It's like dusting. All you can do is move the dust from one place to another.

What is needed is a vacuum cleaner that takes the snow away.

But I'm no stubborner now than when I started!

it's called a hair dryer...

That was churlish of me. You do use the quote feature sometimes. I apologise.

Yes but you have changed as your stubbornness is being tested by T , by fighting with her stubbornness. Try not to win... and accept the loss.

Can't get to the faucet... it's under 3 feet of snow

I think they have those in Denver... they dump the snow in this huge machine that melts it.


ETA: Now I want one of these melters for my yard!

Dinner is ready twice baked potatoes with garlic chicken and spinach.

Yum spinach!

Ohhhh.. that sounds so yummy!!

It was yummy!

I am not certain this is a good plan for some clients. It can depend on how the therapist approaches things as to whether the client reacts receptively or not to the information. I have said this before, but the second one I see can say a good number of harder things and I will consider them. With the first, I end up in a battle until I win on some level. So I do believe it is possible to find one with whom the interaction is not a fight. I don't believe not winning in therapy for the client is a virtue. I believe it is a better virtue if the therapist can keep it from becoming a fight in the first place.

Lola - your dinner sounds yummy.

They streets here are all down to bare pavement, so I am going to soup supper at church. No dishes for me tonight

That's it CE get a second T, its settled ... One to spar and one to listen too

So over junior pdocs who refuse to ring my T and discuss things that T has referred me to them for. Hey Doc! I can't read my T's mind. So stop asking me what he thinks.

That's what she wants, no doubt. But if I give up my power, what do I get in return?

That's a lot of snow.

You need a tap higher up the wall!

Yeah! What SD said!

You get the ability to surrender and be vunerable without feeling defeated.

A client need not surrender. The therapist need not try to get a defeat. Progress may be had in vulnerability(if that is what the client wants) without it. In my opinion.
Again, I use myself as an example. I am not the most submissive, non confrontational client ever. And the second one I see is not a marshmallow. And although we may agree more or agree less with each other, I have never felt like she was trying to get me to submit or surrender anything. She steps aside so it is more a struggle with myself. The first one injects herself into the struggle.

We will agree to disagree SD....

Okay. I admit being confused as to why you advocate surrender.