How does the T relationship change with time?

CantExplain · Mar 03, 2013, 11:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Butterflies Are Free

Great question! My relationship has shifted and grown, just as I keep growing. I have been working with my T for over 10 years. The attachment is stronger but I feel less dependent and I no longer try to "hide" anything. I now see both of us as equals even though she could be my mother(age wise), yet I still feel comfortable with the fact that she is the therapist. We are collaborating together on my recovery - I used to think that she had all the "power" but I know better now, lol. I see her as a wonderful human being(just like all of us) and have been able to take her off of the "throne". She makes mistakes, just like me and we repair any rupture and move on. I love her more and have more respect for her while still forging ahead with my life "outside" of therapy. I feel more comfortable being myself in sessions and am willing to challenge my T at times. I feared that I would "lose" my connection to her if I "grew" up, but the exact opposite has happened. I am able to get more of my needs met by staying in my adult self with her and she hasn't gone anywhere. Sorry for the long answer but I thought you started a great thread!

That sounds wonderful!

Voltin · Mar 04, 2013, 12:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Patoman04

What do you think made her say that? Did you feel ready???

She didn't want to work with me any more, is what I thought . I wondered if I was to not doing this therapy thing right . I don't recall some days of sessions well , crying a lot and med changes in the beginning .Once I told my family she dumped me , they told me that when I would come back from sessions I always seemed worse . I talked about things with them . I felt dumped. I know that day she ended the therapy I felt I couldn't get out of there fast enough and I avoid seeing her when I visit my doctor. Last thing I remember her saying to me following me down the hall, was that I needed to get out around people or I would be right back there. Depression and a hyper-sexual episode is why I went to see the doctor. That was over 2 years ago. I've thought about seeing a therapist again recently , a reason I'm interested in this thread.