Do you trust your T?

100% trust. I think the first and second choices should be one, because even though I trust her 100% I still know she does the very best she can and she's said she will fail me at times, not intentionally, of course. They are human beings like the rest of us and are inevitably going to fail or hurt us in some way, but that's when I talk with her about it instead and not let brew and all is well.

Not as much as I used to.

She's a good person and I did until recently. I previously trusted that she was the best person to help me and that she'd always do the right thing by me if she could. I trusted that she'd never do anything to hurt me (beyond the little things that I overreacted to).

I still selected that I trust her to do her best, but know she will fail at times. The problem is that the ways that she's failed have hurt me in such a big way. I don't really feel okay in the world anymore because of the numerous things that have happened in my sessions since last November. I'm trying to work back to where we were before, because I don't want it to go down like this. I'm not sure though, her best effort might not be good enough to fix this. My best doesn't seem to be enough either. I don't know where that person I trusted has gone, but she really doesn't seem to be around anymore. So many miscommunications and misunderstandings. I miss having one person I could really rely on. Trust is important to me.

it's good to know that you like your T

this is probably a stupid question, but what does trust look like exactly?

My ex always told me I don't trust him, and my therapist has told me that I haven't gotten to a place where I trust her. But with my ex it wasnt like i was thinking he was out there cheating, i never accused him of lying or anything--so I thought I did trust him and with T i figure I wouldn't still be going to see her if i didn't trust her...it's been 3 years...

no one told me what I was doing to make them think that. Maybe it was something I was saying, or not saying...something, but i don't know what it was.

I don't know how to answer this poll. I don't know what trust looks like, which is probably pathetic oh well.

It's taken me a long time, but after 6 years of 3 times a week appointments, I can say I do trust my T completely. I've told her all the crap I've experienced, a little piece at a time, and she's accepted me completely. Interesting that she's also the only T I've ever had confrontations and disagreements with...which I think it's what's actually deepened my trust in her. I never thought I'd trust anyone, but with her I feel safe letting my wall down.

I trust my T completely. For me, that means a few different things. First, I trust her to fulfill all of her "T" functions (show up at X time, provide a safe space, keep confidentiality, keep my best interests in mind, maintain professional ethics, etc). Second, when she makes a promise to me, I take her at her word. For instance, when I had surgery recently, she said that she would text me the following day to check on me. While a lot of people in my life (dad, friends, co-workers) might make the same promise and accidentally forget, I know that my T will follow through. If she says she will do something, by golly, she does it! EVERY TIME. In fact, her consistency still surprises me because she's the only person I know who is THAT consistent. It's like: "The only thing you can count on in life are death, taxes... and T!" Third, I trust my T to be honest with me. If I ask her if I'm making a wise decision, if I'm being fair to a friend, or if my *** looks big in those jeans-- I know I'm going to get the truth. (Luckily, my *** didn't look big in those jeans!) Not only do I trust my T's authenticity, but I also trust her judgment. I don't substitute her opinion for my own, but I do consider her someone who I can go to for a well-reasoned and unbiased opinion. That in itself is incredibly valuable. Fourth, I trust that T is always on my side and always has my back. I truly believe that she likes me, supports me, wants the best for me, and is one of my biggest cheerleaders. Granted, part of the reason she's able to do that is because of the nature of the T relationship-- she doesn't have a relationship with the other people in my life, so she is free to support me. But, even when I've brought other people in my life to session with me, she's always had my back. She's been fair and respectful to them-- and helped us work out the issue at hand-- but she's always made me feel like she's there for ME. And, when someone in my life has hurt me, she's said things like "I'm angry on your behalf! It upsets me that this happened to you. You deserve better." I really feel it when she says those things. Finally, I trust T with my personal bubble. What I mean by that I have a very BIG personal bubble and I don't let many people inside. I don't let most people touch me, sit close to me, etc. It usually feels unsafe and gross. But, with T, I feel differently. I WANT her to hug me, sit next to me, comfort me when I'm sad, etc. For me, that takes a lot more trust than sharing my story with her. It's not that hard for me to share my story or open up verbally; it's much harder for me to let someone into my touch bubble. It took T about a year to get there. And it didn't come about by her wanting in; I decided that I wanted her in. Prior to starting with my T, I had been hurt and had my trust broken by a lot of people. Through working with T and learning, through her, that there are people out there who are worthy of trust, has helped me a lot in my RL. It's showed me that it can be safe if I trust the right people.

My t and i have been through hell and back with each other. I trust her with anything, and i do mean anything.