T pushing something I do not want/don't think is a problem

You know there is a problem with drinking when you are anxious and that you binge drink. I do not think it's weird that your T points it out and wants you to stop drinking. She wants you to realize that you are not productively engaged by drinking...in the way you drink now. She sees the situation as an outsider and wants to help you. whether it is the right way.....i dont know?
What I do know is that drinking for the reasons you do, not go along with therapy. Because you just have to learn other ways to deal with your anxiety, there is therapy for. To learn new coping mechanisms.

I understand your resistance very well...I've had the same situation with my T she wanted me to quit drinking......and she was pushing me, sometimes it went too far and then she would say something that was not appropriate (drinking buddies) But we talked about it and then she admitted that she should not have said certain things. But she said it out of frustration, and she apologized for it.
I then decided to try it, stop drinking to see if things changed....and it did. It's not that I never drink but i do not drink for the wrong reasons anymore. and it helped me to make good progress in therapy.
Try it, stop for a while .... then you experience it yourself. And you can see if it really is not a problem, that you can without alcohol. Later you can always decide to drink.

Liefs,
Bloem

I'm saying this with much love and concern for you, but once an addict, always an addict. Please think about your drinking...it could really just be another type of "pill".

I can't help thinking that, if your drinking wasn't any kind of a problem, your T wouldn't have rattled you so much.

I kind of think your T can't win, because if she didn't mention it you could accuse her of ignoring something that's harming you, so she's damned if she does and damned if she doesn't...

Sorry to be a bit blunt.

Thank you for the thoughtful responses.

I do feel bad for emailing my T a rather angry email about what she said about my co-worker and I. Even though she was wrong (and this is partly because she was confusing my co-worker with another woman I work with), I felt like I was pretty harsh with her, and her reply was almost immediate and very apologetic. So part of me feels badly for being so harsh with her.

I guess according to the people on this forum I have a drinking problem. The thing is, is that you can tell me over and over again that I have a drinking problem (which my T has been doing), but if I don't think I have a drinking problem, if I don't actually feel that I do, then I am not going to want to do anything to change it. I was able to overcome my ED and my pill problem because I genuinely felt they were problematic and really wanted to stop them. I don't feel this way about my drinking. I do acknowledge that there very well may come a time in the future that I think to myself, "This has to stop," but right now I completely don't feel that way. It was the same thing when I was addicted to Vyvanse. If someone had told me when I first started taking them that I should stop and I had a problem, I would not have listened. It took me recognizing that I had a problem and that it was interfering with my life to want to stop.

I guess what I am going to do is try and not drink until I see my T on Tuesday and take my Zoloft, because I feel bad about being angry with her. But that's the thing. There have been times when I have gone out with friends and haven't drank, but the only reason I did it was because of T. It wasn't because I wanted to do it for myself, and so I never continued not drinking.

I guess my worry is that T will continue to devote large amounts of time to this when I want to be talking about something else that is important to me. And not because I want to avoid the topic, but because I have other things I want to tell her (I only see her 45 mins/week, so devoting 20 of those precious minutes to her talking to me about my drinking is time wasted for me.)

Also, talking about terminating with my T is really upsetting to me. I have finally reached the point in our relationship where I can actually let myself believe that she is not going to leave (and it took a while for that to happen), so when people say she should not see me anymore or I should find another T is really really upsetting for me because I have worked really hard to let myself believe that she is not going anywhere.

I'm glad she apologized and you need to talk about the fact that you do not want to discuss you're drinking habits right now. you may agree to cut it down to just the weekend. my therapist has been trying how to get me to take certain medicine for the past 2 years. every time she brings it up I'll explain why I refuse to take that medication. After 2 years I have finally decided to possibly take it.I think you really need to tell her what you think is more important to work on then what she feels is.it sounds like she group drinking in the same category as eating disorders and pill issues. that means this is completely under the relationship of the things you wanted to work on.

Why don't you think your drinking is a problem?

Because I just don't. I can't explain it, but I don't. I guess part of the reason is that a lot of my drinking is social, just used as a way to unwind and hang out with friends. Also, most of my friends/co-workers/girlfriend drinks as much, if not more than me. It's also not something I do everyday, so I don't feel like I'm dependent on it.

And, I've been drinking since I was 18 and in college, and I'm doing pretty well (working full-time at a demanding job and also going to school), so I don't feel like it's impacting me in a negative way.

At one point in my life I also could have posted all of these things. I have a drinking problem. I come from a long line of binge-drinking alcoholics. I have no "social drinking" setting. Social drinking is stopping after one or two drinks. I either drink ALL the drinks I can cram in or I drink nothing. So I drink nothing. It took me a long LONG time to realize I had a problem. I'm glad I figured it out.

I get why you don't think it is a problem for you. I've been there. I'm glad your T has you thinking about it. I'm sure that's part of her plan.

Well, one way that your drinking may be impacting your life is that it is drastically increasing your risk of breast cancer (if you are a woman).