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Old May 23, 2013, 12:42 AM
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Old May 23, 2013, 05:09 PM
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Old May 23, 2013, 10:48 PM
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Old May 23, 2013, 11:03 PM
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Old May 24, 2013, 03:24 AM
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Sorry guys I wrote something because I got annoyed and then changed my mind. I think I connected with my anger
I just discovered that I was on two people's ignore list. I have never had any contact with them and got annoyed
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Old May 24, 2013, 04:59 AM
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I didn't even know it could be checked (well,I don't even know how to ignore so)- could be for several reasons, nothing personal.
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Old May 24, 2013, 07:38 AM
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See when you go to respond to their thread it tells you that you can't cos you are on their ignore list
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Old May 24, 2013, 09:42 AM
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That happened to me and I was surprised because I had no idea I upset this person! I wanted to post in a thread they started and found out that I couldn't!

The way I look at is that we shouldn't take it personally if someone has us on ignore. For whatever reason, they get triggered by us, and they are protecting themselves. They are taking care of themselves. I learned from that to take better care of MY self on the forum. In RL, not everyone likes us. It's the same here. It's just the way life is. Most people do NOT ignore you.
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Old May 24, 2013, 09:57 AM
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Old May 24, 2013, 09:58 AM
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MLS,

I think that getting to the place where being "ignored" feels okay to you, because it is about the person and s/he may have various motivations for "ignoring" that may not be about liking or not liking you.

I have more than a dozen people on ignore (and not you) and for different reasons. Many of them are infrequent posters who like to stir the pot, and it protects me from myself trying to reply. Some of them are people who have sent me nasty PM's, and the "ignore" feature prevents these people from PMing as well, so I don't have to worry that they will continue to PM-- as one person did-- even after I straightforwardly said "don't PM me again." Then there is a person or two who I can't seem to have a productive interaction with, so again I protect me from myself attempting to try. Aside from the nastyness, my "ignore" people are just fine folks who I just can't make a connection with and it doesn't feel good to even try. I don't see "ignore" as a punishment for "bad" people, I see it as an opportunity for myself to step away from conversations that go nowhere and are frustrating for me.

I'm sure there are people that have me on "ignore", maybe more than I have on my list. I don't see this as a personal failure of mine, and you shouldn't either.
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Old May 24, 2013, 10:13 AM
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I like your answer, Anne. You said it better than I did. Thanks.
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Old May 24, 2013, 06:25 PM
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That happened to me and I was surprised because I had no idea I upset this person! I wanted to post in a thread they started and found out that I couldn't!

The way I look at is that we shouldn't take it personally if someone has us on ignore. For whatever reason, they get triggered by us, and they are protecting themselves. They are taking care of themselves. I learned from that to take better care of MY self on the forum. In RL, not everyone likes us. It's the same here. It's just the way life is. Most people do NOT ignore you.
Thanks Rainbow,
I try not to let it bother me as I know its not my fault. I cant help anyone else's feelings but it does get to me more than it should. It must be nice to get to a place where you can accept that it is their issue and not yours. And that is a nice positive way to look at it, that they are looking after themselves
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MLS,

I think that getting to the place where being "ignored" feels okay to you, because it is about the person and s/he may have various motivations for "ignoring" that may not be about liking or not liking you.

I have more than a dozen people on ignore (and not you) and for different reasons. Many of them are infrequent posters who like to stir the pot, and it protects me from myself trying to reply. Some of them are people who have sent me nasty PM's, and the "ignore" feature prevents these people from PMing as well, so I don't have to worry that they will continue to PM-- as one person did-- even after I straightforwardly said "don't PM me again." Then there is a person or two who I can't seem to have a productive interaction with, so again I protect me from myself attempting to try. Aside from the nastyness, my "ignore" people are just fine folks who I just can't make a connection with and it doesn't feel good to even try. I don't see "ignore" as a punishment for "bad" people, I see it as an opportunity for myself to step away from conversations that go nowhere and are frustrating for me.

I'm sure there are people that have me on "ignore", maybe more than I have on my list. I don't see this as a personal failure of mine, and you shouldn't either.
Thank you Anne
That was a very good post and really stirred something in me. I am sorry you have had problems with nasty Pms before, usually when you post a thread there is a lot of insight and you genuinely try and help people and tsake the time to read there posts. I think what I forget is that there are so many different types of people on here and that we are all at different stages of our therapy and acceptance of ourselves and others.
I let it get to me if someone does not like me even though I know I have no control over other peoples feelings and it is an area I have a lot of work to do for my t training too, as I will be heartbroken when clients leave or they don't like me.
Thank you again for letting me vent
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Old May 24, 2013, 10:10 PM
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I don't like censorship so I don't like "ignoring" anyone, even those who seem combative and unhelpful. I really want to know the PC landscape even when it is ugly. Even when people go all the way to the therapy boards to disrespect us crybaby people who actually like our therapists and the therapy process. I like hankster's battle cry- "bring it on"

I just wanted to show my support --I've never seen a post of yours that is offensive. Maybe a topic was triggering for someone?
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Old May 25, 2013, 04:03 PM
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I don't like censorship so I don't like "ignoring" anyone, even those who seem combative and unhelpful. I really want to know the PC landscape even when it is ugly. Even when people go all the way to the therapy boards to disrespect us crybaby people who actually like our therapists and the therapy process. I like hankster's battle cry- "bring it on"

I just wanted to show my support --I've never seen a post of yours that is offensive. Maybe a topic was triggering for someone?
I dont like ignoring anyone either, I am trying to accept people not ignore them.
Thank you Growlycat, your support means a lot
Maybe a topic was triggering but could you just not read the thread, i don't see the need to ignore someone unless they have been aggressive or nasty but that is just me.
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Old May 25, 2013, 07:32 PM
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Old May 25, 2013, 09:08 PM
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I've noticed in the past, some people who were in a sensitive place would go overboard and block people. It may be just part of their illness and have little to do with you personally.
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