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#1
May 22, 2013, 11:36 PM
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Hey!
So I discharged today  I guess I should be happy but I'm not. For those of u who have been following my therapist issues, u are up to date. For those of u who haven't, basically I've been really close to my therpist, I went to residential, and now I'm completely cut off. I've been crying a lot and it just hurts. I guess the relationship was unhealthy but my emotions aren't logical. Now I guess I'm back and struggling.
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#2
May 22, 2013, 11:53 PM
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#3
May 23, 2013, 12:48 AM
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Hey welcome back miswimmy
So glad you are out again. You didnt think your relationship with your t was unhealthy before you went to out patient? Your t sounded great actually. Will you go back and see her? |
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#4
May 23, 2013, 02:45 AM
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welcome back! please, take your time. It's been an extremely stressful experience.. what made you change your mind about your T? hugs!
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#5
May 23, 2013, 06:05 AM
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it's good to have you back Miswimmy! Missed you around here
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#6
May 23, 2013, 07:25 AM
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Very glad to have you back.
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#7
May 23, 2013, 11:02 AM
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I can't see her anymore!!!!!!!!!
 it's not my choice.
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#8
May 23, 2013, 11:35 AM
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Why can't you see her anymore???
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#9
May 23, 2013, 11:38 AM
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Oh no
I think I must have missed something, I'm sorry the last I read, you talked to your doctor at the centre (and he was the medical director of the whole centre?) and I thought things were starting to seem more positive with regards to continuing to work with her again...what happened after that? If you don't feel like answering, you don't have to though! And I'm only a PM away
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#10
May 23, 2013, 12:51 PM
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I went to rehab to fix my family relationships and now this is ruining everything. He promised that if it was real deal breaker for me not to see her, he wouldn't reccommend it to my parents. but he did anyway. I dont understand. therapists shouldn't make promises and they shouldn't break them. I dont' get it. I am so confused. and angry. and I feel so so alone.
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#11
May 23, 2013, 01:19 PM
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I think you are owed an explanation about why this decision has been made. And why you are not being consulted on your own therapy and needs. Have you asked what changed since that phone-call between the pdoc and your therapist?
Can you get in touch with your old therapist anyway? Not for treatment but maybe just a chat?
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#12
May 23, 2013, 01:32 PM
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i have tried. she wont reply.
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#13
May 23, 2013, 01:41 PM
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Then your next port of call is finding out what happened in that phone call and what their reasoning is for this?
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May 23, 2013, 01:44 PM
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i guess. but how? ive asked her and she wont answer. she just says that i dont understand now but i will when i grow up.
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May 23, 2013, 01:45 PM
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Ask your new therapist since he apparently has the scoop. Sounds like a place to start.
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May 23, 2013, 02:02 PM
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Well that is patronising. And no, you won't understand it if no one tries to explain it. I agree with the suggestion of asking this new CBT therapist.
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May 23, 2013, 06:00 PM
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 Really pissed for you Miswimmy. So pissed. You should have been a part of the decision and at least allowed time for termination.
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May 23, 2013, 06:20 PM
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It was definitely not professional (or trust building) for the director to make that promise to you and then break it. If he could not guarantee you that you would be allowed to continue with your previous T, he should have said so up front.
It also seems irresponsible for them not to allow you a termination session, even if it meant the director or your new CBT therapist overseeing that termination session. The director and/or your new T should also be open with you and disclose the reason for requiring that you terminate with your old T. They can't expect you to understand if they don't explain it to you! |
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#19
May 23, 2013, 06:47 PM
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I think it is ignorance and neglect on the part of the therapists at the center that your thoughts and feelings weren't considered in this decision. I think it sucks that they decided for you, especially if your parents were in on the decision -- they are why you are there in the first place!!! It sucks that you didn't have time to process the termination, you have a right to be angry and I know you are in a lot of pain. Sending you tons of hugs!
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#20
May 23, 2013, 06:54 PM
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miswimmy I'm sorry for what happened - you're right, therapists shouldn't make promises, particularly if they don't intend to keep them. He shouldn't have said that to you if he didn't really mean it. If you can't talk to your old T, I agree with what others are suggesting - ask your new T about it. At your age, they should be treating you like the young adult that you are and that includes talking about reasons for changes in your treatment plan. And if your new T won't give you an explanation, are you still in contact with your treatment team from the centre? Can you talk directly to the doctor that promised you he wouldn't recommend this if it was a real deal breaker? I know you feel really upset by this and very alone, but don't forget that you've got everyone on PC here for you, including me
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May 23, 2013, 07:35 PM
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I am really sorry misswimmy.
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