[Littlemeinside]

I don´t need a lecture about drinking ( I am not my usual self)

Think I just need some support right now. Yesterday I wrote to my T- in a text (!) about some tramatic events, I havn´t been able to talk about. These events explains why I don´t get fully healed- probably good info for him to have helped me, too. To make matters worse, prior to that I wrote I didn´t want another appointment and wrote he didn´t have to respond. Now that´s completely mental! I am not a very open person, so WTF, do I choose to do it in a text- arrrgh! I even hate texts.

I was in the exact same situation a while back. I was trying to communicate to my T that I needed him to listen, really LISTEN to me I had something to say but I didn't know how to say it. This was my way of trying to get his attention as I was in so much pain.
This is just my explanation for what I did. Because I never know how to ask for help properly I was doing it the only way I knew how by not asking.

[stopdog]

It will be okay. You can call the therapist and ask for another appointment if you want. It happens to them all the time. The therapist can handle it.

[HealingTimes]

I agree with stopdog, therapists can handle this, they are trained to do so. I have done some pretty stupid things in therapy too, telling my T that she is useless at her job, crap at empathising, that i don't want anymore sessions with her because (when i actually have been desperate for an extra session)...they are used to it i think.
Call, or text, and ask for a session.

[tinyrabbit]

I think this is a good thing as your T will be in a much better position to help you.

[WikidPissah]

he can handle it...no worries. Just text or call and ask for a session. SD is right, t's are used to dealing with this stuff.

[Anne2.0]

It's possible that your T might interpret your "I don't want another appointment text" that you actually don't want another appointment, and believe that you are not expecting a response.

Assuming you do want to go back, it would be good to call the office and either confirm your next appointment or make another one.

[Littlemeinside]

Thanks all. I am sooo embaressed. Next time, I will just write on the " Dear T thread". Who ever started that, was a clever person If anyone else did something this stupid and lived to tell, I would love to hear about it. I consider myself an adult. Not really sure about that anymore, after this one I know T´s are used to certain stuff. This one was just " too much" AND in a text.

[Littlemeinside]

If you said you didn´t want a new appointment. Then wrote about a serious traumatic event in a text and wrote, to the T " don´t write back"...would your T do it anyways? Just to make sure you were okey?

[HealingTimes]

My T would respect my wishes and not text back, she would say that this is so that i don't feel pressured.

Maybe you are wanting your T to care about you, but feel unable to express that?

[Littlemeinside]

Originally Posted by HealingTimes

My T would respect my wishes and not text back, she would say that this is so that i don't feel pressured.

Maybe you are wanting your T to care about you, but feel unable to express that?

Sure I want T to care. Just feel this may be an of putting way of doing it And fear he will get angry, as I wrote something quite important to the therapy, and my issues wich could have helped me if I had talked about it.
Havn´t told any T about it, so fear I may have meesed up, my own treatment for years.

Littleme, it took me two years into my current therapy to tell my T something really fundamental to any chance I have to heal (I think). It was another half a year to actually discuss it. I never told my previous T about it at all. Apparently didn't even hint enough at it that he had any clue. I think T's understand how difficult some things are to discuss, and how some memories or experiences get shoved so far away or down or whatever, that it's almost impossible to discuss them in our "unaltered" state and sometimes it takes lowered inhibitions to get the information out there. I did it by writing a story in the third person - as if it were happening to someone else. You did it with a drunk text. The point is, the information is finally out there and you can start dealing with it. In the long run, this is a good thing, I think. Hang in there.

No one dies of embarrassment, by the way. I was almost positive that I would several times, having to go back and face T after telling him agonizingly difficult things. I went, and it seems to be working out. I think I am much healthier than I used to be.

[Littlemeinside]

Originally Posted by My kids are cool

Littleme, it took me two years into my current therapy to tell my T something really fundamental to any chance I have to heal (I think). It was another half a year to actually discuss it. I never told my previous T about it at all. Apparently didn't even hint enough at it that he had any clue. I think T's understand how difficult some things are to discuss, and how some memories or experiences get shoved so far away or down or whatever, that it's almost impossible to discuss them in our "unaltered" state and sometimes it takes lowered inhibitions to get the information out there. I did it by writing a story in the third person - as if it were happening to someone else. You did it with a drunk text. The point is, the information is finally out there and you can start dealing with it. In the long run, this is a good thing, I think. Hang in there.

No one dies of embarrassment, by the way. I was almost positive that I would several times, having to go back and face T after telling him agonizingly difficult things. I went, and it seems to be working out. I think I am much healthier than I used to be.

Thanks. I needed to hear something like that. ( Also that no one dies of embarrassment) Needed to be reminded of that Great that you feel healthier. I like the way, without knowing the details, of how you got the information out there, by writing a story in third person. Wouldn´t have crossed my mind.