[jkbob]

So i have all of my posts from the past week (minus the pointless ones) unedited and ready to give T. I am literally sick, shaking and just plain freaking out. 19 min until my appt I need some calming words please.

[stopdog]

There there. Therapists like this sort of thing. It makes them feel like they are doing something.

[Anne2.0]

If you're not ready to give it to T, you don't have to. Just because you're holding it in your hand doesn't mean that you can't give it to the goat for breakfast, the one that hangs out in your T's lobby and eats all the stuff clients want to ditch before they go in for session.

What, your T's lobby or waiting room doesn't have a goat? You can just hang onto it. Your choice.

I have found that it is impossible to freak out after I've taken three deep, yoga breaths-- you know, breathe in through your nose with the tip of your tongue on the top of your mouth, hold for three, exhale out your mouth for three.

[jkbob]

Originally Posted by stopdog

There there. Therapists like this sort of thing. It makes them feel like they are doing something.

Lol I'm sure they do. And its all at our expense.

[unaluna]

T is not your mother. That's my big insight!

[jkbob]

I brought T flowers today too. Ive never done anything like that before.

[jkbob]

Originally Posted by hankster

T is not your mother. That's my big insight!

That IS helpful.

[stopdog]

Seriously, this sort of thing is a much bigger deal to the client than to the therapist.
You don't need to buy them stuff to get them to do their job.
It will be okay. All in a days work to them.

[jkbob]

Originally Posted by stopdog

Seriously, this sort of thing is a much bigger deal to the client than to the therapist.
You don't need to buy them stuff to get them to do their job.
It will be okay. All in a days work to them.

I know i don't need to buy her stuff! I like her and appreciate her and want to show her that. That is why I did it.

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by jkbob

I brought T flowers today too. Ive never done anything like that before.

Oh, that's gonna need analysing!! What does that MEAN??!! It's all good, though. Honest. You're taking action. That's always good.

[jkbob]

Time to go in...

[winter4me]

Let us know how it goes. It isn't easy to share these things. But, I know there are times I can only write. Years ago now, I sat with one therapist in near silence for many sessions, or yammered on without being able to piece things together or listen; after the sessions I would sit in my car and write, and write at home. He was reluctant when I said I wanted to bring my writing. But he agreed; poor guy, six months of stuff. But it got things going and altered the therapy course, he came in the next time saying "I had NO idea!!!" He had no idea what I knew and didn't know, what I was thinking, that I was even thinking, or what I had been experiencing there. After that he wanted the writing. It was a new thing for him; he was pretty old fashioned and initially thought writing was a dilution, a diversion from the work...
too bad I got it all back from him in the end and destroyed it. what i do.

[pbutton]

Let us know how it goes!

[jkbob]

I survived

I spent about 10 minutes second guessing myself before I gave it to her. She said she likes it when I write stuff down and give it to her. (Probably because I don't give her much information otherwise.) She said she liked me and wouldn't have/keep a client if she didn't like them.

Still not sure how I felt about giving her all that info but at least she recognizes that it was hard for me and sort of understands that it's hard for me to trust.

[jkbob]

Oh, and I told her I wanted to feed it to the goat in the waiting room. She was thoroughly confused until I explained

[granite1]

Originally Posted by Anne2.0

If you're not ready to give it to T, you don't have to. Just because you're holding it in your hand doesn't mean that you can't give it to the goat for breakfast, the one that hangs out in your T's lobby and eats all the stuff clients want to ditch before they go in for session.

What, your T's lobby or waiting room doesn't have a goat? You can just hang onto it. Your choice.

I have found that it is impossible to freak out after I've taken three deep, yoga breaths-- you know, breathe in through your nose with the tip of your tongue on the top of your mouth, hold for three, exhale out your mouth for three.

lol is this what happens to all the letters i intend to give T but seem to never get to her lol

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by jkbob

Oh, and I told her I wanted to feed it to the goat in the waiting room. She was thoroughly confused until I explained

Oh Yeah sometimes you can't kid with ts - cuz they have people who really do see goats in the waiting room.

[Anne2.0]

I was listening to the soundtrack from Wicked when I was writing that last post. I have a lifelong obsession and love of goats, my favorite adults when I was little were family friends who had a goat farm and served us kids coffee with sugar and goat milk (so yummy). I used to hold and bottle feed the babies (about the size of cats when newborn) and otherwise just beg to be able to hang out with the goats.

There's a really sweet scene in Wicked when the (supposedly) evil witch shares her lunch with a persecuted professor at the university (a goat). She unwraps her sandwich and gives him the paper napkin it was wrapped in, which he cheerfully eats.

Oh, hankster, good pun on the "you can't KID with T's" line. Loved it.

[almostthere]

Look and listen!

I've had been in therapy and anti-depressant medication for fourteen years of my life and it didn't work. From my expeirence as it relates to your anxiety about seeing your t u don't feel comfortable. I've been there many times. However, u must understand that the T is there to help u but unfortunately, in many cases, and I've done my research, sometimes it doesn't work. For the simple reason that the T is not in your body feeling the emotions that u may be feeling right now. They treat their patients only on text book knowledge learned in college. It does not take into account the emotions u may feel at the right time. Therefore, this puts the T at an disadvantage in being able to help u. In other words, they understand the words uttered from your mouth about how u feel but they can't really feel the immediate emotions connected with that feeling or emotion. Does that make any sense to u? But do what u must and go to your T with all the confidence he, or she, will be able to help. u.

Good LUCK!!!!





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Originally Posted by jkbob

So i have all of my posts from the past week (minus the pointless ones) unedited and ready to give T. I am literally sick, shaking and just plain freaking out. 19 min until my appt I need some calming words please.

Ohhhhh I love Wicked and the soundtrack Sorry for hijacking but I couldn't resist.

[tinyrabbit]

I'm a Capricorn, so I AM a goat...

Glad your session went well.

[jkbob]

Well enough. I'm a boring aquarian. I wish I had a cool astrology sign like a scorpion

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by tinyrabbit

I'm a Capricorn, so I AM a goat...

Monty Python for every situation:

Brian's mother: What star sign is he?
Wise Man #2: Capricorn.
Brian's mother: Capricorn, eh? What are they like?
Wise Man #2: He is the son of God, our Messiah.
Wise Man #1: King of the Jews.
Brian's mother: And that's Capricorn, is it?
Wise Man #3: No, no, that's just him.
Brian's mother: Oh, I was going to say, otherwise there'd be a lot of them.

(Life of Brian)

[Anne2.0]

Thanks for all the goat references, people. It made my day.

Apologies if you didn't want the hijack, jbob.

[tinyrabbit]

Nothing wrong with Aquarians - I'm married to one!

Loving the Monty Python reference.