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View Poll Results: How frequently do you contact your T outside of a session for help?
Once or more daily 5 8.62%
Once or more daily
5 8.62%
Once or more weekly 14 24.14%
Once or more weekly
14 24.14%
Once or more monthly 15 25.86%
Once or more monthly
15 25.86%
Once or more quartely 12 20.69%
Once or more quartely
12 20.69%
Once or more yearly 11 18.97%
Once or more yearly
11 18.97%
My T has mentioned I contact to frequently 3 5.17%
My T has mentioned I contact to frequently
3 5.17%
My T has mentioned I don't contact enough 9 15.52%
My T has mentioned I don't contact enough
9 15.52%
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Old May 30, 2013, 12:31 PM
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Well since I currently have two Ts ...the one I have had for awhile allows email, so once in awhile I do that. But I just left him a message because I need to know something; I did say he could email me back because I know its easier for him.
The New T I called after our last session when something happened and I desperately needed reassurance. I would say maybe I contact one or the other 2-3 times a month outside of sessions and they seem very open to helping me and quite supportive.
I really don't get how Ts don't see that you might need them outside of that room in your real life, at least once in awhile! It saddens me and confuses me when I read this.

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Old May 30, 2013, 01:30 PM
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I have never rang t, only at the. Beginning to sort out times with her, I do text her occasionally to ask what time if I forgot my appt. I have text her twice to say thank you after really good sessions and I have emailed her once
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Old May 30, 2013, 01:41 PM
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I never contact her.
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Old May 30, 2013, 02:29 PM
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old t I would have daily communication with her... she encouraged it.

new t, ive only ever contacted once. she does not encourage outside contact
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Old May 30, 2013, 03:47 PM
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Eeeekkkk I feel kind of embarrassed to admit that usually more than once a day contact for me. He usually responds to me once a week or so but I do send a lot. He encourages it though. As he said it took us a while to figure out how to work together most effectively and this seems to help a great deal.
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Old Jun 04, 2013, 11:11 PM
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only twice. One because she wanted to know the result of a biopsy I was having (negative), and if I got through surgery ok (because I had to miss therapy for 2 weeks).
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Old Jun 04, 2013, 11:39 PM
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Old Jun 05, 2013, 01:52 AM
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I didn't see an option on the poll that would apply to me. I sometimes email once a week, sometimes twice, and other times there are weeks where I don't email. It just depends on what is going on. She has never commented that it is too often. I worried about that a lot when she first offered email, several years into therapy. But she has reassured me that we will talk about that if it happens. So far, so good
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Old Jun 05, 2013, 05:15 AM
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For me it varies depending on how I am doing. During "good" times I will email updates about once or twice a week. During "bad" times I've been known to email multiple times within the same day.
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Old Jun 05, 2013, 07:35 AM
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I have never ever contacted my T outside therapy in the 3.5 years that I see him, apart from having to cancel a couple of sessions.
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Old Jun 05, 2013, 09:41 AM
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As often as needed. I will go weeks without contact out of session but if I'm going through a rough time, I might text or leave voicemails multiple times in a week.

She continues to reassure me it's o.k to contact her. Email is not an option and rarely do we have telephone conversations but sometimes she'll reply to my texts.

I feel very lucky that I have that resource.

Once, a couple of years ago, she suggested I cut back to twice a week of contacting her. I was going through some intense emotions and we she tried to put up this new boundary I just about 'lost it'. It turned out to be a misunderstanding but it sure rattled me at the time.
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Old Jun 05, 2013, 01:55 PM
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Emailing or texting is not an option, so I have to call him if I need him between sessions. I've done it a few times, but generally only for major things. The last time I did was just before New Year's. He's always reminding me that I can contact him if I need to.

He's even tried to play on my tendency to feel guilty for everything by telling me that contacting him in between session would actually make his job easier, since if I don't, things can balloon out of proportion in my mind before I see him next.

Yeah, no, only if I'm on a ledge. And probably not even then.
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Old Jun 05, 2013, 03:38 PM
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He's even tried to play on my tendency to feel guilty for everything by telling me that contacting him in between session would actually make his job easier, since if I don't, things can balloon out of proportion in my mind before I see him next.

Yeah, no, only if I'm on a ledge. And probably not even then.
Oooh! Mine tried to do this to me with pdoc recently. He was all "It will be easier for you to call and him to do a med change now, then he'll have 3 weeks of additional information at the next appointment."

Yeah, I suppose it would. But I will live until then so I'm NOT CALLING.
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Old Jun 05, 2013, 08:34 PM
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I'm not sure if I am even allowed to contact my T outside of a session, since it is at a college counseling center. I feel like there are different rules. There is no way that I could reach her after hours, and I would never have the guts to send her an email, even though I could easily find out what it is. She has never talked about her policy on these things, and I would be afraid any contact would freak her out.
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Old Jun 06, 2013, 07:13 AM
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My xt would always say "can you email me this afternoon, let me know how your doing after session?" And I would say..."um, no...you'll have to wait until next week and be surprised!" lol. I did contact him via email a few times in 3 yrs...and by text several times as well. (he preferred a text message to a phone message, said it was easier for him)
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Old Jun 07, 2013, 09:43 AM
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I used to contact my t abouty 3 times per week between sessions. Now, I usually contact her 1 time per week. Occasionally, I will contact her twice, or not at all.

She has been wanting me to learn how to get myself through the week without having to email, but she doesn't tell me I can't do it.
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Old Jun 07, 2013, 09:56 AM
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I see my T twice a month and if I need an emergency session in between he usually accommodates me. I haven't needed an emergency session in a while, so things have been pretty good. Other than our sessions I don't contact him at all, unless I really need to
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Old Jun 08, 2013, 06:45 PM
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I actually cannot contact my T at all in between sessions. I see her through my school and no contact is a stupid rule my school set up. I doubt I would contact her even if I could.
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Old Jun 08, 2013, 08:45 PM
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Everyday usually by text or email. T telephones me when I'm down
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Old Jun 09, 2013, 12:31 AM
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I usually will email once a week, after a session to process everything. My T is good about responding but it is almost always short...but it is comforting to get a response,regardless.
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