How frequently do you contact T?

By phone, text, email or snail mail...how often do you contact your T in between session? Does T ever comment that it's too frequent or not frequent enough?

... I am maybe once a quarter, and every t I have had has said I don't contact enough in crisis.

I often send one or two reasonably short emails between sessions. My T is fine with this and will read them before, or at the start of, the session. He doesn't get into therapy by email and will reply briefly or not at all.

I only text him if it's about scheduling, e.g. if I want to ask for an extra session. I don't like phone calls and only call him if I'm in a total crisis. He never answers his phone - and, as he knows I hate phone calls, he'll pick up his voicemail and text in response. I don't know if he'd be okay with talking on the phone as I don't want to.

I have about three times in close to a year and a half. My t would like for me to reach out more.

Once or more weekly..sometimes.
It depends on what we have discussed, how my emotions are, what's going on in my head.
Some weeks i wont contact her at all, some weeks i feel like i am stalking her

On your poll, you ask about T's thinking you contact them too frequently, and contacting them not enough, my my experience is that my T thinks i contact her the right amount.

Every other hour. T said its not enough. I should contact her every 10minutes :0

Usually one or more times weekly between scheduling, asking for an extra check in, or anything else.

There is no option for you would like to contact your T more frequently but your T thinks your a needy loony and placed unnecessary boundaries on contact of any sort.. In the end I voted T says I contact too much.

With the exception of scheduling changes, I've contacted T five times in the year I've seen him, by answerphone message or txt message - I don't have an email address for him, though I know he does use email. T does not acknowledge messages until the next session. I have promised myself never to contact him between sessions again, but who knows if it's possible for me to keep that promise. T has said, when I asked him, that I do not abuse between-session contacts, which means he thinks I don't do it too much. I know that even if he thought I should contact him more often (and it is inconceivable that he would think that) he would not tell me so, it's not his style.

With previous Ts, the thought never struck me that I could contact them between sessions except for cancellations.

I just e-mailed to yesterday about some after thoughts from our session. I looked in my t folder and noticed I haven't sent anything to him in about 6 months. Really, it is about the time in my life.. When my anxiety is high I used to e-mail or call him more. Phone call wide he has called me more than j have called him!! Just scheduling stuff really. Texting is only for emergencies and if I need to talk to him ASAP... So I have never done that.

I've emailed him four times in three years. I call him maybe four or five times a year, with the exception of the time frame in which my father was ill and dying. I called him two times in a week a couple of times, but some of it was about scheduling around doctor's appointments.

Other than scheduling I have mailed something to her once and left a message once. Both being in the past month.

Maybe once or twice a month.

I said once or more quarterly-ish. I only contact him outside of sessions when I really need to, so I may go months without contacting him and then contact him a few times in a week for a week or so if I'm in crisis. I guess that averages out to about once or more quarterly.

I do not contact every month and then sometimes I write once or twice a month.
I call about two or three times a year.

Other than changing appointment times, I've only contacted T three times outside of session in the last 1.5 years: one email and two phone calls. When I was doing very poorly, she did encourage me to contact her when needed. I'm very bad about reaching out to my T, family, and friends when I need help. I'm feeling better about that these days, though. My T quickly caught on that I was not good about reaching out, and when I was very depressed, she called me several times to check on me. She even called once on the general patient line when I was in the hospital and she was on vacation. I'm sure that she had to call several times and hope that a patient would answer...then ask said patient to find me...all while on a family beach trip. This is when I realized that my T was special, that she found her career to be more of a calling than a job, and that she cared about me and had a vested interest in my improvement. I highly doubt she knows how much that meant to me, despite the fact that I thanked her.

Anyway, I say all that to really say that my T has contacted me outside of session more than I have contacted her outside of session...not a ton of times, but she is very intuitive.

I am glad it helped you for the therapist to contact you. It would completely piss me off if the therapist contacted me unbidden, other than to change appointments. I don't want one of them coming after me.

Yeah, Stopdog, I’ve seen you say something of this nature before, in general. I can understand that flipside of having your own strict boundaries as well. I will say that she only contacted me outside of session when I was doing extremely poorly. She never does it now. I think the last two times that she contacted me were after a particularly tough session in August 2012 and after I revealed something very big and painful to me at the end of September or beginning of October 2012. It is my opinion that she picked up on the fact that I would like contact but felt guilty about initiating it. I think she asked me why I didn’t reach out to her once when I was sui, and I told her that I felt guilty contacting her outside of session, on her own time. So, when she knew or could tell that I was really bad off, then she contacted me. Since I have been doing well, she has not contacted me outside of session. I highly doubt that she is a habitual contactor, and I seriously doubt that she does this with many clients or often…probably only those doing very poorly and those who have expressed that they have problems contacting her….

I tend to email T about once a week - usually after a session, and usually just to process that session.

My T has said that I do not contact her enough when in crisis or, preferably, before that point. That's a different kind of contact than my "processing the session" email, though. That's usually me phoning her or texting and asking her to call me.

There wasn't an option for Less than Once a Year, so I chose Once a Year or More. I have contacted my T for help about 3 times in 6 years. Other than that, I email when I need a schedule change, but not to request help.

i think for the most part quartely. but working on it .T does not like it at all

There was no option for this but my choices ...which would have been that You never contact T outside of sessions and your T has said that you can call if you need to.

NEVER.....

2 of my previous ts allowed contact. i did maybe once a month or less. the place im seeing my current t doesnt allow any contact between sessions.

I wish I knew better what my T wanted. Not necessarily what she will allow or not but what she would like me to do. If she doesn't want to be contacted between sessions then I won't do it. If she does, then I won't feel bad when I do leave messages. (Maybe, I don't want to seem needy )