swearing

Pfrog doesn't usually use offensive language, but when she does, she can hold her ground with the best of 'em.



Keep It Colorful, My Pfriends ...

Mine allows and encourages me to say anything as long as I don't drop the F-bomb: Fine.

Personally I'd respond by asking her why she felt the need to make an issue of it and what she thought that stemmed from.

Phreak

I would be pretty annoyed if my T or Pdoc or anyone corrected me every time I spoke. My T doesn't care that I swear,I do tend to swear like a sailor around friends and family but I tone it down in T. My T has dropped the F-bomb once and I almost crapped my pants,made me feel like she was more real and human. She's also said all the others at least twice. She doesn't encourage it,but she doesn't correct me either.

I feel like as long as you're getting out what you want to say and you're not threatening anyone then it shouldn't be a problem. You're an adult,nobody should try to filter your mouth. You choose to swear,just like others choose not to.

Basically, if I was barred from swearing, I would be completely unable to talk. I swear A LOT in real life and absolutely nonstop in therapy. It bugs me that I get censored if I try to cuss here.

[EDIT] If my therapist ever corrected me for swearing, I'd probably get extremely angry and cuss her out. I'm not a child anymore and I can use whatever language I damn well please. If my language offends you, that's your problem for being painfully oversensitive and not mine. Please note that I'm only talking about swear words and not racial slurs.

I don't understand why a therapist wouldn't want you to swear if that was your style. I don't tend to myself, but I'm not opposed to it. It's just I'm a Buddhist so we take a vow about "right speech." Over time I've just stopped swearing because frankly it was easier to do than to try to figure out if the context was right or wrong for it.

The only thing to do in your situation is have a frank discussion about why she wants to control your speech and how it makes you feel. Perhaps she has a reason that you haven't considered? It's possible. That doesn't mean it's okay, but it would increase understanding at least.