Seeing two therapists

Perfectly understandable why you wouldn't want to double the anxiety. So, you'd just quit one T and begin with another given the scenario I'm describing?

I don't know how to quote, but in answer to your question skyblue, they talk to each other

I don't think that therapy can just be about preserving an attachment. And I think the point is to grieve the loss of T and therapy before the therapy is finished. So I think I would see current T until I had my "happy ending", complete with grief and celebration, and then I would move on to a new T.

Oh, and I guess if someone wants to do therapy just to preserve the attachment, that's okay for them. I just wouldn't spend my money in that way-- I either need therapy or I don't-- but that is my value, I didn't want it to seem like I was making some universal declaration above.

Yes, my first (and current) T thought that I'd benefit from seeing an occupational therapist in particular, so it was her idea. They were both fine about it. They never spoke to one another, although occasionally they thought about it and asked if I'd mind. T2 once told me that she'd initially been afraid to "dive in" with me and I wonder if that was mostly because she didn't want to cover all the same types of things that I'd already talked over. Once we "dived in" she really helped, even though I covered similar things with both T's.

I guess I don't see it as 'preserving an attachment'. The relationship with my T has been investment in time and deep emotions.

My T knows my history and probably knows me better than anyone else. It has taken months to relax in trusting her and believing in her methods/expertise/caring/etc.

It would be very difficult to discard something of such value. And, it's not simply about keeping a relationship with the therapist but about how valuable the relationship is to my growth and healing.

I don't think I'd continue to see a T just because of attachment but the attachment is what has allowed and nurtured my growing emotional strength.

I have a friend, who, when she moved away, traveled 7 hours each way once a month to continue to see her therapist. He KNEW her and her issues intimately. Beginning again with someone new would be like starting from scratch, it would seem

I've done it twice, once where I needed to terminate with my first T, but wasn't done with therapy. A second time, many years after I ended therapy because I thought I was done. It wasn't my experience that it was starting from scratch, it didn't feel like wasted time although there certainly was a getting to know each other period. Both of my new therapists caught on really quickly, but maybe that's because I'm not much of a complicated person. I do remember being surprised how easy it was to just start talking with the new T's when they were new.

I don't think there's anything wrong with trying out the two therapist approach to see if it works. My preference would be to keep things more simple, and I would wind down with one T and get ready to see the next. When I was in this situation, I recall it as fruitful and interesting. The ending with T1, although I was sad to be leaving him, also felt like a kind of fresh start with T2, like I was graduating from elementary to middle school. And T2 was a really awesome therapist for me. I am just monogamous in all kinds of ways.

I have seen two therapists when I was terminating with one and needed to find a new t. I found seeing two very useful they were both very different in their styles and approaches. I continued to see two ts for a couple of months and I have to say it was really helpful for me because I had two sessions a week one with each of them and I never felt so understood and listened to, it was exactly what I needed at the time. Here in Ireland you can only see your t once a week so to have the extra support was amazing and probably saved my life