Couch 53 Bringing it All Back Home

my son was born on farthers day i miss him

Sorry you're missing him.

I wish I had "a day" although I guess my birthdays count... But there are "days" for every thing and that's just default.

Happy Father's Day CE. I'm hanging out, smoking a Boston butt and gonna watch the College World Series in a while. Pretty good day so far. I really enjoyed Postman. Looking forward to Double Indemnity and Mildred Pierce.

Wikid -- trigger warning for discussion of cemeteries and death.



I am thinking about walking up to the cemetery soon where my dad is. I bought him a card. Is that weird? Also, when my dog died (the one that adored my dad and who my dad adored), I had her cremated, and keep planning to put her ashes on dad's grave. I was thinking of doing that today also because it's supposed to rain, so the ashes won't blow around. My H has a trial on Monday, and his client has been blowing him off, so he is meeting with her today. She didn't want to drive in the rain yesterday, so he spends his Father's Day with her instead of with his family. Sigh. I told him she just had to live with the repercussions of her decision not to drive in the rain, but he doesn't want to look stupid or unprepared in front of the judge. I get that, I guess, but it doesn't help his relationship with his daughter when D sees him choosing work and his clients again over spending time with us. She got him these giant Styrofoam planes because one of her favorite memories is when she was littler and he would fly planes with her off the roof of the house. She was looking forward to climbing up on the roof and spending time with him. She even got an extra for her brother to play with them.

I answered on the old couch but then deleted. I have the same book. I never realized Fred MacMurray was such a stud until I saw DI !

I bet you're the first person to wish CE a happy Father's Day this year, given that Yurtland celebrates it in September

I've been reading Jack Vance over the weekend. He's another writer who just passed away - at the age of 96. I'm reading Araminta Station at the moment.

Mapleton and wikid - thanks for your support. I just feel like such an alien, and I know that whatever I write I'm either going to include too much information, or else too little. I do appreciate it when people say they can relate to what I write, and the supportive posts make me feel a little better. The guilt tripping I enjoy less, but I dare say it's what I ask for.

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mkac, no, not weird at all. I went to dad's grave in November, when it's Father's Day here, with a small juniper tree in a pot - it didn't survive winter, of course, but it was something dad would have liked (for weird Swedish reasons which are a bit longwinded to explain). I'm really sorry for your D. I remember flying model airplanes with my dad, too.... and when I was a teenager, he encouraged me to get a glider pilot's licence, and I got to take him up in the air eventually. But I also remember all the times when I was a kid and dad chose work rather than his family.

I love the way juniper smells. We had tons of it on the grounds of my elementary school. I bought a jar of dried juniper berries to use in cooking. I wish I drank, I would drink gin!

Trigger warning for talk of graves and such.



When my mother died last year, she was cremated. We haven't done anything with her ashes yet - they're still in my dad's bedroom. I never thought I would feel this way, but I really wish there was a place I could go to be with her, like a grave or a memorial or something. I think I'm going to look into getting a memorial bench put in her favorite park.

Wow, I hate it when I do that. I sat down to watch some TV and ended up falling asleep. Now my neck is stiff from sleeping sitting up.

I called my dad for father's day. He told me it was just an afterthought because I should have come and visited him. I just saw him on Friday when I worked with him, it's not like he hasn't seen me in a while. *sigh* He always has to have an opinion.

I'm sorry to everyone who is having a hard time today.

You guys are the bomb...thanks for the trigger warnings, I didn't read the posts, but I assume you are all thinking of your deceased fathers. Sorry you are hurting.

The day is going well. My son grilled some salmon for lunch, daughter made a spinach salad with BACON dressing. It reminded me of the pic MKAC posted of the bowl of bacon with a lettuce leaf. Thankfully she put the dressing on the side, as well as the gorgonzola. It was yummy, shallots, pears, fresh baby spinach, salted pecans...mmmm. I threw in an apple tart for desert. Can you believe my mother bought my H a father's day card and gift? So weird. I don't know why she did that. Maybe she hoped she could hang with us this afternoon, but no. NO. lol.

MKAC... my husband choose to work today too... he's working at a pga tournament... but the boys seem satisified that they will see him tonight...

I am going to see my father today... He's 85 so I've got to make peace about the fact that he never has been and never will be the father I need.. before he's not here anymore...

My sister is having us all over for dinner and my kids are excited to tell them (my parents) about stuff so I won't really even need to talk to him much at all... which is a serious relief...

I'm working on that very thing myself. It's so hard. I'm fairly certain that's the source of my transference with T.

Can't get said too often. So many cool, supportive and decent people here.

Have a fabulous Sunday/F.D.

Hey couch peeps....The service and luncheon went well. Some people in my family are heading back to my mom's house and asked if I was going. I told them I'd stop over later. My ex will be picking up our daughter soon to spend a little time with her on Father's Day. Probably not more than an hour, but better than nothing.

I really have no interest in going to my mom's house. I don't feel like being social. I really just want to take a nap.

This thing needs to stay on page one.

Where is everyone?

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My dad is in prison and rightly so..(First year without him here)
He was found guilty back in March of CSA, This is the first fathers day without him and not sending him a card or gift, It feels really weird, I have nothing to do with now.

I know what I said sounds pathetic but after years of having a dad whom I adored and loved, I had no idea what he was like

(((hugs))) to everyone who is missing their fathers today

(((buttercup)))
Not pathetic at all. I am sorry your dad had this dark side to him.

Cool whip

I hate that I feel guilty for not contacting my dad.. It would just be a meaningless gesture if I stopped by or called him, I don't mean it! He has my little sister with him and he adores her, do at least it won't be a total lonely day for him.

Feeling kind of bummed today.

i'm here wiki just keeping quiet

W and D made me a Key Lime Pie for fathers day. My favorite.

How much would you have to drink to get my weight in bottle tops?
The work of a lifetime, I think!

OH...Happy Father's Day Ike....I didn't realize you had a D. That's cool, I love Key Lime Pie.

Hey chickie. Waz up my fellow Masshole?
(Mike's Hard Blood Orange Drinkie Poo)
((yummy))