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Old Jun 16, 2013, 07:20 PM
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I agree mapleton is very, now I've forgotten the word. Like expressive only better. No reflection on CE's succinct reply though. Both were appreciated.
It sucks when good things, like praise or sympathy makes you feel insecure. One of the first therapy conversations I'm going to have, because all T's want to do that.

Thank you, btw.

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Old Jun 16, 2013, 07:24 PM
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Not of course. I thought you all had split up, sold your house and so forth. Why are you still listening to her?
A clean break is almost impossible. It's always, "Do you want those plates?" and "Isn't my car insured in your name?" and so on. So you have to talk to your ex and you have to be civil and you remember how it was and you cry and you wonder if you're doing the right thing.

Like me and Madame T.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 07:26 PM
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Ah. Perhaps I break up differently.
I can conceive of that possibility.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 07:26 PM
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I think SD meant that Lola had actually physically left the house and found other accomodation, right? Thats what i thought.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 07:30 PM
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A clean break is almost impossible. It's always, "Do you want those plates?" and "Isn't my car insured in your name?" and so on. So you have to talk to your ex and you have to be civil and you remember how it was and you cry and you wonder if you're doing the right thing.

Like me and Madame T.
That's it. We are still having "discussions" over photos, cd's, LP's etc. It seems the little things cause much more heartache than the bigger things Even though the bigger things have been discussed ad nauseum from my POV.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 07:45 PM
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Breaking up is so hard, especially when there's unfinished business that needs to be attended to. I know that the day my ex-H packed up and moved out, we hugged and I cried SO hard - even though I was the one telling him the marriage was over.

If only that was the end...

Negotiating the divorce, him coming back for more of his stuff, dealing with the ups and downs - from him breaking into the house in the middle of the night to dealing with his bouts of anger to dealing with his begging and my intense feelings of guilt. UGH. It was SO hard.

I don't envy anyone going through the rollercoaster of emotions involved in a break-up that involves more than just the act of breaking up.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 07:55 PM
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You've just reminded me that he asked me help him price things for the garage sale. A part of me wants to help due to my guilt, but the resentful part of me says "Why should I? In all those years you never helped me organise a garage sale"
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 07:57 PM
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What a long way I come. I can now identify guilt and resentment, 3 years ago I could only identify happy, sad and "there's something wrong"
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 08:19 PM
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Just heard my eldest daughter came 5th in a state school Chess Tournament. I am soooo proud. She was one of 3 girls in the tournnment.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 08:28 PM
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Just had visions of Hankster as the hermit in the Life of Brian.
Now I'm gonna have to watch it. Funny we were just talking about hermits in t. In grade school we thought it would be so cool to be a hermit. We thought people would be lining up to see you, which of course rather defeats the purpose! But yeah definitely a bit of hermit in me.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 08:42 PM
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Hi Lola... I've missed you... been thinking about you. Are you working from home this week? Is W off for the summer? It must be very difficult to be in the same place but not be together...
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 08:49 PM
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RS... Thanks for thinking of me, I'm good. She is teaching summer school but next month she will be home. I'll be glad when this is all over. Thank you all so much.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 08:55 PM
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((Lola)) glad to see you here. Sorry it's still so hard.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 09:16 PM
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I think my H is reading stuff on here. I don't think it makes a difference one way or the other but .... it feels like an invasion of privacy which seems humorous because anyone on the whole internet can read this...
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 09:18 PM
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Well off to the grocery store for stuff for lunches... I'm glad I'm going out so late because hopefully my H will be in bed before I get back.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 09:38 PM
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I think my H is reading stuff on here. I don't think it makes a difference one way or the other but .... it feels like an invasion of privacy which seems humorous because anyone on the whole internet can read this...
I know my oldest daughter reads here... Thought about deleting my account over it... Whatever
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 10:06 PM
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It is kinda ironic that we hope to maintain a level of privacy - yet the whole world could read everything we post here.

I have thought about having my account/posts deleted and starting fresh....
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 10:08 PM
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I got all comfy on my couch and started to doze off when I started getting texts from family. AARGH.

Gonna try to find some comfort and get some sleep.

Goodnight, couch peeps.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 10:12 PM
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Night MUE. Didn't realise it Monday today, on this side of the pond. Thought it was still sunday. Oh well. Shopping can wait.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 10:15 PM
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Ugh, I would not be happy to discover it was Monday when I really thought it was Sunday!

Hope you have a good day, BPA!
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 10:25 PM
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My exams are all finished and I don't have a job yet. All I need to do my shopping and my T homework before Friday.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 10:29 PM
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Now I'm gonna have to watch it. Funny we were just talking about hermits in t. In grade school we thought it would be so cool to be a hermit. We thought people would be lining up to see you, which of course rather defeats the purpose! But yeah definitely a bit of hermit in me.


But you really should watch the whole movie too. It is great.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 11:13 PM
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Creative block finally broken. I had to draw the erotic feelings for my T before I could get to the other aspects of my homework. This is a serious question. I feel I should bring all the drawings to my session but some of them are, not exactly pornographic, but very erotic. I don't think I'd be able to talk to T about them. But he has always said he would like to see the drawings I don't want to show him. I'm afraid I would dissociate too severely during the session to do this. Just some general words of support would do. Thank you all my PC friends. General mutterings of 20 seconds of courage would be appreciated too.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 11:15 PM
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BP - screw your courage to the sticking place and you'll not fail.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 11:17 PM
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BP - screw your courage to the sticking place.
Sorry, having a bit of communication difficulty here(again). I really don't understand what you are alluding to, SD. Would you mind explaining? The sticking place? I understand you're saying to place my courage some where.
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