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Old Jun 16, 2013, 11:19 PM
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It means be firm and resolute.
It is from Macbeth.

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Old Jun 16, 2013, 11:21 PM
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Thanks SD. Haven't read Macbeth since high school. I will endeavour to do so.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 11:24 PM
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Macbeth is getting cold feet in the plans to kill Duncan (I think it is Duncan) and so Lady Macbeth tells him to buck up.
My version of 30 seconds of courage. I tell myself to screw courage to the sticking place all the time (seriously, I do talk like that to myself)
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 11:31 PM
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Creative block finally broken. I had to draw the erotic feelings for my T before I could get to the other aspects of my homework. This is a serious question. I feel I should bring all the drawings to my session but some of them are, not exactly pornographic, but very erotic. I don't think I'd be able to talk to T about them. But he has always said he would like to see the drawings I don't want to show him. I'm afraid I would dissociate too severely during the session to do this. Just some general words of support would do. Thank you all my PC friends. General mutterings of 20 seconds of courage would be appreciated too.
BP. One point I'd like to make:

You've said he wants to see the drawings you don't want to show him. That tells me two things. First, he trusts that you can handle this process, and two, that he must have a concept of what to do.

So.. you have an attraction and an attachment to him, and he trusts you... I'm sure he knows you well enough to understand, or you wouldn't feel so strongly towards him.

Trust that he understands what he's doing. Its just one session. You will get through to the other side.

Best of luck. Everyone here has confidence in you, and even if its really really hard, I know you'll have a ton of support here after.
Thanks for this!
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 11:45 PM
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But you really should watch the whole movie too. It is great.
Thanks, sd! That was great!! I do love me some juniper berries!!
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 11:48 PM
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BP. One point I'd like to make:

You've said he wants to see the drawings you don't want to show him. That tells me two things. First, he trusts that you can handle this process, and two, that he must have a concept of what to do.

So.. you have an attraction and an attachment to him, and he trusts you... I'm sure he knows you well enough to understand, or you wouldn't feel so strongly towards him.

Trust that he understands what he's doing. Its just one session. You will get through to the other side.

Best of luck. Everyone here has confidence in you, and even if its really really hard, I know you'll have a ton of support here after.
Yes, logically I understand that he has an understanding of the process and he's expecting to see and hear certain things. But expressing my feelings is not comfortable for me and I feel terribly embarassed. I am terrified that he'll bring up things that shouldn't be brought up and I'll be devastated and lose all composure and cry. I know that's what I'm in therapy for.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 11:54 PM
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Yes, logically I understand that he has an understanding of the process and he's expecting to see and hear certain things. But expressing my feelings is not comfortable for me and I feel terribly embarassed. I am terrified that he'll bring up things that shouldn't be brought up and I'll be devastated and lose all composure and cry. I know that's what I'm in therapy for.
I understand they aren't comfortable feelings. I'm sorry. I absolutely get it. You'd be shocked how much in fact.

There is nothing at ALL unnatural about your erotic thoughts. No one would exist if it wasn't for erotic thoughts.

They tell performers, if they are really anxious, to imagine their audience naked! Well.. you're one step ahead!

If you lose your composure, he'll have compassion. If you cry, he'll support you with a tissue and a soothing word... I'm sure.

Maybe instead of focusing on your embarrassment, just split some of that thought and maybe think it might be a bit hard for T, as well.

And like I said, you WILL get through this. I'm sure of it. And PC will be here after, too.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 11:59 PM
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My main fear is, what if I can't stop crying? Sometimes these feelings overwhelm me so much I really feel as if I will die. I know logically I can't die from them and my T is always telling me that.
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Old Jun 17, 2013, 12:02 AM
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Old Jun 17, 2013, 12:07 AM
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1. You might cry. That's okay. That's why there is a big box of tissues and a very caring person who's OKAY if you cry.
2. You are in the worlds best place to be overwhelmed. A safe place. With someone that really "gets you" (so well that you're attracted)
3. You'll get through it. Of course.

You'll have done something hard, yes... but satisfying things are rarely easy, and breakthroughs rarely come at no risk.

I am completely sure you'll be fine-- You know T REALLY well. You feel safe enough there to care for T. You're safe. You'll be fine.

I am going on Monday, utterly blind. With a million issues, no idea if help will be there, or if they will be supportive. Its an emotional tightrope without a safety net.

I'll be here after my session, you'll be here after yours.

Sometimes you just need to suck in your breath and decide to do it. The session is coming, anyway... you'll be going anyway, because T matters to you. Just get this over. You'll be safe and fine.
Thanks for this!
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Old Jun 17, 2013, 12:28 AM
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It sucks when good things, like praise or sympathy makes you feel insecure. One of the first therapy conversations I'm going to have, because all T's want to do that.

Thank you, btw.

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I have been trying to understand why positive evaluations from students make me feel insecure. It's strange (and not consistent - sometimes it makes me feel good.)
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Old Jun 17, 2013, 12:43 AM
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I have been trying to understand why positive evaluations from students make me feel insecure. It's strange (and not consistent - sometimes it makes me feel good.)
I was in therapy previously and I realized I didn't like the sympathy.. then at the assessment I took this and said that I didn't want pity.

Then I realized it wasn't that... it was purely about sympathy or praise. I then refined a thought until it became a basic fear. Ultimately, I think my concern had two possible root causes;

(1) That I believe that a therapist is going to hide their internal feelings behind a facade of hypocritical approval of my negative aspects, thus the sympathy is potentially a lie, particularly the more negative I might feel it to be.
(2) I fear being dependent on someone that I extend all of the vulnerable feelings I have, that could so easily hurt me
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Old Jun 17, 2013, 01:06 AM
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Just learned that there is industrial action at my uni with the lecturers and our exam results won't be released until its resolved. I hope it's resolved by the end of July when they review our govt payments.
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Old Jun 17, 2013, 03:50 AM
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It means be firm and resolute.
It is from Macbeth.
"Be bloody, bold and resolute," in fact.
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Old Jun 17, 2013, 03:52 AM
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I am terrified that he'll bring up things that shouldn't be brought up and I'll be devastated and lose all composure and cry.
Memorise this phrase:
"I'm not ready to talk about that just yet."
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Old Jun 17, 2013, 04:14 AM
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It means be firm and resolute.
It is from Macbeth.
You mean "The Scottish play".
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Old Jun 17, 2013, 04:40 AM
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Memorise this phrase:
"I'm not ready to talk about that just yet."
Thanks for the thought CE, but I've been saying that for 2 years now.
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Old Jun 17, 2013, 04:43 AM
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Looking over my drawings I realise that its not about sex or love. Maybe its about control, i think it equates to the dog in my first dream about T. My T was walking a dog, my dog, and wouldn't let me have it no matter how hard I tried to persuade or bribe him.
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Bit early but what the hey!
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