Sex therapy

wotchermuggle · Jun 23, 2013, 03:02 PM

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Originally Posted by monalisasmile

Well I brought up sex this week

I asked her why she wanted me to look at these photos she mentioned last week which were very explicit; there were all of womens private parts.
T said she wanted me to embrace my sexuality and be comfortable with my body. She said she even enjoyed looking at them and curious to what I thought about them. They were very dramatic and shocking so I was quite in shock after seeing them.
I don't know what ts agenda is to be honest- maybe she is trying some sort of new shock therapy with me!
Thank you for asking CE

!!!! This really is sending off alarm bells in my head....

CantExplain · Jun 23, 2013, 03:28 PM

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Originally Posted by monalisasmile

Well I brought up sex this week

I asked her why she wanted me to look at these photos she mentioned last week which were very explicit; there were all of womens private parts.
T said she wanted me to embrace my sexuality and be comfortable with my body. She said she even enjoyed looking at them and curious to what I thought about them. They were very dramatic and shocking so I was quite in shock after seeing them.
I don't know what ts agenda is to be honest- maybe she is trying some sort of new shock therapy with me!
Thank you for asking CE

Maybe she's just trying to emphasise that there's nothing you can say that will shock her.

Madame T made some alarming suggestions that I will not repeat here (!). The point was that she would accept my whole sexuality and nothing was too gross to talk about.

Jun 23, 2013, 05:10 PM

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Originally Posted by just_some_girl

Wow. I think I'd find the photos to be going too far, personally, but sometimes I wish my T would bring these things up and make it seem more comfortable and 'okay' to talk about.. because I sure as heck am not able to start such a conversation. On the occasions I've tried to venture into that territory, T hasn't seemed to take the hint - or maybe hasn't wanted to - and I've just been left assuming that it's NOT okay and that I need to shut up!

Maybe you need to spell it out to her JSG. I mean sometimes we do not pick up other peoples hints. I think you should just say T we need to talk about sex. From my experience most ts love talking about sex and they are even a little obsessed by it.
I dont think your t doesn't want to talk about it, I think you need to be crystal clear with some ts on how you would like to use your time. I have learned that ts do not go there unless you specifically ask them to

Jun 23, 2013, 05:12 PM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

Maybe she's just trying to emphasise that there's nothing you can say that will shock her.

Madame T made some alarming suggestions that I will not repeat here (!). The point was that she would accept my whole sexuality and nothing was too gross to talk about.

I like this way of looking at it CE, thank you

I am hoping that was ts agenda because I really dont know. Well if she could say the V word repeatidly I think anything goes with her.

Jun 23, 2013, 09:53 PM

Not sure how sex obsessed my T may or may not be..! Not sure I want to think about that!

That's the stereotype, though, isn't it, with therapy/therapists - that it all comes back to sex. Am I the only one whose therapy is just cigars that are just cigars?!

elaygee · Jun 23, 2013, 10:06 PM

I talk about sex a lot in therapy. I talk about confusion due to a sexual abuse history. I talk about how the lines of sex and love get blurry for me. I told T I feel like I talk about sex a lot and maybe no one else talks as much as I do. She says because of my history of course its confusing. And how often can you openly talk about such a "taboo" subject? As often as 2x a week if you are on my therapy schedule

Sex is really important and often is slamming our brains on TV but ordinary people get all goofy in real life about. SoT and I talk about it a lot so I can sort my head out with no shame

1stepatatime · Jun 23, 2013, 10:53 PM

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Originally Posted by monalisasmile

Hey 1step,
I guess it felt nice to be so open with somebody and safe to tell t exactly what I felt about them. I think t was more excited about them than I was and I think she wants to talk about sexuality more than me.
I think sometimes it feels like we are just two friends talking about different therapies, exercises and sexuality but in a way it helps me be more comfortable, and t has said more than once that we are two adults having an equal conversation between us.
Hey, I hope someday you can talk to your t openly about sexuality, most ts are very open to these discussions. I hope you can try bring it up when you are ready

Really cool.... again, I just think it's great that you and your T are both comfortable enough to engage in a conversation with sexuality being the topic. My T touched on the topic of what she calls "self sex" but I was nowhere near ready to chat about that!!!

We are slowly developing a solid relationship....for me it takes time to really trust in someone when getting into intimate topics or the deepest stuff that I have carried around all of these years...but little by little In am getting there

. Have a great night

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