Couch 54, Where Are You?

I always wished I learned how to swim... even tried adult lessons when I was in my 20s... I have too much fear and not enough trust not even in the basic principles of floatation and water...

so while taking adult lessons with my 18 year old instructor I was able to float if my pinky was touching his... he wa such a good sport...but once he let go my feet went right to the bottom of the pool and I would panick..

I tried to practice with my H and I told him how afraid I was and so I was able to float for like 2 seconds and he let go of me and I was in a deep part of pool... I think we were married 18 months... it was my first lesson of how I couldn't trust him to do what I ask even when I explained why.

I wonder if Ts ever give swimming lessons... I need a psychologist swim instructor

I'm going to learn book binding. I am going to a one-week intensive course in July. I look forward to that very much. It's something I have wanted to learn for a long time.

RTS, I feel the same way about swimming. I can do it but it's scary and I don't enjoy it at all. The one time I wish I had known how to float was when we were snorkelling in the Great Barrier Reef. I tried and tried for hours and failed, and H just wouldn't help me.

Ohhhh... that's neat... would you then be able to fix book bindings as well?

I think that's almost a lost art here but something I've wished many times to have... I would like to get the binding of my Bible fixed.

I often wondered if you could use some of those float belts (like they use in water excercise classes) to snorkel...

Yes, I hope so! At least simple ones.

Oh yes, we had plenty of floatation devices.

Wiki - wow, what a dream! My T tells me to pick an object in the dream and give it a color, voice, feeling, etc. and try to expand on it - he believes that each object in a dream represents parts of ourselves. Not all dreams are like that, of course - but it can lead to some valuable awareness.

I used to swim pretty well, but it makes me nervous to try now. :/

Hankster - My T admitted yesterday that he doesn't want his stubbornness or ego getting in the way of being helpful to me. He also said that we had the option of bringing in another T to help us navigate through this impasse, but that he wasn't sure there was anyone in his office that he believed was qualified enough to do that. I told him that I wouldn't trust them. He asked why, and I had no answer for him. Reality is, I wasn't able to push through my discomfort to admit that I didn't trust that anyone in his office would be able to be objective or honest enough with him to risk their jobs by supporting anything that I said/felt.

i feel so so horribly bad and scared for your children i so wish someone would step in and do what you refuse to do and protect them from all this it is horrible

MUE... I'm pretty sarcastic so I wouldn't have had a problem saying that...

i don't know why your T would have to ask why? its not a far stretch in any situation that people can't be objective about someone who holds some sort of power over them... like their career especially

Here's a question for ya..... When your kids grow up, how would you feel if your daughters H did those things to her? What if your son did those things to his W? If you can't get out for you, then do it for them...because what they are seeing is normal will become their normal.

1st day of summer.....Garage Sale prep, tomorrow Im selling most of my crap!

Yay...getting rid of crap is the best. Making money even better.

I learned to swim about ten years ago. I started in the shallow end with a kickboard. It took me a couple of years to get comfortable in the deep end. But the longer I stuck with it, the more the water felt like jello and started to hold me up! My family used to make fun of me for being afraid to get my face wet at the beach. Take that out to last year, where I almost drowned trying to save someone. But I kept my wits about me. Yeah, pretty proud of myself!! It's doable.

I'd have to pay climate controlled storage for a year and its not worth it... Plus ill take the money and start fresh. no need for a riding lawnmower at an apartment

ok so long as you are looking at it is a fresh start and looking towards the future my girl

you left your kids with him !!!! wow so sad

What happened with the whole rescue thingie?

my husband is the same .he hates to get his face wet and will not learn to swim .he said he almost drowned or something and it freaks him out .just las year in bermuda was the first time he ever got in the ocean.

Shaking and angry and ... whatever today. Thanks, granite for putting words to it for me. You're nicer than me. I'm off for a bit to get my head together.

Mapleton, if hankster doesn't want to blow her own horn, she is a total ROCK STAR and saved a guy from drowning! Total brave and effective in an emergency situation.

Lola... remember there is always craigs list too... don't just give away your stuff...

around here people are so cheap at yard sales... they want stuff for free...

I was assuming that was the case I just wanted to know that she was okay in the doing of it. It sounds rough... and thank you, too!

Mue - I am really touched at how vulnerable he is letting himself be in front of you. and you also. Consider that he is meeting you half way. all this will only make him a better therapist. And I am stereotyping here, but I think men don't hold it against you as much if you want to change. That's how I have always felt about work. Whereas my mother could bring up the past from forever.

Trigger.........


My old neighbor ladies son got out of prison and now lives with her and they came down to look at my stuff... He shook my hand. I'm sick... He is an incestuous pedophile! I have got to sterilize my hand!