Couch 54, Where Are You?

So I have gotten hooked on the Netflix show House of Cards. It is so good. I highly recommend it.

stop i just feel evil for not wanting to suport someone in this and feel for the child ,and that i cant be as nice as others are. more suportive . it is my issues i know. i know my words are mean and angry at times and i struggle to be nice but god .it is horrible

O.k Sorry to obsess about this, but can anyoe come up with a reason why my T would send an email from his personal email address (both his and his wife's name come up) to me with therapy info. The only plausible one I can think of was he was lazy, or he did it on purpose maybe to underline the fact he is married? I promised myself I wouldn't obsess about it.

On a different note I'm getting ready to extend my support network and going to a volunteer wildlife meeting tomorrow. It takes me a good couple of days to prepare for anything social.

I use Outlook, and it has the ability to let me send emails from two different addresses -- personal and business. Sometimes I click for it to use my business email, but it doesn't, and sends from my personal email anyway. My guess is that something similar happened to him.

BP - I hope the wildlife meeting goes well.

Granite I'm no longer reading anything outside the couch by certain people but I cant imagine you are being evil. I think my opinion has been the same as yours. But the downside is you can't change some people but we an do what we can when we can...

Warning about witnessing abuse...

I was at a discount store in the parking lot and I witnessed a grandmother beating the crap out of a 7 or 8 yr old boy and the language she was using was horrific...other people just stood there...I dialed 911 and stood right next to her while she was beating the kid talking to the dispatcher and giving the make and model of car, the license plate and description of the kid and abuser... I wanted all the sounds on the dispatch recording...once she realized what I was doing she got in her car and drove away and I follower her home drove back to the local police station filed a report and called child services from the police station... Police and child services both said I wouldn't find out what happened but at least I know I did everything I could.

I wish I had address in this situation...I would make a report...in my state every report anonymous or otherwise has to be researched

Thanks MKAC. I knew i was probably over-reacting. I haven't used Outlook in years. I think that's the most plausible explanation. I'll put it from my mind now. Hows things with you?

Wow! RTS that is proactive. I always feel proud and little bit sick after I've done something like this. But well done.

no i was quite mean and angry in my responces.i will own that in hopes to change it .but stll feel strongly about my opinion

I think there is some validity to the statement that I say to t all the time.. What if I am just not capable of being in a relationship? Maybe it is not H that is the issues, it is me, I am not a relationship person. There isn't anything wrong with that, right?

Can I just say... it makes me so nervous when people talk about blocking people, or avoiding reading their posts for whatever reasons.. I always get so petrified that I am one of those people.. And, why the heck does that bother me so much anyways, lol!

(Healed) I have the same fear.

For me its the fear of not being heard and ignored and it reinforces all those things that happened when I was kid.

I don't think you were mean. Did you think I was mean?

I think in that instance I was so triggered.. I think in my heart I was trying to save my sister.

i think you explained your situation very well ans did it without using the words selfis ,self serving,etc and other shock and trigger words like that.therefor i feel people have listen and heard you better .and no not mean

There is nothing wrong with that. It could be the two of you are not a good fit, even if you love each other. I have had that - where the two of us loved each other but simply could not make it work out as a couple. It does not have to be anyone's fault or that either person is bad. Both people can be fine and yet unable to live together. Or at least that is how I see it.

Me too healed... I think it's me that people r blocking... And probably some have over the 2years.., but I guess for mr it's the fear that I'll be made a fool of...thinking people care when really they r all blocking me when really I know it's not the case with all.

It's not any of you guys. LOL.

I don't think either of you were mean. Blunt and direct, perhaps, but not mean. I think that kind of message, while not always welcome in the moment of denial, sticks around in the back of someone's mind. Maybe it will sink in to the poster at some point because of that directness.

If it were a DV situation with just a spouse, I think it would be different. But taking the risk for yourself is a far cry from taking it for children.

I wish more people spoke up on behalf of the innocents. I wish someone had for us.

Here's my thought about the blocking thing: we all have issues. I can push people's buttons in certain cases and have been blocked. I get that and try not to have hard feelings about it.

I know that others sometimes see me as harsh when I refuse to engage in what I see as coddling of unhealthy behavior. Others have a perfect right to engage in whatever behaviors they want (as long as no one else's health or safety is involved), but when the person puts it out there on a public forum and seeks other people's opinions, I am not going to pretend like those are acceptable behaviors. If asked specifically to point out someone's pattern of behavior to them, I will do so. I feel that it is more supportive and helpful in the long run to answer honestly when people ask for opinions or suggestions. If the person then has a tizzy about it or I am then criticized for being unsupportive then I will sometimes block that person (especially if they react badly after SPECIFICALLY ASKING for someone to point out the pattern). I will sometimes block people who trigger certain issues for me. I have blocked people who just seem to be trolls on the site. I do not think anyone who has posted about their fears of being blocked are those types of people.

I guess I am of the mindset that people need other people that we were designed to be in relationship. But I think of your statement in a different light....
What if its not h that is the issue...that u would have these same issues no matter who you were in relationship wit... What if its you... Well if that is the case that's a great big positive! Because if the issues are yours than you have the power to change them.... The ball is in your court...

What standards are you using to determine what it means to be capable of being in a relationship? What would that look like for you? Are you basing it off of other peoples standards? Perhaps your standards are unrealistic?

Eta : when my t said something similar to me I wanted to just give her the finger...say f u...but of course I never would... With xT...I just rolled my eyes at him... Even though they were right

Oh I know the thread. I'll have read at another time to find out what you are all talking about.

And Wiki, that woman will rot in a very hot place. And I agree that she better be putting money away in a therapy fund for her kids. In an odd way, I almost feel pity for her. She'll never know how compassion and generosity feel.

You have a good heart. Please don't let this one sorry waste of protoplasm get to you. She's a tool and not worthy of your attention.

What Criiter said goes double for me.