How often do you fight with T?

How often do you fight with T?

do you mean physically or verbally?

Do people get into physical fights with others regardless of therapists or not?
I have never been in a physical fight with anyone. I am not saying that just because I have, then others would not either, just that I would not think physical fighting was usual.

I'm nearly certain that any "fighting" is happening on my end only.

Verbally. I don't think Ts would put up with violence!

How does T respond to that?

Pretty much the same way he does everything else. He asks me questions about how I am feeling and we discuss why that may be. He has an amazing ability to not be defensive. It can be unsettling. Definitely takes the wind out of my sails every now and then.

There have been a coupe of times when I've told T that she misunderstood me or when I've told her that I'm feeling disconnected from her. In those instances, I've simply said to her: "You say you think I'm feeling X, but I'm not, I'm actually feeling Y" or "I brought in this journal entry to show you, which was difficult for me, and you haven't said anything in response. Could you please give me more feedback? This lack of feedback is making me feel like you aren't hearing me." I find that usually resolves the issue pretty quickly, so we've never gotten to the point of "fighting." I would not want to fight with my T.

We disagree at times, but I don't think of that as fighting by any stretch of the imagination.

I answered we fight a lot, but that's interpeting "fighting" as me arguing with him, or disagreeing, or getting angry. Early on in therapy I was afraid to speak up and disagree, but now I've gotten bolder. (He's created a Frankenstein! )

It's something I need to learn to do, so it's all good. How I handle it (or don't) and the aftermath is all grist for the mill.

ETA: He never "fights" with me. If he did, that would mean he had lost control, and that *never* happens.

The closest I've come to "fighting" were just little ruptures or misattunements. Fortunately, I trust her enough to confront her about it, and she owns what's hers, inquires about my part in it, and we work it through. I find those times to be some of the best, most healing experiences in therapy, because it's a very healthy, open interaction that teaches me that I can relate to someone without fear of rejection.

But then, I'm not a very confrontational person, and I'm not sure she is, either. I'm sure if I was, we'd fight more.

I have "fought" a few times with my therapist, by which I mean, been offended or upset by something she's said and reacted defensively, angrily, even rudely. She, for her part, has gotten to the point of telling me that the arguing was tiring, at which point we took a break, or in two other cases, that she had apologized as well as she could and did really have anything else to add on a topic.

I find my ptsd probably makes my tendancy to fight a little worse, because stress quickly gets escalated with me to the point where I feel unsafe pretty quickly. It's getting a little better as therapy progresses. It's been five months now, and I think I'm deescalating a little bit, plus she's learning more about me, and misunderstandings are a little less common and severe.

In three years, I would say we have had one "fight." We had several instances where he hurt my feelings or made me angry, but when I brought it up, he apologized and we were fine. The "fight" was when he kept misunderstanding me over and over, and I got angry because it seemed like he was deliberately twisting what I was saying. I got angry, he got a little angry and a lot defensive, I shouted at him and then started sobbing. I mean really, gut wrenching, couldn't breathe, sobbing. He immediately got really calm and gentle again. Afterwards, he admitted that he was letting his own feelings and anxieties get in the way of really hearing me. So, it was the not hearing me part that made it a fight to me.

I would like to think we don't fight anymore. We had a very bumpy 6 months, about a year into therapy, and during that period there were times I guess you could describe the dynamic as 'fighting'... We seem to be back to being able to disagree or challenge each other without falling out or getting frustrated, though, and discussion feels easier these days

In 6 years I have never fought with a T. I've gotten angry at times, plenty of times, but I have never actually had an argument with a T. I told xt off by email a month after I terminated. He spoke with my pdoc a few weeks after our last appointment, and I was no longer his client. Pdoc told me what he said, and I emailed him a flaming email telling him that he was no longer my T and thus had no right to talk about me without my consent. (he did not have written consent to talk with pdoc ever...not because I didn't want to give it to him, just because it was never done). I wouldn't consider it a fight...more of a "telling off" lol.

I have never argued with T. We have discussions where we don't necessarily agree and we've talked about my reactions to some things he's said or done, but we never argued about anything. He's infinitely patient (at least he is so far).

When we've talked about things he's said or done, he always either explains it differently or takes responsibility for something he's said that he thinks he should have predicted I would misinterpret.

Pretty much every other session.
It's not much of a *fight* though. More like a verbal intense(jeez!) argument. You know, snide comments going both ways, jokes, weird smart-***** metaphors etc... Talking about tough love over here.

I get annoyed at her and I tell her like a kid lol

I fought with my exT quite a lot. Lost track of the number of times. And I still didn't leave (I had over two good years in I didn't want to throw away) But she left me, I think because I wasn't coming around to her way of thinking (totally oversimplified but a reasonable one-phrase summary.)

The new T I never fight with. Sometimes I get hurt, or he doesn't like something (related to waiting room protocol) but we never fought about it. We talk and resolve it.

T and i yell at each other and fight and tell each other off on occassion. We are both pretty passionate people and sometimes disagree. We always work it out.

We disagree and discuss, but we don't "fight" by any means.

With my new t, we fight all the time. we have very strong differing opinions on various topics that come up, and we are both not afraid to voice those opinions.

my old t and I never ever fought. we always worked it out before it became an argument.

Lololol

We never fight....fighting is not her style...at least not yet.. and I hate fighting. I have no problem speaking up but sometimes I need to process things before I can become really passionate about it. There have been some ruptures...where she says something that I find invalidating or hurtful...I go home process it...bring it up during following session and I always feel better.

The first one is a constant fight. The second one has not been a fight thus far (same amount of time as seeing the first one just about).