What does your therapist do....

refika · Jul 31, 2013, 02:30 PM

My T will just sit there and let me cry. Sometimes he'll ask what has me so upset, sometimes he will just sit quietly until I'm calm enough to talk again. Sometimes he will help me calm down if I'm really sobbing and can't breathe.

marina37968 · Jan 22, 2018, 05:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Anonymous35535

My therapist has reached for the Kleenex, and wiped my tears away a few times. I can say without a doubt my mom never did this for me.

what will my therpist do if i cry

fille_folle · Jan 23, 2018, 12:09 AM

I haven't full-on cried with current T, but the last two sessions, a few tears leaked out. T did not mention them, nor did I. I only sobbed once in 12 years with longtime T, and she held me that time.

Jan 23, 2018, 12:55 AM

My therapist will be crying before I do

This is pretty funny though....

Fernwehxx · Jan 23, 2018, 10:49 AM

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Originally Posted by LearningMe01

If and when you cry? This may seem like a silly question, but I'm really curious. See, I'm not really a "crier" unless it's in front of the people who are closest to me. For a long time I tried to keep my T out of that "close to me zone" (a defense mechanism) I've finally accepted that she means a lot to me and I am about as comfortable as a person can be when I'm around her (except for the romantic feelings on my part, which are always there, but do not seem to get in the way of the session)I've told her how much I care about her, in the most sincere way possible. Since then, it's been easier for me to cry in front of her. I don't mean just a tear or two streaming down my cheek...full on crying.

I don't know what I expect her to do...but she just kinda sits there and looks at me. Don't get me wrong, she always has a very concerned look in her eyes, but it feels strange sometimes, sitting there crying in front of someone. I wonder if it's awkward for her as well? Or maybe her silence is her way of respecting my feelings and letting me express them without interruption?

This isn't something that's a huge deal, just something I noticed tonight and I'm interested in hearing ways other T's react.

I had never cried in front of a T for years of therapy (unless I was mad, but that's a different story).
Now, I sometimes cry because something is very intense or I am sad, or similar stuff.
If I can still talk, no-one pays a lot of attention to the tears. I just accept them and tell myself they are okay. If it gets bad, she lets me be silent for a while but shows me she's there with me. I have never had an intense sobbing-breakdown with her, but I feel if that happened, she'd make me feel cared for either by her words or by holding me in very intense situations.

I want to feel that someone is there and can bear the tears and the pain and shows me they're not annoyed, disgusted, disappointed, judging, or anything the like.
If I don't trust a person to react this way, I will not cry in front of her, either control it or walk away as tears start falling.

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