Have you ever skipped your T appointment to process "stuff" yourself?

I go 2 times a week and I think I should skip my next appointment and process things myself.

But am I running away? I don't think T will care either way nor am I sure T wants to discuss what I need to process...

I've never skipped an appointment. I've missed some here and there because of illness or emergencies, but I haven't skipped one.

[stopdog]

I cancel when I need to. The therapist does not care. I give advanced notice. It works for me. I then go back. I see no point or need to judge myself for it.

[WikidPissah]

You are an adult, and you know when you need a break. I have skipped (by giving plenty of notice) a few times when I felt that I was too much in my head. Heck, I even backed out for a month once to give myself a breather. It's a journey, not a race.

[healed84]

have never skipped T and only have missed a session when he canceled. I always feel like I need to go to my session whether I want to or not. However, as I feel myself getting better, I think away to avoid skipping appointments, maybe I will just space them out. I don't want to waste mine or T's time.. So, if I feel like I need to start processing stuff more on my own, then I would tell him so. Also, even though I may dread some appointments with T b/c of the topic... I really enjoy my t time.. it would cause great anxiety in me, knowing I was purposely missing a T appointment.

[Miswimmy1]

I would never skip. i've threatened tho. But I always figure that its better to work things out than to let yourself ruminate over things that you can't change until you talk about anyway

[rainbow8]

I've never wanted to skip a T session on purpose.

[pbutton]

The part I dread the most is yammering on about myself for an hour. So skipping a session isn't really going to help me with anything. So I go, as part of my plan to do things outside my comfort zone.

[growlycat]

for t's sake just give them advanced warning. that way they can go over it with you later

i used to skip when i was furious at t and felt t did not care. I wanted him to chase me i guess. Hopefully i've outgrown that stuff

[Freewilled]

I have never skipped or missed a session at all yet...but I've desperately wanted to. Sometimes I will think about it a lot the day before my appt. like I could still cancel - it is still over 24 hours...but I never actually go through with it. I also think my T could probably use a break from me /:

[feralkittymom]

nor am I sure T wants to discuss what I need to process...

^This sounds like a reason not to skip to me.

The only times I skipped, after consulting my T, was when I was feeling a rare period of calm, and we both felt there was more benefit in that respite than in being stirred up.

I skipped a couple of sessions with exT, pretending I was sick. She had a 7-day cancellation policy but I'd rather pay not to have to go there. It wasn't so I could process on my own though, I just had better things to do and nothing was happening in therapy anyway.
With current T, I haven't. I don't process well entirely on my own. There's plenty of time for that between sessions in any case.

[SkinnySoul]

Yes, I've skipped 4-5 appointments, but not to process stuff on my own.
Just to run away and make myself feel like I don't need him.

[unaluna]

I dont skip, I go. Unless the heat index is over 100 like it was last week! I got a little delirious one day so I cancelled until it cooled down. It's my only commitment anymore.

[tinyrabbit]

I would never ever skip. I have a rule with myself that I have to go however resistant I feel. T says this is a good rule...

[Perna]

I never skipped; all those hours in between seeing T too often felt like too many; I had too much work to do and it would really back up if I called out; no one else to do it for me

When I don't want to be in therapy that's when I'm told I need to be there the most. I've called and cancelled to see if she cares enough, to voice my anger, my hopelessness, etc. the therapist always tells me, "I can't make you come. It's your choice. I'm not going anywhere."

[stopdog]

I can't say I ever "want" to do it and certainly I never "like" doing it. I go because it may be useful and it is my choice. But I do not find it something I would choose if I knew of a different non-drug alternative I have not tried.

[bunnylove45]

I've never skipped and never want to. He's the only adult in my life that I have to talk to! He's my sunshine/my lifeline so to speak.

I've had to reschedule because of Mother Nature (snow storms), but for me wanting to skip a session, never has happened.

I skipped out on an ex-T's sessions for about 3 weeks when we had a rupture. Even when he apologized on my voicemail and said he really thought we should talk through things (he had overreacted to, which he admitted to in his apology, and then had lectured me re: a thing I had said), I was not ready to deal with it or him. At the time I was very glad I did it because I wouldn't have been able to speak to him, or else I would have said things I regretted had I gone; it was better to pull back until I was ready to talk about it because I was royally pissed off and extremely hurt.

[BonnieJean]

I only did it once because I felt like I needed time alone to process things. I have her a day's notice and went to the park. It was uncomfortable for me when I wanted to "come back" because she seemed more distant. Don't know from which side but I felt like it was from her's. I haven't felt the need to do it again. I'm not inclined to, I don't think.

[1stepatatime]

I have not skipped any sessions to date. I have felt like it on occasion but the funny thing is, it is on those occasions that I have had the most productive therapy sessions.

[MoxieDoxie]

I might skip T Monday because I am totally embarrassed and I do not want to discuss it with him.

[Flooded]

I skip often but I always give a lot of notice. I would never not give notice. Very bad manners.