Being affected by what T wears

Wait - when I had a cold, my dad used to put vaporub on my chest and then wrap my chest in his very scratchy red plaid wool scarf. I used to wonder if the scarf then smelled of menthol when he wore it.

He usually wears pants and shoes like that: http://img02.taobaocdn.com/bao/uploa...FjX_113746.jpg
And nice simple shirts. And his glasses.

I've never seen him wearing a tie, or a suit. I'm good with that, I like it casual.

I usually notice what T wears because she's thin and I'm jealous (though I wish she weren't as thin as she is because I worry about her). I also notice because she dresses so much differently from me, but I notice most women's clothes for that reason.

I dress modestly (nothing low cut or above my knees), so I've had to get used to seeing what I call revealing clothes. These are NORMAL for society; I'm not criticizing anyone but I don't understand why women aren't embarrassed. I think my T probably dresses more modestly than most women, in fact. If she wears a thin blouse, she wears something over it, and in winter she wears scarves. She usually wears black pants or jeans. Occasionally, but not often she wears a skirt and I always notice that because I tease her and say she looks like me!

Gee, hubba hubba to the pant picture!

I don't notice what Mr T wears. Although once I remarked he was dressed as a James Bond villain (1970s style).

I preferred Madame T in a skirt rather than panrs.

Your T looks like that?????????

D'you ever get any therapy done, must be pretty distracting, LOL!

I have no issues with a nice cardi! No, a gilet is like a bodywarmer/quilted waistcoat type thing. (I dont know how to link to a picture!) Not my cup of tea, but the only issue I have with it is because mum often wore/(wears?) them, not because I want to call the fashion police

My pdoc has that look. I don't trust him at all tho so it hardly matters what he wears.

I still have no idea what a jumper is.

CBT T is always pretty crisp, maybe his wife picks out his shirts for him because the colors are perfect for his hair/eyes/skin tone.

Some of his ties are interesting--I think he sometimes works with kids and it is for their benefit maybe?

I am only affected by my T clothes when he has the top 2 buttons of his shirt undone, and then my mind goes wandering in inappropriate places. Mind you I live in the tropics so this a frequent occurrence.

sweater, pullover, jersey.

LOL ties are are a strange piece of apparel. They just seem like fabric arrows pointing in a direction I'm trying to keep my mind off of.

Pretty much, only he's taller. Ah, totally my type... Last session he was wearing them with a thin pinstripe white-gray-ish shirt. I just love his fashion sense.

Haha, well as long as our job is done, a little flirt every now and then never killed anyone.

AHAHAHAHA I literally spat water on my screen!!!

Yeeah, I love them too!

My T owns beige socks. I repeat: BEIGE SOCKS.

I think the way he dresses does affect me, in a positive way. It's not too smart (suits or ties would make me uncomfortable) but it's not too casual or scruffy either. He tends to wear jeans or what I suppose you'd call slacks, I'm not sure? Often with a sweater or a checked shirt. He does dress quite nicely, he occasionally looks really dapper (like the day he was all in black with a coloured scarf, it was very metrosexual) but it's mostly kind of... calming. Lots of blue.

I've just realised I have NO IDEA what interim-T (a female I've seen once) was wearing. I always thought I'd notice that with a female T but nope. I couldn't tell you what she had on, if she wore make-up, if her nails were painted, anything. I just didn't notice. Weird. I can tell you so much about my usual T, right down to the make of his watch.

Can I just note that today was the first time I saw T in pants? Lol. She was still dolled up though, so the shock only lasted the time it took us to walk in back and sit down.

I'm in the UK where pants = underwear so the mental picture I initially got was probably not what actually happened!!

Lol!! No, I meant pants as in jeans! =] Thanks for the lesson haha! I'll be more specific next time.

Oh I figured! Just thought I would share!

hee hee! pants=underwear for me too...

I have just realised how much I avoid looking at my T. I have no idea what he wears. I couldn't describe him, apart from maybe my age...and male...he might have a beard. I am normally a bit more observant than that about people.

My T dresses like she shops at Eileen Fisher. (In my area, I swear, they must pass out Eileen Fisher catalogs in T school!). She wears long skirts with leggings under them, loose sweaters or cardigans, scarves, and big chunky shoes like clogs, platforms, or boots. She doesn't wear make-up and she wears her hair down or in a ponytail. She looks modest and professional, but not particularly put together or coordinated. She has one red sweater that I wish would have an accident with her dryer-- but, for the most part, she just looks and dresses average. I do notice her clothes (mostly because they are so different from mine) but I don't think they have much of an effect on me or on my therapy. As long as she's wearing (enough) clothing, I don't much care what she wears. It stands out when she wears sleeveless shirts because she has uncommonly buff arms-- she looks like she could kill someone with those guns! We also hug at the end of sessions, and I notice the difference between a fuzz sweater hug and a skin-to-skin hug. I prefer the fuzzy sweater hug because it feels more nurturing/protective.

At some point he was going through a lot of different glasses. Until I pointed it out. Then he stopped...

Coincidentally, my T wore a skirt to session for the first time ever yesterday. I almost commented on it but then saw she had on one of those boot things. Aha! No wonder...she was forced to wear the boot! Poor T has a stress fracture. I told her that running is evil! I had joked with her previously about how I hate running. I said, "See, T! I told you! This year, a stress fracture. In ten years, a knee replacement! Stop running so much!"

She dresses very professionally and nicely, but not so over-the-top that I feel bad about being around her or my own clothing (but then again, I do try to dress a little nicer on my appointment days). Skirts, pants, shirts. I am attracted to her.. but only once was I extremely affected by what she wore. It was a blue and white striped button up and a black skirt that did it. I think I was blushing and avoiding eye contact more so than usual the entire session.

Otherwise, I'm greatly comforted by neutral or tan colours.

I used to avoid mine, but I've taken to sneaking peaks at him now.

I noticed what interim-T wore at the second session, but then I forgot again, I can't picture her clothes at all.