I am just missing my t so bad the past two days. I have been sick and not feeling up to par and my emotions are all over. My t has been out of the country for two years now for her family emergency. Which was supposed to be a couple months. I havent seen her since last october when i went there to spend a week with her. We usually talk on the telephone 2-3 times a week , or sometimes its on skype. But right now she has some sort of other family problem going on and for the past 3 weeks we have only talked two times. And she usually answers my emails but because she is so busy i havent heard from her.

I just miss her. I want her to come home. She wants to come home so bad but her family still needs her there right now. Even her husband gets sick of it and he is the one that felt they needed to go there but the family needs him there right now.

I am very grateful we get to talk on the phone which is better than nothing.but right now i just need her in person The past 4 weeks have been very stressful, deaths in the family and changes at work that are stressful, some bad news, etc, and i just need to talk to her so badly.
It feels like so much stuff has piled up and up and up inside of me that needs to get out. I do email her, and she reads them when she has time. But i need to TALK. i miss her so bad.

Ps getting another t isnt an option. My t is perfect for me. We are just on the wrong sides of the world for too long. Tonight i would just give anything for her to be here

Starry_Night, I am so sorry this is happening. I know you say getting another T is not an option, but really, if she's been there two years, this is no longer a "family emergency": this is her having moved to another country. I wish this were not happening to you because you two are so good together.

[tinyrabbit]

Would you consider just trying another T, to see what it's like?

I'm sorry you're going through this.

[CantExplain]

((Starry))

[Victoria'smom]

Starry I know you really don't want to but is finding a 2nd T possible? You could keep this T and get a local one.

I honestly don't think your T really plans to come back. A family emergency doesn't last two years, or she would be able to come back and forth as needed. She has really moved to live full time in another country and has not returned. I know you don't want another therapist, but this is really an odd situation. I have no answers for you though. I know you like her a lot and I guess phone calls are sort of working for you. I just wonder if your progress is being slowed down due to this situation.

I know you all dont know the situation, but she actually does plan to come back. And i did try another t , that didntwork out. I do not want another t. She is my t.

Nevermind about this... I needed support, not more distress and discouragement. I was so stupid to try to reach out somewhere.

[Fuzzybear]

((((((( Starry )))))))

[Wren_]

(((((starry))))))
I wish there was a way you could go and see her again for a visit to help you while you wait for her return
to me it makes a lot of sense to stick with her ... it's not just your relationship with her but everyones relationship with her which makes it much more involved
you are all doing an amazing job of coping but it's definitely hard for everyone including your T

I asked to have my stupid thread closed. I try to reach out for once t and it makes things worse. The inside kids i have are screaming and crying worse than they were already today. I hate that i even posted anything. I need to accept the fact that i am alone and have nowhere to turn. Just close this stupid thread.

[pbutton]

I see lots of hugs for you in this thread. I don't think you're alone.

Starry
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Do you know how amazing you are to cope all on your own for so long? That is something I couldn't do anyway, you are a survivor and have fantastic coping skills. I just wanted to say that I admire your stamina and courage, I miss my t if she is gone for a week so not being able to see her for two years is out of the question. I understand your loyalty to your t, only you know who is a good fit for you. I am sorry she can't be there in person but I am sure she is there in spirit with you
Is there anything we can do to help you?
Seems like you are needing some understanding and care tonight, you are having a hard time lately x
Could you ring t and tell her it's an emergency

[A Red Panda]

Starry: I don't think anyone wants you to dump your T or anything!

I think that maybe they are suggesting trying a second T to help you with the fact that your T is out of the country? You said you only went to one other T... there's likely lots of others around. It wouldn't be a betrayal to your T or a replacement... just an addition.

I'm sorry that you are feeling so upset about starting this thread!

[Sunflower35]

Originally Posted by Starry_Night

I am just missing my t so bad the past two days. I have been sick and not feeling up to par and my emotions are all over. My t has been out of the country for two years now for her family emergency. Which was supposed to be a couple months. I havent seen her since last october when i went there to spend a week with her. We usually talk on the telephone 2-3 times a week , or sometimes its on skype. But right now she has some sort of other family problem going on and for the past 3 weeks we have only talked two times. And she usually answers my emails but because she is so busy i havent heard from her.

I just miss her. I want her to come home. She wants to come home so bad but her family still needs her there right now. Even her husband gets sick of it and he is the one that felt they needed to go there but the family needs him there right now.

I am very grateful we get to talk on the phone which is better than nothing.but right now i just need her in person The past 4 weeks have been very stressful, deaths in the family and changes at work that are stressful, some bad news, etc, and i just need to talk to her so badly.
It feels like so much stuff has piled up and up and up inside of me that needs to get out. I do email her, and she reads them when she has time. But i need to TALK. i miss her so bad.

Ps getting another t isnt an option. My t is perfect for me. We are just on the wrong sides of the world for too long. Tonight i would just give anything for her to be here

I have to agree. If your T has been gone for two years I would consider finding another for the interim, and if your T comes back then you could certainly start where you left off.

Really, I am sorry. I was just offering what I thought was a good suggestion about maybe trying someone knew. I am so sorry I made it worse.

I didn't mean to make things worse for you either. Just really concerned about your situation and was trying to express that concern.

[FooZe]

This thread has been closed at the OP's request.