Home Menu

Menu


Closed Thread
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #851  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 11:01 AM
pbutton's Avatar
pbutton pbutton is offline
Oh noes!
 
Member Since: Jul 2011
Location: in a house
Posts: 4,485
Quote:
Originally Posted by stopdog View Post
yes, my focus would be on control.
I would have guessed that without seeing any of the leading discussion.
Thanks for this!
stopdog

advertisement
  #852  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 11:05 AM
stopdog stopdog is offline
underdog is here
 
Member Since: Sep 2011
Location: blank
Posts: 35,154
I do find it sort of interesting to me that
punishment is less worrisome to me. But control and humiliation are at the very top. Even where punishment is a type of control, it is the control part, not the pain or deprivation etc. in and of it self that is my focus. The part of punishment that gets me is the humiliation.
__________________
Please NO @

Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.
Oscar Wilde
Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich
Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
Thanks for this!
CantExplain, mixedup_emotions, pbutton
  #853  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 11:55 AM
granite1's Avatar
granite1 granite1 is offline
running with scissors
 
Member Since: Aug 2009
Location: in my head
Posts: 15,961
Quote:
Originally Posted by stopdog View Post
I do find it sort of interesting to me that
punishment is less worrisome to me. But control and humiliation are at the very top. Even where punishment is a type of control, it is the control part, not the pain or deprivation etc. in and of it self that is my focus. The part of punishment that gets me is the humiliation.
I sure can understand that .humiliation for me is way more controlling and hurtful then psychical pain any day
__________________
BEHAVIORS ARE EASY WORDS ARE NOT

Dx, HUMAN
Rx, no medication for that
Hugs from:
pbutton
Thanks for this!
stopdog
  #854  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 01:32 PM
mixedup_emotions's Avatar
mixedup_emotions mixedup_emotions is offline
Elder
 
Member Since: Feb 2009
Location: NJ
Posts: 7,326
Ah yes, humiliation is definitely the more painful experience for me.
__________________
Don't follow the path that lies before you. Instead, veer from the path - and leave a trail...
  #855  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 01:37 PM
mixedup_emotions's Avatar
mixedup_emotions mixedup_emotions is offline
Elder
 
Member Since: Feb 2009
Location: NJ
Posts: 7,326
I am in sheer agony at the moment. I am desperate for some relief from this horrific migraine. And then.....my manager contacts me seeing if I can do an overnight shift tonight. I have my neurologist appt tomorrow late morning and then group later in the day. So, it would mean missing a night's sleep (or trying to sleep as much as I can now until this evening - but my daughter will be home from school shortly).

I told my manager that I have a horrible migraine and have appts. in the morning - so I won't be able to do it....but then added - if you're in a bind and can't find anyone else, I'll do it.

At the moment, she said it's 50/50.....I am wavering between feeling like - oh hail no, I can't do it - and - I have the rest of the day to try to feel better, just plan accordingly, get some rest and push through it. The night shift is generally easier and more $. But then, I won't have time to recuperate before having a full plate tomorrow through Thursday.

ACK.
__________________
Don't follow the path that lies before you. Instead, veer from the path - and leave a trail...
Hugs from:
CantExplain, critterlady, unaluna
  #856  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 01:39 PM
mixedup_emotions's Avatar
mixedup_emotions mixedup_emotions is offline
Elder
 
Member Since: Feb 2009
Location: NJ
Posts: 7,326
My manager called.....it's official.
__________________
Don't follow the path that lies before you. Instead, veer from the path - and leave a trail...
Hugs from:
CantExplain
  #857  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 02:25 PM
Anonymous100300
Guest
 
Posts: n/a
This is really really hard.
Hugs from:
unaluna
  #858  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 02:54 PM
mixedup_emotions's Avatar
mixedup_emotions mixedup_emotions is offline
Elder
 
Member Since: Feb 2009
Location: NJ
Posts: 7,326
What's that, RTS? Hope you're ok.
__________________
Don't follow the path that lies before you. Instead, veer from the path - and leave a trail...
  #859  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 03:15 PM
critterlady's Avatar
critterlady critterlady is offline
Magnate
 
Member Since: Feb 2012
Posts: 2,344
Oh, MUE, I'm sorry you're going to miss a night's sleep when you need it so very much. At least you'll get some decent money out of it, but still.

I hope everyone else is doing okay. Sounds like some difficult times going on.

I missed a Chopin visit! Dang.

I had an awesome T session this morning. We talked about touch and hugging, which was one of the harder topics to bring up. Bottom line is that if I want a hug, I just need to reach out for one. I don't even need to verbally ask. My T rocks the free world.
Hugs from:
mixedup_emotions
Thanks for this!
mixedup_emotions
  #860  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 03:43 PM
granite1's Avatar
granite1 granite1 is offline
running with scissors
 
Member Since: Aug 2009
Location: in my head
Posts: 15,961
my T is a rock a hug would not be comfortable
__________________
BEHAVIORS ARE EASY WORDS ARE NOT

Dx, HUMAN
Rx, no medication for that
Hugs from:
unaluna
  #861  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 03:52 PM
unaluna's Avatar
unaluna unaluna is online now
Elder Harridan x-hankster
 
Member Since: Jun 2011
Location: Milan/Michigan
Posts: 42,307
Quote:
Originally Posted by Readytostop View Post
This is really really hard.
I hope you're okay. I told my eyeglass fitter about how you waited for an hour to see how your son's glasses fit, and she agreed with me that that was amazing, that YOU are amazing. And this is like super helicopter parent town.
  #862  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 05:20 PM
granite1's Avatar
granite1 granite1 is offline
running with scissors
 
Member Since: Aug 2009
Location: in my head
Posts: 15,961
1/2 hour before I go get my kitty
__________________
BEHAVIORS ARE EASY WORDS ARE NOT

Dx, HUMAN
Rx, no medication for that
Hugs from:
critterlady, unaluna
  #863  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 05:26 PM
Anonymous100300
Guest
 
Posts: n/a
so excited for you....post pictures.....
  #864  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 05:27 PM
granite1's Avatar
granite1 granite1 is offline
running with scissors
 
Member Since: Aug 2009
Location: in my head
Posts: 15,961
you bet I will you ok ready
__________________
BEHAVIORS ARE EASY WORDS ARE NOT

Dx, HUMAN
Rx, no medication for that
  #865  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 05:29 PM
Purpledaze's Avatar
Purpledaze Purpledaze is offline
Member
 
Member Since: Mar 2013
Location: France
Posts: 180
Granite, that is so exciting!

RTS, I hope you are OK.

Mu_e, I hope the assignment goes ok, and that your neurologist can give you some relief tomorrow. Working when you're in a lot of pain is no joke

I'm off to bed now. Have Dr appt in the morning (follow up from my foot surgery).

no doubt the couch will get lively as soon as I log off!
  #866  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 05:41 PM
Squirrel1983's Avatar
Squirrel1983 Squirrel1983 is offline
Queen of the Squirrels
 
Member Since: Dec 2009
Location: Central Florida
Posts: 4,795
Well I am home from C's. Just had supper. Easy as I am lazy. Boxed mac and cheese and tossed in a can of cubed ham. Hey it's dairy, wheat, and meat. It is "balanced".

Back to school tomorrow.

Must go shower now. Post more later.
  #867  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 05:42 PM
healed84's Avatar
healed84 healed84 is offline
Young Butterfly
 
Member Since: Jan 2012
Posts: 7,574
Home! Full day of work plus mc makes for a tough day. Mc is impressed with the line of communication we have been able to open up since the last time we saw him.

Miss you all!
__________________
"You decide every moment of every day who you are and what you believe in. You get a second chance, every second."

"You fail to recognize that it matters not what someone is born, but what they grow to be!" - J.K. Rowling. Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire.
  #868  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 06:19 PM
Anonymous100300
Guest
 
Posts: n/a
Hi Healed... My son visited the big university first and then small college but was disappointed because he filled out online visit request but no one got back to him so when he got there no one was in admissions office... They did a self tour...he said it was very nice and the students were smiling and social....it doesnt have his desired major... But we will see how it goes
  #869  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 06:20 PM
Anonymous100300
Guest
 
Posts: n/a
Healed... It sounds very significant to be able to impress a MC... Sounds like a very big deal
  #870  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 06:26 PM
Anonymous100300
Guest
 
Posts: n/a
I am okay....its been a year since I quit with xT and its been 3 months since I've seen T... I wonder if I'm just not finding right person or if I'm not fixable....

Anyway....I sent an email asking for an introductory phone consult with a new T who is in my insurance (Wiki...u can say I told you so)... But its hard to keep trying...

I am also missing all the couch peeps who I hope are only taking a break like Wiki... MKAC... Apt/Mast and others like Sconnie...
Hugs from:
healed84
  #871  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 06:43 PM
Anonymous37844
Guest
 
Posts: n/a
Hi Ready, seems people are finding it hard at the moment.
I think its time for a group hug.
Hugs from:
unaluna
  #872  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 06:44 PM
Anonymous37844
Guest
 
Posts: n/a
Can't wait to see Granites kitty. I love cats, when I get my own place I'm getting a cat.
  #873  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 07:00 PM
Ike McCaslin's Avatar
Ike McCaslin Ike McCaslin is offline
Magnate
 
Member Since: Sep 2012
Location: South Carolina
Posts: 2,154
I like a tune with a good strong mandolin.

__________________
Once in a while you get shown the light,
in the strangest of places if you look at it right.

R. Hunter
  #874  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 07:15 PM
Squirrel1983's Avatar
Squirrel1983 Squirrel1983 is offline
Queen of the Squirrels
 
Member Since: Dec 2009
Location: Central Florida
Posts: 4,795
Well...I am just "winding" down from a long day. I am in the process of putting some off my favorite songs off my many CDs (I have collected over 300 since I was a teen) onto my computer (iTunes). Then I can get an iPod (no I don't have one) and have a way to play only songs I like in the car. The radio stations around here are pretty crappy.

I have a CD player in my car...but there are some songs I don't like on my CDs (who likes every song on a CD?), so that option is out...plus...then I have to have all one artist. I want an iPod.
  #875  
Old Sep 09, 2013, 07:31 PM
mixedup_emotions's Avatar
mixedup_emotions mixedup_emotions is offline
Elder
 
Member Since: Feb 2009
Location: NJ
Posts: 7,326
I can't wait to see granite's kitty too....

I tried to lay down for about an hour while my daughter was playing outside, trying to lessen the severity of this migraine after taking narcotics, migraine meds and a muscle relaxer. It helped a teeny bit. I dropped my daughter off at my mom's and should have grabbed another 2 hours of rest....now I'm down to 1 hour. I'm going to just rest my eyes, cuz the idea of falling asleep just to have to force myself awake in an hour sounds grueling.
__________________
Don't follow the path that lies before you. Instead, veer from the path - and leave a trail...
Hugs from:
critterlady
Closed Thread
Views: 52408

attentionThis is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.




All times are GMT -5. The time now is 02:37 PM.
Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2025, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.




 

My Support Forums

My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.