Couch 60: Don't forget the beachball!

I'm just going to not call my landlord as you suggested and wait to see if he calls me. But he knows about this guy and past issues.

Then he probably knows that the guy has a screw loose. I hope he realizes that.

I hope so to, but we all know that I wore out my welcome here to. It's all coming to a head. I'm sick over it. Thank you for letting me bug you about this. And you too Growley, if your still out there. I have to go settle down or puke whichever comes first.

Little Lola can only act like Big Lola for so long and I feel like I am perpetrating a lie... can anyone relate?

I don't like being an adult if that's what you mean!!

...I'm not very good at it

I really need to grow up but grown up things stress me out.

An interesting insight. Thank you.
That still leaves the question: how to get past the inner two?

You're right. Any idea of reconciliation is mere fantasy. I need to face that fact.

Big needy babies need love too!

No, but withholding is a punishment.

My personal opinion is that punishment poisons therapy.
And yes, I'm oversensitive to that. I'm a damaged soul.

((MUE))

))Stopdog((

You're so sweet sometimes!

((Jersey))

Trapped is a bad feeling. It makes everything else so much worse.

Is there room for one more on this sofa(couch)? If so...Hi

CE....I see we are from the same part of the world, your avatar made me smile....prfetty sure there is one similar in a box at my mums place of one of my brothers!! Lol

Any rules here I need to know about???

Welcome JaneC. The more the merrier.

Hey Wikid.... If you are reading this...could you check in and let us know how you are doing? We miss you.

Hi Ike....dont usually see you in these parts in the morning

Hello everyone. SD and Growley- thanks for the input last night. And thanks for the hugs CE and Lola.

SD-if you see this, wanted to tell you I just emailed my landlord as a heads up In case the association calls him. I don't know if I feel better but I wanted to tell him what happened. I'll deal with the trapped feeling in therapy today. Hopefully she can help, until I get on my feet and get out of here. There is a small fear that my email to my landlord may make him start to think its time, but I been a good tenant. Always pay on time or early.

Are you talking about being an adult? If that's the case-I find for myself that when my needs take over-it feels really impossible to act like one and be one. Then when I realize how needy I was and acted- I think to myself "Wow, I can't believe how pathetic and immature I am. I'm supposed to be and act like a 34 year old" it gets really hard. But I think that's where needs come in. Im not sure if that's what you are referring to...

Ah yes, they do!

And there are certain types of people that are a bottomless pit of compassion and empathy - and give and give and give until they run themselves into the ground. Unfortunately, that's not healthy either.

This particular person in my group connected with another guy in the group - and completely overwhelmed this person with his neediness. The guy, in turn, backed away from him - saying something along the lines of that he has his own issues to deal with, his own life to live and felt smothered by this guy.

This guy has gotten this reaction from others IRL, so there's something important to explore. Giving him what he needs is one thing - helping him to learn what keeps people from wanting to be close to him is even better.

Ugh, Jersey, that situations sounds so stressful. I hope your landlord is understanding and that this jerk backs off. I bet he's the type that people roll their eyes at - often.

Survived my assignment with a migraine (which is more bearable at the moment, thankfully)....but I was on the verge of falling asleep - even with coffee and energy drinks. It was such a long, slow night. Anyhoo....picked up my daughter from my mom's house and took her to the bus.

I now have an hour before I have to be up to shower and head out to my neurologist appt. Not sure it's worth trying to go to sleep....but I will plan to grab 2-3 hours of sleep when I get back from that appt.

Hope everyone has a good day!

Thanks MUE-I need to also look at why I had myself so upset over it but I really do think the circumstances under which I live come into play. T today at 12...hopefully I can leave feeling better.

Good luck MUE I hope you manage to get some rest.