[Jordy]

Tomorrow I have my skills group at 6PM and I'm invited to a close friend's birthday party just afterwards. Out of convenience I think I will dress up for the party, put on make-up jewellry and so on before I go to group. Usually I'm very casual, no make-up, no jewellry or anything, and I think T will be a bit shocked. Will probably be a funny situation!

Has this happenned to you? How did your T react?

I used to come to T from work so I was always dressed business casual...I had off from work one day and arrived in jeans... He looked surprised and even commented... I just laughed at him and said doesn't everyone own jeans

T usually sees me in my work clothes, and because I'm a teacher, that can vary from a dress to blue jeans depending on what is going on at work, so unless I showed up in my concert dress or something, I don't think he'd really notice a change. It would have to be pretty drastic, and I'm not one to dress drastically different except when I'm headed to a performance.

[kororain]

I always try to appear before her in "business casual" attire, but we're in Seattle-ish, so business casual can be jeans and a nice top. I never dip below that for my sessions. Even if I was going somewhere afterward, I wouldn't wear just a t-shirt and sweatshirt or anything. I view sessions as a business transaction, so if I wouldn't wear the clothes to meet with my customers, I wouldn't wear the clothes to meet with T.

This rule is easy for me though because I live 5 minutes from her office. If it was out of my way, I would probably relax my rule.

[ThisWayOut]

I'm very casual and comfortable for therapy (jeans and a t-shirt) because I don't do much else these days (certainly not anything requiring dressing up). The one time I wore a button-up, T looked a bit shocked until I explained that I had not done laundry in way too long and had run out of clean clothes. I think my T would be really worried if I ever showed up in sweat pants or anything more "dressed-down" than I currently do because I hate wearing anything other than jeans. If I'm in something different (pj pants, sweat pants, yoga pants, anything loose and without a button and pockets), I'm really not functioning and it's a problem.
In the past, I would show up to therapy after work or school. Then my dress changed by the requirements of where I was prior to my appointment.
I would think T's note any changes in attire/appearance as it can sometimes be used to help determine functioning. Even if I don't shower all week, I will shower before therapy because 1) gotta keep up appearances, 2) I wouldn't want to tortue my T with a stinky, gross me for an hour in such a small enclosed space.
I've never felt the need to dress up when going to a doctor or healthcare provider, however I will make it a point to shower if I'm not really ill with something. Of course, I never really dress up for anything anyway...

[Jordy]

The thing with me is that I usually go straight from work where I have to wear jeans and a t-shirt or swaet shirt, or I see her before going to see my horses, so again I'm very casual. This used to bother me as I would never go to another dr dressed like that, but she's very casual too, so it's ok. Though I never went wear riding breeches or jodhpurs, she porbably wouldn't have minded, but I would have hated it.

[stopdog]

She noticed the time I showed up in a suit because usually I have time to change out of going to court clothes. I thought it was odd that she noticed. Now if it might happen, I try to warn her ahead of time so she can control her reaction better.

[melania]

I don't think he would have some specific reaction maybe just in his mind.

Okay long long time ago when he was only my pdoc and I came to him after my date with boyfriend wearing veeery short skirts, her look made me feel (i don't know even how to feel...), maybe just my imagination but I felt like he thinks that my skirts are too short and how can I come to doctor looking like that
But maybe it's just my stupid imagionation and fears I'm looking like a *****

[HazelGirl]

I come from work, so I'm always dressed in business attire. If I wear something new and she likes it, she will mention it. But that's about it.

[Bells129]

I went to a morning session wearing a really ragged looking jumper and some tracksuit bottoms and T asked me why I hadn't changed out of my pajamas....!!!!!

She'll comment when I'm in my wheelchair, but that's about it.

[scorpiosis37]

My T has seen me in just about every style of dress. Usually I'm going to or from work, so I'm dressed in my professor clothes-- a dress and heels or black slacks, blouse, and blazer. However, sometimes I'm going to or from the gym, so I'm wearing lululemon-- yoga pants and sports top. Once or twice she has seen me in sweats and glasses when I've been recovering from surgery. This past week, I was going on a date right after therapy so she saw me in a low-cut dress with sexy high-heel boots. If I'm dressed up, T will compliment my outfit. If I'm in sweats, she'll tell me I still look just fine. I don't think T cares much what I wear. I just show up dressed for wherever I am going afterwards.

[precaryous]

I always wear casual..jeans and a cotton shirt. I have several blue cotton t shirts..they are comfortable, so I wear them. Present T asked me about how I appear. It must seem to her that I always wear the same clothes. Ha. No, they are different shirts, jeans...always clean. I prefer cotton because it's comfortable. I prefer blue because I don't care for black t shirts.

I don't wear makeup anymore. She asked about that. I used to wear Clinique...make up is too expensive. Mascara and eye liner just smears down my cheeks because I am either crying or rubbing my face in anxiety.

I let my hair grow until I can't stand it anymore..then get it cut short. Just had it cut and she remarked about it.

I need new tennis shoes.

Ok, I'm a mess...but I am clean and I show up.

Oh, my outfit must look pretty weird because I carry a Dooney-Bourke Mickey Mouse styled purse, also. I visited DisneyWorld with the family for the first time last year and it was a gift. It reminds me of my great vacation, is stylish and makes me happy...and no calories! Lol win-win!

[musinglizzy]

I'll wear anything. I don't care. But, I am showered and what I wear is clean. But I'm one who'd go out in public in my PJ's (which usually consist of character boxers and a t-shirt...but, being female, I have undies on underneath! LOL). The only thing I do every time is wear sandals or some sort of shoe that slips off. I like to have my feet/legs under me when I'm sitting down.

[tinyrabbit]

I think my style of dress is usually the same but one time I turned up in make up including dramatic flicky eyeliner (don't normally wear any to T). He didn't comment on it until I brought it up.

T and I usually talk at night, and if we are on skype i am usually in my pajamas. However when she came to visit a couple months ago, she went to go see where i work and i was dressed up, and also, i saw her one day after giving a presentation and was all dressed up. She kept saying " look at YOUUUUU!" Haha. She usually sees me when i am knackered

[nottrustin]

I think I have worn jeans a couple of times. I tend to dress up more especially if I am coming from work. Especially in the summer I like to wear skirts or little dresses for the comfort. On day I did go from her appointment to an awards banquet for one of the kids so I was dressed up more...she doesn't tend to comment on what I am wearing specifically but she will comment if I am wearing something she likes or the two colors that she really likes on me.

[freefallin]

Before I stopped going to doctors because I realized they couldn't help me anyway, I would usually sort of dress up to appointments since I never got out of the house much otherwise. My psychiatrist started commenting on my heels once, and it made me uncomfortable. I can't really say why. I just kind of felt like, "Why the hell are you paying attention to my shoes?" He said something like it must take a lot of coordination to walk in them, and I murmured something about having to get used to them when you're as short as I am.

[grimtopaz]

When my depression began to lift, I began wearing makeup and dressing much better (e.g. wear colors). For a while she told me I looked "lovely" or that she liked certain aspects of my outfit (e.g. "cute shoes" or "I like your nail polish" or "that color looks good on you). Since I've been dressing "well" for a while now, she has stopped making comments.

(we are both female)

[stopdog]

It would piss me off for the therapist to comment on my clothing and for them to tell me how they think I look or if they approve of my choices. I would probably start wearing sweatpants and old t-shirts.

[freefallin]

I have had several female therapists tell me they liked my shoes or my dress or whatever. That didn't bother me because, whatever, females do that...comment on one another's outfits. It only made me uncomfortable the time a male psychiatrist commented on my high heels because, in my mind, the only time a guy comments on a woman's outfit is when he's either attracted to her, gay (not the case with him), or if she's wearing something like a t-shirt with his favorite singer on it or something.

[BlessedRhiannon]

My T usually notices if I'm significantly more dressed up - but she'll usually just ask if I had to go in to the office or give a presentation. I typically work from home, so she usually just sees me in jeans and a casual top. My T knows that if I have to be in the office before our session, I need a few minutes to switch mindsets, so I think her asking is a way for her to judge how we need to start the session.

[Chartres]

My T never comments but I sometimes notice him noticing if I am wearing something new, like when I got a new purse, or if I'm more dressed up than usual. Once we were both wearing the exact same (unusual) shade of purple which I know he noticed but did not comment on.

[CantExplain]

I once went to Madame T in my nazgul costume, but she totally underreacted and that spoiled my fun.

[Freewilled]

I don't dress up purposefully....I'm thankful I don't have a female T because I know I would be afraid of being judged. I always wear jeans and a hoodie and often the same thing. Clean. I just don't care, I guess. I feel like clothes don't really matter, or shouldn't matter when you go for therapy but what do I know