the words they use

My T used counter transference a couple of weeks ago..That was the first time I had heard him mention anything in that realm!

My T seems to have the same philosophical perspective. However, my T has used the word transference on several occasions. She only did this after I started experiencing these feelings and she knew I wanted to understand them on an intellectual level. (Which, is my most valued defense mechanism). She never discounted my feelings. I've since picked the process apart and it helps to understand intellectually but it might also hinder my therapy in sometimes because I've dissociated my feelings in some ways. All I know is that this is the only way I feel I can do it and I'm so blessed to have a T that is so kind and patient with my "two steps forward/one step back" progress. How could you not have transference for a T so attuned?

My T may have used it a couple of times after I used it. But I think we non-T's use "transference" as a catch-all for a wide range of feelings directed toward our therapists, and it has a more narrow definition in academic psychology.

And, from what I understand from my therapist friends, it's kind of old school and not a term that's readily used, though the concept and its impact in therapy is still alive and well.

Nope...my T has never used it. We've discussed the therapeutic relationship and how important that is, but we have not discussed transference. I think she'd see that as more psychodynamic, which is not her style. We've discussed attachment in therapy in general as well.

No I can't say either t has. When I told my ex t about my feelings for her she used the FEELING word not transference.
Current t describes how she gave her own t so much power over her and how she had so many different feelings towards her but not transference.

My T knows I like to read up on things. He has mentioned transference, countertransference, attachment and projective identification. Also, the johari window - apparently I was the first client ever to have heard of that before T mentioned it.