My therapist forgot me.

In my last session (3 weeks after being back after my T's last long summer vacation) - my T said to me that she was thinking of going on holiday again, abroad, in the next week but she wasn't completely sure.

At the end of our session, she said she would let me know over the weekend if she was OR wasn't going on holiday.

Well, I stayed in over the weekend and she didn't call. Part of me thought I should call, but as she works from home, calling at the weekend seemed unfair as it was her days off.

Monday came and there was still no call or communication. At this point my usual session was only a few days away and I was not sleeping properly and really worrying. One of my friends also sees her, so I called this friend who confirmed our T had told her she was going away and that she had had her session rearranged so she still had a session that week before T left. She couldn't be sure which exact day she was going away though.

On Tuesday, I bit the bullet and decided to contact my T via email. She wrote back a short email confirming she was away that week and she would see me the next week.

My usual session was less than a day after I got this email from her. I was so close to turning up as usual and feeling so stupid. I just felt so forgotten.

I know T's are only human, however, I'm sure if I had been seeing a client for 3+ years on the same day (this series of therapy) I would remember that when I was due to fly out on the same day that something would niggle on my mind that I needed to tell my client I would be away. It felt short notice. I feel like she is punishing me for wanting to leave.

What your T did is unprofessional. She's responsible for managing her schedule in a way which is respectful and considerate of the people who keep her in business and who depend upon her in a very personal way. I encourage you to print what you've written here and share it with her. I would expect a full, sincere apology. I absolutely hate paying for sessions where we must discuss my T's missteps like this, but hopefully it helps you work through these issues as they certainly arise outside the therapeutic relationship also.

So sorry your T was inconsiderate! Hope you're taking extra good care of yourself, doing something fun or healing instead.

Really sorry to hear that!

A few weeks ago, my pdoc did NOT show up for my appointment. It was my second appointment with him - at the one before that he'd just diagnosed me with bipolar and gave me meds. You'd think that they'd consider that that's a rather unstable situation right? Especially as I expressed how much I did NOT want to be at appointments or on meds? But nope. No call. The pdoc that was there covering for him had NOTHING written down about me having an appointment. And when I did see the pdoc again - not a word was said about it. I'm not going back to him.

Sorry that your T has been letting you down so much.

I'm so sorry that happened to you, it breaks my heart.

I agree with Leah. Share this with your T. What she did was not professional and you deserve an apology.

It is quite unsettling when they forget. The first one I ever saw moved to a different building several blocks away and failed to tell me. The cleaning people at the old building told me. It did make one take pause.
I am sorry she remembered to tell your friend and not you.

What do you mean, you stayed in? Don't you have voice mail or a cell phone?? I mean, I might stay in, but not because I'm waiting for a phone call. That seems problematic in itself. Sort of web-like. Like things have to fit into a certain defined place or mold to be acceptable. Like you're purposely limiting your resources or opportunities. I might be saying more about myself than you, however.

I'm sorry she forgot to tell you. I think it's natural to feel hurt by that, but I doubt your therapist did it on purpose.

so sorry to hear that.its awful!

I'm sorry you've been hurt again by your T. Her behavior is unfair and unprofessional. She seems to be, at best, a "hobby" T--not really committed to her profession any longer. You really do deserve more professional, and consistent treatment.

My T has never called my mobile (personally I think she's lost that number or hates the price of calling mobiles) she has my home number, but I stayed in because I wanted to speak to her because she had mentioned me having a week off if she didn't go away and that we would chat it through.

I see what you mean though. I did feel a bit bothered that I had to wait.

Am I justified for feeling angry or forgotten? Am I being too harsh? :/

I am sorry that your T did this to you, I would feel deeply hurt too.

I'd be really pissed having to stay home waiting for her call- she could have mailed/texted you.
That she forgot- well, as bad as it is, it does happen sometimes. Please, try not to take it personally.

So frustrating. Sorry this happened. I had a T forget something fairly important about me, after seeing him for 2 yrs. I was really hurt.

Rect0pathic, I feel for you! What your T did was so hurtful and very not OK. You shouldn't have to find out whether she was going away on vacation from a friend, or by asking T when she promised she would call to let you know. Your T shouldn't have made you wait all weekend for her call like that. I understand about staying in. I would have done so, too, because you wanted the chance to speak with your T and not miss her call. She disappointed you and made you feel unwanted by her careless actions. You deserve to be treated with caring respect. Please keep us updated on how you're doing. I send you many warm fuzzy blankets.