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#1
Sep 30, 2013, 10:43 AM
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...after send T drunk email (or four).
 Do you think she'll even read them all? There are parts in the emails that make absolutely no sense (" I wish I could give you the tomato ") and parts that I didn't state clearly ("I miss you, etc.") that could be misinterpreted. I am emotionally numb to it all. But...its too late to just cancel my session and I know it will likely be addressed. Should I expect to be yelled at? Have my "email privaleges" revoked? I just don't know what the heck i'm doing anymore or why i'm in therapy. I'm clearly wasting her time here. Anyways, have you contacted T drunk before? What are the most likely repercussions?
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#2
Sep 30, 2013, 11:41 AM
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Really no telling how the T would respond. Mine would probably not be happy with me and would let me know that my behavior was not appropriate. I've never been in that situation though, so I'm going on how he usually is about things he sees as errors in judgment on my part.
Some might limit your email privileges (no one really likes to get those kind of emails/phone calls/texts, etc.), but others have no problem with it. What is your sense of your T's most likely response based on past experiences with your T (not your imagination taking hold here; think about how your T generally interacts with you). |
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#3
Sep 30, 2013, 11:42 AM
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You are not going to be yelled at. It will be addressed. We often say what we really mean when we are drunk but usually do not have the balls to say them when not drunk sooooo she will want to discuss what the content of the email might have meant. She also might discuss boundaries in regards to sending emails and set up rules. Either way you are going to feel icky about the situation until it is over.
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Sep 30, 2013, 11:47 AM
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LOL. When I was younger, I got stoned and left a long rambling voice message on my T's voicemail. I even called back to leave more because I "just wanted to use the whole machine." I had been with her for a couple years and.... well, she sort of laughed, but was not happy. I think you are testing your T. Good luck. |
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Sep 30, 2013, 12:04 PM
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Sierra and Moxie,
T actually emailed me back this morning. She replied to the last one I sent asking her not to read the rest of the emails and said that she hoped I was having a good time. She also said that she had not read the other emails, but before she deleted them without reading them, she wanted to be sure that I really didn't want her to read them. So, needless to say big sigh of relief. I did ask her to go ahead and delete them, but I also summarized the general points I had made in the email because they weren't any big dark secrets. I feel so much better about it now and definitely won't be doing that again. I think its time to go back in my little shell, because i am just doing the most. So extreme about everything, excessive "socialness" or excessive isolation  Tollhouse, that makes me feel better lol. Now that you have made that point - I wonder/ think that I might be too... she's told me before that I test her, I just never realize it when I do.
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Sep 30, 2013, 12:34 PM
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Haha I laughed at the tomato bit
 Totally get this. Sending drunk texts or emails is one of my worst fears! So far I've done it once - an upset rambly drunk text in the small hours of the morning. I wondered if she was going to go crazy at me for the time it was sent at or the content (I mentioned a SI incident) but she didn't bat an eyelid. So glad you managed to deal with this without it being awful! Your therapist sounds cool in how she responded to it too 
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Sep 30, 2013, 12:45 PM
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Once my T called me when I was drunk (DURING the day).
Convo went like this: Me: Hullo? T: Hi DR, it's Dr... Me: Oh hey, what's up? T: Just wanted to touch base with you. Your last email was a bit... concerning. Me: No need to be concerned. I'm just me, trying to be me... Whilst not being me. T: Sorry, what? Me: Uhm, I'm not in the best of senses. T: It's 11am. Are you drinking? Me: .... Mayyybe? T: DR! Me: Yes, ok. I am drinking. T: Are you safe? Me: Who's REALLY safe? T: ... We'll discuss this soon. Do you have to drive anywhere? Me: I have a class in about an hour. T: No, No you don't. Stay home. Me: Sure. T: Well, stay out of trouble. The next session was about my drinking habits and why I'd want to drink before going to class. -_-
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#8
Sep 30, 2013, 01:15 PM
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Quote:
"Who's REALLY safe?" Classic.... 
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#9
Sep 30, 2013, 01:25 PM
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Quote:
hahahah
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Sep 30, 2013, 03:35 PM
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((((teal))))) glad it worked out with your T and you were able to catch her in time not to read them
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Sep 30, 2013, 09:27 PM
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Sounds like your T responded well.
I drunk emailed my exT just short of 20 messages after finding out she was going to terminate me. Not one of my finer moments, but in retrospect, I'm not sure how much I regret it. At least I said a lot of the things I had wanted to say for a long time. |
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#12
Sep 30, 2013, 09:28 PM
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That said, I have not gone back to see what I actually wrote. I'm impressed you were able to do so.
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