Combing T's hair.

Lol! But it's okay if a vp candidate pays $400 for a haircut? What if IT's t pays for a blowout? It's not the actual combing of her hair we object to, it's the context. Something about it. But I feel i should add a disclaimer, I hug my t! And I haven't even had my coffee yet. We are a think tank, ya know?? Does your h ever comb or brush your hair? Poll?

I have a feeling IT is not looking for a child needs to be met here....just saying and could be wrong ....

The mods might delete this post, but I have to say this...surely you are just jerking us all around. This can't be serious. Do you really think you should be able to choose your T's hairstyle?

Heck no! No one but my hairdresser gets to comb my hair.

And Mommy stopped combing my hair probably when I was 7 or 8, and even then she only messed with my hair for special occasions when she wanted it curled or something. Kids are quite capable of combing their own hair. Moms normally don't do this for their children beyond a very young age because kids need to learn these hygiene skills for themselves as some point.

Very interesting idea but if you both mutually want to do it than I see no harm in doing so.

Wow, I'm surprised at the reaction here. Is combing someone's hair more intimate than a hug? Maybe ? Maybe not?

It may be a real question. IT, real question or joke?

I would consider combing hair (grooming another) to be much more intimate than a hug (I recognize there are degrees of hugs - but still not equal to grooming another person in my opinion).

yeah, it seems a bit wierd and inappropiate to me too.................

I would not considering hugging my T either.

Actually, I think it is. Hugs are given in passing quite frequently without being "intimate". I hug family members in greeting, church members during the sharing of the peace, co-workers when I haven't seen them for a few months after summer vacation. It isn't a huge deal for most people.

Combing someone's hair, if you aren't their hairdresser, or their parent or very close friend (particularly beyond childhood and not for a special occasion like a formal photo, date, wedding, etc.) is not a common interaction at all and is much more intimate in terms of physical contact and duration of that contact than a simple, quick hug.

Combing main T's hair would be impossible--dude is bald

No, but that's why i asked.

Can you imagine if you asked T to blow a raspberry on your own tummy? I'm trying to picture my T's face.

I would say a woman hugging a man (similar age) is more intimate then two people of the same sex, both heterosexual hugging.

As for a young man combing a young woman's hair, I would say that was intimate.

I would never ask my T such as thing as it's blatantly obvious what I really want, and it isn't being her hairdresser.

That's a good point. It infuriates me when my mother tries to adjust my hair at this late date, especially since she does it without asking, and not just because she usually stabs me with a fingernail. It's because she acts like she owns me. She also doesnt like me to dye it red. No discussion.

I've only read about men brushing their wives' hair in old-timey books.

I can't decide why this is setting off my creepy radar so heavily. Is it the actual act of combing T's hair? Or is it saying that it's about hair combing when the urge is obviously being disguised because it is about so much more.

Either way, my answer is no, would not comb T's hair and would not want to do so.

Okay, That's my goal when I get my 6-pack!

All agreed that rasberries are going too far

Yeah but surely it's the T in the wrong here for being so naïve.

Yes, I really wonder about a T who would actually consider allowing this. I can understand discussing it; that would be entirely appropriate, but giving a client the indication that this would somehow be appropriate is really odd.

I'm amazed at how much people know from so little.

My take on it is that most everything (but not everything), the value of it is in talking about it. TAlking about what a hug means. talking about what not hugging means. talking about what coming hair means. talking about what it doesn't mean.

I don't agree that combing her hair is necessarily as disastrous as some people think. I don't think there is anyway to know. It sounds like the T was very thoughtful about it.

On the therapist's side, sounds like a great way to get in all kinds of professional legal and ethical trouble.

I think someone's just trying to get a reaction. I feel as if members are being manipulated by these sort of threads.

Maybe he owns a long comb