Been going to this psychologist for almost 3 years and have only dreamt of him twice........ very vague dreams like I'm hiding from him or something like that...... anyway..... Last night I had a dream that he was also a hairdresser, and that his wife talked me into making an appointment to get my hair done with him! -- isn't that weird??

So in my dream I set up an appointment for a Saturday-- to get a perm. I get there and he is setting things up... he leaves and comes back with a glass of wine..... starts drinking it while he's getting towels and such gathered. Then..... he starts to braid my hair! Being one that rarely speaks up for myself I just sat there. I left with nicely braided hair and no permanent.

What could this mean?? I have been thinking about quitting therapy...... maybe it has something to do with that??? What an odd thing to dream about...... I get braids when I asked for a permanent.....maybe I've really lost it!!

[pamelasu]

I looked up some of the things from your post and this is what I came up with....

To dream that you are at the hairdresser, you are looking to change your attitude. You are ready for change and moving in a different attention.

[pamelasu]

sorry there was more to my last post......I hit the continue button too soon! LOL!!

To see a counselor or dream that you are one, suggests that you are seeking for some support and direction in your life. Pay important attention to what the counselor is saying and/or doing. Your dream is trying to convey a message that you need to think about and possibly act upon.

To dream that you hair is in braids, represents your neat and orderly way of thinking. It symbolizes your determination and a strong mindset.

To dream of drinking wine, refers to festivity, celebration, and companionship.

To see or use a towel in your dream, suggests that you need to deal with your emotions in order to move forward in your life. You need to find some sort of a resolution. Alternatively, it represents completion, a fresh start and new transition.

Hey pamelasu!

Sometimes that "continue" button can be a bit tricky! LOL!

Hey, thanks for the info on my dream... how did you get all that, if you don't mind me asking?

It's all very interesting... like the braided hair-- I don't recall ever dreaming of being in braids before-- but I do like things in order for the most part. And the idea of the towel meaning I need to find a resolution-- that's for sure!

Thanks so much for your info! It's much appreciated-- maybe I haven't totally "lost it", just yet!!

mandy

[JustBen]

I'll take a stab at this one, Mandy. Those standard symbols are interesting, but it's helpful to look at what all this means specifically to you.

You're going to a psychologist for therapy, and instead he's doing your hair. You're expecting a perm, and instead he braids your hair. He starts off with a glass of wine.

QUESTIONS
You mentioned that you're thinking of ending therapy with this guy. Why? Could it be that you're not getting from him what you expected? Are you expecting some real work that will change your life (good therapy), and instead he's just making superficial changes (changing your hair)? Are you expecting some permanent changes (a perm), but instead he's just making some quick superficial moves that don't actually make a lasting change (braiding hair)?

Who else do you know that drinks wine? Do you? In what situations? If you usually associate wine with relaxation, maybe you're thinking that this therapist isn't really into the work anymore. You don't feel like he's working hard with you.

What happens with you when you actually do get your hair fixed? Do you talk with your stylist about your problems? Does he or she offer advice, etc, or just a sympathetic ear? Is that what you think your therapist is doing? Offering no more support than your stylist?

Just some stuff to think about. Good luck.

[LMo]

whoa, Ben. You asked some awesome questions. Remind me to contact you with my dream reports! Seriously - you are GREAT at this!!!!!!

Mandy, I have nothing to add to what Ben said -- but I do hope you figure it out! It's unsettling to have dreams like that!

[pamelasu]

I went to this website and looked in the dream dictionary. LOL!

http://www.dreammoods.com/

[Perna]

Yes, Mandy, really weird/neat dream! Thanks for sharing it. If it were my dream, I would notice that the psychologist which was working on the "inside" of my head was now working on the outside (or, my "whole" head). Since I've been thinking of leaving therapy, this shift from inside to outside would also make sense and I'd concentrate on the "outside"/the physical leaving of therapy and my feelings about that (rather than the "inside" which would be what we'd been discussing/working on in therapy all this time). I ask for a "permanent" -- I'd note that word here; wanting something or being afraid of something permanent as well as hair style? I'd also note he gave me braids, which are totally different, from what I thought I was getting and from anything I've known before. Also, they're not "permanent." I'd think about this, about my thoughts on therapy and my T and how we work together. Wine to me is a "comfortable," social drink which would make me think I feel he's a comfortable/social person but that he didn't give me a glass, that I feel that he doesn't feel I'm that way (yet). If it were my dream, I'd be disappointed I didn't get a glass of wine also and take it to mean we may not be on the "same page." When I went to therapy I'd tell my T the dream and discuss it all with him, she what his thoughts were about my thinking about leaving and about he and I not being on the same page.

Much to think about Ben-- thank you for taking the time to reply-- I really really appreciate it!

First, this is the 5th time in the almost 3 years with this therapist that I've contemplated quitting...... I fear getting close-- yet desire it so much, and fear if I let someone down they will leave me or tell me to leave-- so I tend to be the one to "run" first..... I've quit every job I've ever had within about 18 months of starting. (just realized this while seeing my current therapist--I used to believe there were VALID excuses to quitting).

About expecting permanent changes --- well I think my dream is actually flipped from what's really going on..... the psychologist pushes for permanent change and it scares the *heck* out of me! I've never meant to, but it's been noticed by my psychologist, that I dissociate in such situations(when I'm feeling pushed).... I've been embarrassed about him noticing that.

I think you're right on about wine being associated with relaxation(I think of it that way). It does amaze me and I've pointed it out to my psychologist-- how he can appear to be so relaxed yet at the same time I'm feeling such anxiety--like I'm on the "hot seat"!! Maybe that's why I didn't have any wine with him in my dream-- relaxation doesn't exist for me in therapy.

About the hairdresser part.....Here's an inner secret that most don't know about me....... I loathe getting my hair done...... I don't care for small talk and struggle to feel comfortable with someone that is so close physically to me. I've always cut, fixed and colored my hair on my own.... the only time I go to the hairdressers is once a year to get a Perm.(helps my hair to hold styles)

Recently in a session, I felt VERY defensive and went away feeling like he doesn't "get" me at all!!! or else he wouldn't have said what he said..... but I've not talked to him about that session..... if I show defensiveness I fear it will be mirrored in the person I am interacting with-- which then only further escalates my defenses!! argh!!! ---this kind of situation can be the reason I quit some things.... I really am afraid of confrontation-- I don't want to be the bad guy.

Hope this post didn't seem to be all over the place-- I get a bit jumbled when I try to express my inner-self.

thanks again for your ideas and thoughts-- they're very thought provoking.

mandy

Thanks LMo!

And thanks pamelasu for that link!

Perna,

thanks for your reply-- I always appreciate your posts..... they're so insightful and thoughtful.

Interesting about the idea of the "whole" head-- inside and out!!
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yes, as I've replied back to Ben, I did feel recently that my psychologist just wasn't "getting" me and it left me upset and feeling defensive-- I got a response I hadn't expected.

also the "wine subject"... I kind of explained that also in the post to Ben.... I think it's that my T. is relaxed and I'm not.

Yes, talking to my T. would be the best.... I've just got to get the courage to do that! I don't want to get him upset.

Thanks again Perna, I really appreciate your reply!

mandy

[Fuzzybear]

[Fuzzybear]

Thanks Fuzzy!!
LOL!!!! that's what I feel like sometimes!!

[(JD)]

Interesting thread. I agreed with JustBen to begin with... glad to see it seems to fit too

Rather than change Ts, I would first discuss your dissatisfaction with him first. TC

[Sarah116]

HA! You are brave to admit that dream I must say! A lot of mix I suppose?

Thanks Sky! Yes, discussing things with him is something I must think about doing........
as hard as it may be.

Thanks Sarah! I did have a brave moment.

mandy

[jennie]

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Do you talk with your stylist about your problems? Does he or she offer advice, etc, or just a sympathetic ear? Is that what you think your therapist is doing? Offering no more support than your stylist?

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JustBen