Do you feel that you are your T's favourite?

I wish!! lol.

I fantasize that T thinks of me in a positive way outside of the therapy room - that how I feel actually matters to him and affects his feelings. But that's wishful thinking on my part. The rest of me tends to believe he is tired of me and at best, I bore him. At worst....I won't even go there.

She tells me I'm extremely intelligent all the time and that I've made amazing progress on my own getting a hold on my disorders. I think she likes me, but then again on any given second I'll be thinking she thinks I'm an absolute worthless idiot so who knows.

I was in a group once, for about 2 years, and it was very clear the T had a favorite member in the group. What made it disturbing, and I think in hindsight another sign that this T was impaired, was that this member's background of abuse was probably the most horrific, if assessed purely on an objective level. It set up a sick dynamic of abuse competition among some of the members, as it made severity of abuse--and in group acting out--the standard by which people deserved and received attention. Of course, this was an extreme example, but it could be a similar dynamic at work behind the scenes.

I don't know if I'm a favorite... I don't even like to think about the "others". I mean in my logical mind, I know she's a therapist and that's what she does. But I like to pretend I'm on the only one sometimes. I hate seeing other clients come or go from her office. Or I think that I worked with her while she was in graduate school doing her training and again now, so maybe I'm one of the people who has known her the longest.

I always enjoyed fantasizing that I was. On more than one occasion I certainly felt like I was at least a little special to her. She said something to me during our last appointment that I will hold in my heart forever, she told me that my effect on her has been profound. I of course was struck speechless at this and not able to verbalize the question "How?" So I shall never know...

Ha! The day I become T's favorite will be the day that SHE becomes the crazy one.

Do you think this can happen in individual therapy, where a patient might feel that the attention and sympathy they receive from the therapist is (or is assumed to be) correlated with the extent of abuse, and related acting out in session?

I think I probably am one of his favorites, but I don't necessarily want or need it to be that way. We have a close relationship, get along super well, work well together, etc. I don't compare what we have to what he and other clients share. If he has a similarly great relationship with all of his clients, then fantastic! In fact, I have just always assumed he did, but maybe it isn't true. He has said to me before, "not everyone is going to like you" (in both professional and personal life), so I expect he has clients who don't like him and so they don't develop a close relationship. I have worked in mental health for a few years and there are have indeed been patients who simply did not like me. That's fine, it's not going to be sympatico with everyone.

I feel that i am her favourite now.

other people tell me that im Ts favorite

HAHAHAHA NO WAY! I once got him so annoyed that he yelled at me.

I'm just not sure whether I would classify myself as one of the worst or one of the boring ones.
I'm pretty sure I am THE most resistant to therapy, though.

No, because, that, to me, would be a bit silly. My psychologist is doing her job.

(granted, I guess it would be nice to know I was her favorite person with whom to work, and I could see why, ... we tend to really work together, as apposed to just her working to help me, but she's done a LOT, and met a lot of people, so I hardly think I'm the star pupil)

I don't feel this way anymore. I want to, though.

Nope. I want to get to the point where it truly doesn't matter to me whether I am his favorite or not. That would be progress

I don't know about that. I'm not used to thinking of myself as a favorite. My therapist goes to great lengths for me but I believe he does for most of his clients, if not all. I have reasons why I might be his favorite and I know he likes me a lot and values our therapeutic relationship. I really don't think he thinks in terms of favorite clients though. As far as i'm concerned, my therapist and i have a special relationship (he even said so) and whether or not he has an equally special relationship with every one of his other clients is none of my business.

I think I'm the youngest client she sees, and she always looks happy to see me so sometimes I wonder if I might possibly be her favorite. However, tbh I'm probably not, ive only seen her a little while (although twice a week) and some people must have seen her for years.

I feel like there's nothing wrong with letting yourself believe that, even if you know it's probably not realistic.

I don't know, but I do think she enjoys working with me. I like to imagine I'm one of her favorites

since we are the only one she works with now its probably safe to say yes :P

I hope so. So does go above and beyond what most therapists do with their clients for me, and has said on the phone to one of my family members that she likes me a lot...but I don't think I'll ever know if I'm the favorite. Makes me feel a bit sad to think that I might not be.

no~ she'd be setting herself up for disappointment. she's probably not even sure if she likes me yet. These things take time with me.

I don't think so, as I am just for few months with my T now... I do think though that probably most Ts, as most people in general, have clients which they prefers over others. I think that I might be in the "better" half, like a typical polite student with good marks and maybe one day I'll belong to the favorite group But even if not, it will be okay as long as my T doesn't let me know that she doesn't like me...

Yes, she's told me I am.

Of course that smaller part of me wants to be T's favourite, well actually to be T's only client, but l think it wouldn't be helpful to me if T expressed this and l would be disappointed in him if he did, l would hope all his clients are important to him.