Do you feel that you are your T's favourite?

Since Ts are human, I am sure they have clients that they like better than others (assuming that they consider every client unique and special anyway and *like* them).

The idea of being her favourite sounds comforting but I don't really believe it, let alone that I don't know about T's other clients, they might be way closer to her than I for what I know. However it is still good to know that my T has a few clients and cares enough about me to really do everything she can to help me see her weekly. So I know I'm a little bit special to her too, somehow. Maybe knowing that I'm "the favourite" would be a bit intimidating to me.

Actually I think that it might have taken place with my exT. He was very neutral with me even knowing about the abuse but when I disclosed some details, he told me that it is the most severe client's experience in his entire career (>30 years) and he started behaving a bit differently then. Not like treating me like an egg-shell but he was much more interested and somehow I felt that he liked me more than before. Like he was amazed that I still was able to have a "normal" and pretty good life and he wanted to hear more about it - how it was possible... But actually I am not so sure if I became his favorite or if I rather was just an extremely interesting case

My T has says he enjoys working with me and I believe him. I wouldn't want to be a favorite, or have a T who plays favorites for that matter. I have too much 'favored child performing in the spotlight' issues in my life. Normal is good.
I was the opposite of favorite with previous T. Not fun at all...


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I think T's begin to enjoy certain clients a bit more the longer that they work with them...they find them puzzling, funny, moving, empathetic to the clients...and in general think about some of them or worry about some more than others...or think of better approaches to help them...

Just like we work on problem situations at work during our off hours to better handle them in the future...

Some clients have to be grumpy, belligerent, or offensive...and T's may have to work a bit harder to find empathetic feeling towards them...

Overall, good T's just want to do the best that they can and help as many as they can...some just don't want the help and/or are so abusive and untrusting that even T's can get frustrated or feel like another T with a different approach may be more helpful to that client.

I feel like we have a great relationship, and I hope he wants to help me...if that is even possible. Sometimes even the best T's can get discouraged...

They are trained to deal with all sorts and hopefully, just like a good parent, appreciate and care about each client in their own unique way and meet them where they can reach out to them...

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T has agreed that we have a very deep and meaningful connection. I don't necessarily think that I am her "favorite," but knowing my T, she works very hard to not have a favorite, and to value different clients for different things. That being said, she makes me feel special and very cared for, and that is good enough for me

I have a very meaningful and close relationship with my pdoc. I do think that I am special to her (for reasons that I won't list, because they are pretty specific).

I do know that out of all of the professionals that I have tried working with, my T and my pdoc are MY favorites

I know he enjoys working with me and cares deeply about me and my welfare. Does that make me his favorite? Heck if I know, nor do I really care. I honestly don't give his other clients much thought.

Only if he really enjoys frustration and a challenge. No, I really don't think I am a favorite.

His favorite? No. But I do feel he genuinely enjoys working with me and respects how hard I push myself in therapy. Hearing I am his favorite would be a dream come true though!

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Most definitely," says the five year old child in me that is responding.

I figure I'm in her top 10% of favorite patients, or I'm in the bottom 10%, no real clue on what end I'm on, though if I had to guess it would be the first one.

Im his nightmare, his deamon worst of all his patients so im special

I don't tend to think in terms of favorites or not, nor give other clients much thought. But I don't think the woman would recognize me out of context nor that she particularly thinks about me one way or the other. This is not bad for me as I think of her as a stranger.

Lol......