[sweepy62]

For those who know my analogy with my t about the therapy room being "our plane" and me being "the pilot" and her being the "co pilot, the flight time is 50 minutes and we are flying at 30,000 feet.

I went in there today hurt, angry anxious, ect... I was looking for reassurance from her, to continue my trauma work, and other work. I have been contemplating quitting therapy.

So I told my t: im here today feeling miserable and hurt, im your pilot, are you willing to take the wheel of the plane , when we hit (turbulence) feelings and emotions. ? Are you willing to land the plane if we hit an air pocket (dissocation).

My t said: I will always be by your side, remember two sessions ago I was helping you land the plane, I was at the wheel , almost landed it for you, but you took the wheel from me. Will you let me help you by letting me land the plane when you cant, let me be there for you?

I guess I felt very vulnerable at this point, and I agreed. We did talk about my sisters csa but only a bit. I did have the courage toopen up about other stuff not related to csa. She wished me a happy thanksgiving and told me she knew how much these holidays trigger me, so she told me to imagine her sitting next to me having dinner together. What do you think? Too mushy?

[unaluna]

Not too mushy! I think about my t being with me - we call it "team hankster". Diana Nyad doesn't make those swims by herself, from Cuba or across the English Channel - she has people on boats feeding her bananas and stuff. That's how I picture it! Not too Freudian...

[rainbow8]

I don't think it's too mushy at all! Your T sounds wonderful, and I love that airplane analogy!! It's so sweet of her to tell you to imagine she's sitting next to you at dinner! It sounds like it was a good session.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by hankster

Not too mushy! I think about my t being with me - we call it "team hankster". Diana Nyad doesn't make those swims by herself, from Cuba or across the English Channel - she has people on boats feeding her bananas and stuff. That's how I picture it! Not too Freudian...

I like that. Some authorities put too much emphasis on emotional self-sufficiency.

[Rive.]

Not too mushy at all. It gives hope that there are some Ts (people?) who can really, truly care and be there for one. It's so easy to say the words "I am there for you", "I will always be there" and blah de blah... but to actually follow through? That's a different story. Your T is a good'un.

[archipelago]

Your therapist obviously really gets it and cares. It sounds like she is trying to get you to take in an image of her so that you feel reassured when things get tough. That is a very good thing to do. If we have trouble self-soothing then using the kindness of the therapist is exactly what we need. And I agree that some put too much emphasis on self-sufficiency. None of really are. It's a myth. We are all interdependent and at times of trouble dependent. There is nothing wrong with that. It is just human.

[Leah123]

I love it Sweepy and am so glad it went that well. I know it can be a bit hard to feel we haven't disclosed enough, but keeping a reasonable pace I think can be an excellent thing and it sounds like you're making huge progress!

[Rzay4]

I'm so happy it went well.

[Wren_]

it would only be too mushy if it feels that way to you
it sounds like a good session from what you've shared

[sweepy62]

Originally Posted by tigergirl

it would only be too mushy if it feels that way to you
it sounds like a good session from what you've shared

Thank you