[caseygirl]

In my previous session, T said something to me that upset me and I never said anything. I only have monthly sessions and I don't see her for another week. I keep stewing on this comment.

T and I have communicated by e-mail at times, but do you think I should bring up this matter before this session or wait until my session with her? This has never happened before and I've seen T for 4 years now.

Thanks everyone.

[IndestructibleGirl]

I would email pretty much straightaway. You'll feel much better saying it out. Of course, you can't control her response, but you'll know you've done all in your power to resolve this glitch between you.

[stopdog]

I would write a letter rather than email. But I would write or call.

[BlessedRhiannon]

I would definitely address it sooner rather than later. Otherwise, you'll just keep thinking about it and making it worse. If your T is open to emails, certainly send one...but sometimes, stuff like this is better addressed in a phone call, so that you can give immediate feedback and there's no room for misinterpreting the words. If you feel more comfortable with email, maybe you could email your T, tell her what's bothering you, and then ask her to give you a phone call to discuss it.

[caseygirl]

Thanks for your responses, I did e-mail T now and wait for the outcome. I do feel better getting it off my chest. Will let you know.

[caseygirl]

Hi, I'm OP and she did respond by e-mail saying that she is happy that I told her and we will discuss it next week at my session. I kind of wished she had called, but at least she knows and I won't have to sit stewing before the appointment.

Thanks for advice.

I'm glad you told her. I am a perfect example of what happens when you don't ha. I'm not seeing my ex-T anymore we terminated mutually (i call it I graduated) awhile back, but there is this one session we had that I never told her how I felt about it (she yelled at me and it was horrible) and now it won't leave me alone so I had to call her for "one more session" after termination so I can tell her how much she hurt me. If we don't talk, it don't go away, apparently!! so i get to do that fun thing this afternoon.

[A Red Panda]

I'm really bad at telling my T when he upsets me until I'm calm and have sorted it out in my own head already. Then I can tell him in a past-tense way. He wants me to tell him right away and I think that's sorta what we're working on...

I also think that unless there's an emergency, most Ts will contact us in the same way that we contacted them.