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Old Oct 25, 2013, 10:04 PM
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Ok, so I googled her but there isn't much information. I looked her up in the phone book so I might know where she lives but I'm not sure if it's her or another person with the same surname.

What other methods are there to find out more about T?

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Old Oct 25, 2013, 10:08 PM
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Old Oct 26, 2013, 12:13 AM
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Old Oct 26, 2013, 12:29 AM
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PeekYou.com
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Search the email address itself
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Have done a few of these before
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Old Oct 26, 2013, 12:47 AM
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I can understand hitting Google or doing a facebook search, out of curiosity or a yearning for connection... but, ultimately, I don't think much good ever comes out of it.

Attempting further methods of obtaining information ...?

What are you trying to find out, and why? I'm not judging, but I think it could be more valuable to explore the reason behind the motivation than to keep digging for scraps of information that could potentially open cans of worms. Oh, the cans of worms!! At best, if you do find anything out, you could end up feeling guilty over how you found what you did, and then the uncomfortable position of pretending you don't know! Or maybe you find something that makes you uncomfortable, or jealous.. or makes you question something.. and again, you're not in the position to talk about it unless you reveal what you did, which could potentially cause issues in of itself.

Another method for finding things out about T might be to ask her what you'd like to know? A lot of Ts will self disclose to some extent - if they feel it's relevant, will be therapeutic, or will help to form a bond and/or build the relationship/trust. I would aim to keep questions respectful, though, and not too personal in nature (though where that line is will likely vary depending on the T)... and keeping in mind that she may decline to give you the answers - although it could be a valuable conversation all the same..
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Old Oct 26, 2013, 12:50 AM
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I can understand hitting Google or doing a facebook search, out of curiosity or a yearning for connection... but, ultimately, I don't think much good ever comes out of it.

Attempting further methods of obtaining information ...?

What are you trying to find out, and why? I'm not judging, but I think it could be more valuable to explore the reason behind the motivation than to keep digging for scraps of information that could potentially open cans of worms. Oh, the cans of worms!! At best, if you do find anything out, you could end up feeling guilty over how you found what you did, and then the uncomfortable position of pretending you don't know! Or maybe you find something that makes you uncomfortable, or jealous.. or makes you question something.. and again, you're not in the position to talk about it unless you reveal what you did, which could potentially cause issues in of itself.

Another method for finding things out about T might be to ask her what you'd like to know? A lot of Ts will self disclose to some extent - if they feel it's relevant, will be therapeutic, or will help to form a bond and/or build the relationship/trust. I would aim to keep questions respectful, though, and not too personal in nature (though where that line is will likely vary depending on the T)... and keeping in mind that she may decline to give you the answers - although it could be a valuable conversation all the same..
It is really all just curiosity, I was able to find out where a previous Therapist of mine grew up by doing some research of my own.
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Old Oct 26, 2013, 01:57 AM
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Curiosity? Seems a bit stalkerish...
If the T won't tell you why go behind her/his back and research? What kind of RS is it then?
I googled my T before I decided to go to him. I think the client is entitled to all info re the Ts professional life, anything else is up to the T to tell or not.
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Old Oct 26, 2013, 05:09 AM
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It's never just curiosity; it has meaning, and exploring the meaning is what therapy is. Otherwise, you're finding out about the T, but not about yourself.
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Old Oct 26, 2013, 05:31 AM
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Old Oct 26, 2013, 07:12 AM
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I don't "research" my T. I simply ask him if I am that curious (and generally I'm not). He'll answer if he wants, or let me know why he won't answer. I respect his boundaries about what he keeps private.
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Old Oct 26, 2013, 09:04 AM
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I have checked the website for the State Board of Healing Arts for each T I have seen, or that anyone in the family has seen. I do feel I have a right to know if there are past or pending disciplinary complaints involving a professional I am seeing. I check on our medical doctors as well when choosing a doctor.
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Old Oct 26, 2013, 09:33 AM
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Curiosity? Seems a bit stalkerish...
If the T won't tell you why go behind her/his back and research? What kind of RS is it then?
I googled my T before I decided to go to him. I think the client is entitled to all info re the Ts professional life, anything else is up to the T to tell or not.
True but everything in Therapy appears to be one way (just like confidentiality agreements are).

I don't think its stalkerish as much as we want our Therapists to be as realistic as possible (although it now looks like I won't be seeing one for a least a little while).
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Old Oct 26, 2013, 01:14 PM
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My t would usually tell me (without me asking lol) she's told me her birthday, details about her family e.g her mums name, where she used to live (country), her hobbies, holidays, where her friends live. My h gets frustrated that I shouldn't know so much!
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Old Oct 26, 2013, 06:10 PM
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I only look up licensing information - if there have been complaints and such about any new T I may see. And then I simply ask them directly what I want to know - what's their training, etc.
I think most people here find excuses for poor behavior (stalker-ish) and say we just did it because of X, Y, Z. If the situation were reversed, and T googled/facebooked/etc the client, the board is outraged by such unprofessionalism. Yet the client has no accountability. Tsk tsk. I don't agree. It's creepy to me.
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Old Oct 26, 2013, 06:24 PM
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I only look up licensing information - if there have been complaints and such about any new T I may see. And then I simply ask them directly what I want to know - what's their training, etc.
I think most people here find excuses for poor behavior (stalker-ish) and say we just did it because of X, Y, Z. If the situation were reversed, and T googled/facebooked/etc the client, the board is outraged by such unprofessionalism. Yet the client has no accountability. Tsk tsk. I don't agree. It's creepy to me.
It wouldn't bother me at all, although I can tell you that I don't think a previous Therapist of mine ever looked me up on Facebook since just before last elections she was trying to figure out my political views (and guessed incorrect) and if she had taken one look at my Facebook page she would have known what they were because of all of all the stuff I was posting at the time (but than again I am not sure what on my profile you can see without being my friend).
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Old Oct 26, 2013, 07:03 PM
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I recently found out where my T lives because I was verifying that his license was in good standing and noticed it tells where the T lives....which was bad because he lives in a kind of more dangerous area and now I find myself worried about him. I know he can take care of himself but I still feel scared....
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Old Oct 26, 2013, 07:05 PM
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I recently found out where my T lives because I was verifying that his license was in good standing and noticed it tells where the T lives....which was bad because he lives in a kind of more dangerous area and now I find myself worried about him. I know he can take care of himself but I still feel scared....
Well if he has lived there for a long time then I am sure he is safe.
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Old Oct 26, 2013, 07:15 PM
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Well if he has lived there for a long time then I am sure he is safe.
Actually I don't think he has lived there long because he recently moved back here after being out of State for awhile...Nonetheless, it really does not matter one way or the other cause its not something I'd feel comfortable talking to him about. I think it just shows how getting too google-y or "stalkerish" about our Ts can actually end up causing some discomfort. But I know the urge...
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Old Oct 26, 2013, 07:22 PM
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Actually I don't think he has lived there long because he recently moved back here after being out of State for awhile...Nonetheless, it really does not matter one way or the other cause its not something I'd feel comfortable talking to him about. I think it just shows how getting too google-y or "stalkerish" about our Ts can actually end up causing some discomfort. But I know the urge...
I know what you mean, I am starting to think that it was a mistake telling a few of the things that I knew about my last Therapist to her and I am starting to regret it.
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