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Ok, so I googled her but there isn't much information. I looked her up in the phone book so I might know where she lives but I'm not sure if it's her or another person with the same surname.
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Facebook, health grades if those fail maybe bing.com
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PeekYou.com
Court records, municipal, county, state and federal Intelius Google image search Search the email address itself Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest Locate family members, extended network search |
![]() Rzay4
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Have done a few of these before
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![]() PeeJay
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I can understand hitting Google or doing a facebook search, out of curiosity or a yearning for connection... but, ultimately, I don't think much good ever comes out of it.
Attempting further methods of obtaining information ...? What are you trying to find out, and why? I'm not judging, but I think it could be more valuable to explore the reason behind the motivation than to keep digging for scraps of information that could potentially open cans of worms. Oh, the cans of worms!! At best, if you do find anything out, you could end up feeling guilty over how you found what you did, and then the uncomfortable position of pretending you don't know! Or maybe you find something that makes you uncomfortable, or jealous.. or makes you question something.. and again, you're not in the position to talk about it unless you reveal what you did, which could potentially cause issues in of itself. Another method for finding things out about T might be to ask her what you'd like to know? A lot of Ts will self disclose to some extent - if they feel it's relevant, will be therapeutic, or will help to form a bond and/or build the relationship/trust. I would aim to keep questions respectful, though, and not too personal in nature (though where that line is will likely vary depending on the T)... and keeping in mind that she may decline to give you the answers - although it could be a valuable conversation all the same.. |
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Curiosity? Seems a bit stalkerish...
![]() If the T won't tell you why go behind her/his back and research? What kind of RS is it then? I googled my T before I decided to go to him. I think the client is entitled to all info re the Ts professional life, anything else is up to the T to tell or not. |
![]() FeelTheBurn, feralkittymom, gaia67, unlockingsanity, WikidPissah
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It's never just curiosity; it has meaning, and exploring the meaning is what therapy is. Otherwise, you're finding out about the T, but not about yourself.
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Asking her?
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“Change, like healing, takes time.”. Veronica Roth, Allegiant |
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I don't "research" my T. I simply ask him if I am that curious (and generally I'm not). He'll answer if he wants, or let me know why he won't answer. I respect his boundaries about what he keeps private.
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![]() anilam, feralkittymom, Rzay4
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I have checked the website for the State Board of Healing Arts for each T I have seen, or that anyone in the family has seen. I do feel I have a right to know if there are past or pending disciplinary complaints involving a professional I am seeing. I check on our medical doctors as well when choosing a doctor.
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I don't think its stalkerish as much as we want our Therapists to be as realistic as possible (although it now looks like I won't be seeing one for a least a little while). |
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My t would usually tell me (without me asking lol) she's told me her birthday, details about her family e.g her mums name, where she used to live (country), her hobbies, holidays, where her friends live. My h gets frustrated that I shouldn't know so much!
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I only look up licensing information - if there have been complaints and such about any new T I may see. And then I simply ask them directly what I want to know - what's their training, etc.
I think most people here find excuses for poor behavior (stalker-ish) and say we just did it because of X, Y, Z. If the situation were reversed, and T googled/facebooked/etc the client, the board is outraged by such unprofessionalism. Yet the client has no accountability. Tsk tsk. I don't agree. It's creepy to me. |
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I recently found out where my T lives because I was verifying that his license was in good standing and noticed it tells where the T lives....which was bad because he lives in a kind of more dangerous area and now I find myself worried about him. I know he can take care of himself but I still feel scared....
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Actually I don't think he has lived there long because he recently moved back here after being out of State for awhile...Nonetheless, it really does not matter one way or the other cause its not something I'd feel comfortable talking to him about. I think it just shows how getting too google-y or "stalkerish" about our Ts can actually end up causing some discomfort. But I know the urge...
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