[jacq10]

Looking for suggestions

[unlockingsanity]

Originally Posted by jacq10

Looking for suggestions

I email her.

[jacq10]

That's what I'm debating doing now... I don't know what I would say though .. other than to say I miss her ... which seems silly

[HealingTimes]

It depends on what your Ts policy is on contact outside of session?
When i am missing my T i journal about it, allow myself to feel it.
I don't text,call or email unless there is a specific thing i want to discuss/i am struggling.
If you think your T would be ok with it, feel free to email

[Rzay4]

I email or leave a voicemail to call and check in.

[jacq10]

Thanks guys... just emailed her :s we'll see what she says!

[rainbow8]

I email her or I read over emails she's sent me in the past. I think about nice things she's told me. I look at what she's given me, like a small heart, the birthday card we once made together, and a note she wrote to me.

Sometimes I do the opposite. I get busy with projects that require a lot of mental or physical energy, or I call or email friends instead. If I'm desperate, I'll read a novel.

I hope your T responds to your email.

[jacq10]

Thanks ((((rainbow))))

I text. Then worry all week that I text too much. Though I don't have proof of that. She has always showed the same patience and understand weather I send 1 text or 10.

[HealingTimes]

Rainbow-i re read text messages from my T too (instead of emails). I find it very reassuring and reminds me she is out there still.

I text her once a day for a check in which, whether I want to admit or not, helps immensely. I tell her I miss her, with no expectation that she says it in return, of course. But it helps to have the freedom to express it as often as I want. I know she won't judge me or refer me out because we've had the big transference talk. Also I have a voice recording that she made for me, and some music that she suggested so I have a little playlist. I put the playlist on repeat and shuffle so I can hear her voice.

[jacq10]

:'( She emailed me back the sweetest thing... saying that this is all normal given my history, and that she thinks I'm doing so well, etc. etc.

If its possible, I think I miss her more! Though I do feel better knowing that she knows how I feel and doesn't think I'm a total freak.

sigh.

Relationships are so complicated

Thanks for your input everyone
(((((((hugs to all))))))

[HealingTimes]

That'd such a lovely reply, jacq. Sounds like you have a wonderful T

[jacq10]

She's pretty amazing

[ar2004]

I try to distract myself with other things. I don't really feel it would be appropriate for me to contact her outside of therapy sessions unless if it was a serious emergency.

[tinyrabbit]

Glad you got such a lovely response.

Sometimes I email or text. My T doesn't necessarily respond. Otherwise I listen to a voice memo he recorded on my iPhone, read his website, remember things he has said to me or imagine what I'm going to say to him next session.

[harvest moon]

My T has a no contact policy between sessions. In the long run, it has proven rather useful and I've come to prefer it this way. Whenever I miss him, I use my imagination to feel close to him. I sing a song that reminds me of him; I look at the picture I have taken of his office; I imagine sleeping in his office, when it's empty and smelling the distinct smell of the room; I write my thoughts; I have imaginary conversations with him or imagine that we take long walks together; or I bring to mind comforting and warm word he has said to me over the years...

[yoyoism]

Sigh.. I think about her, daydream about having a session, try to remember previous sessions.. but mostly I distract myself with other things.