I feel like telling T that I love her

Not that I'm in love with her but that I love her. Have you ever done this?

No, but she told me she loved me once. She always hugs me and kissed my cheek one. Yet, I haven't been able to bring myself to tell her I Love her. I do love her. She has been like a real mother (one I've never had) to me and I recognize I'm really blessed.
If that's what you truly want to do, I hope you find the courage soon. I've never even considered tling my T. She probably already knows, anyway....

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Yes, I told Madame T several times.

Yes, and I'm so glad I did. Just prior to doing this, I had 2 friends who had died within a few months of each other. I am someone who doesn't want to regret leaving things left unsaid, and the last thing I said to each of them was that I loved them. That prompted me to bring it up with my T. He knew about the losses I had. I said something like, "You know I don't like to leave important things left unsaid. You also know that I respect you and appreciate you as a therapist. And I know I can say this to you without you taking it the wrong way--as a person, I love you." His response was wonderful. He said that it was important to say, and that he understood. So without saying it back to me (which I really wasn't looking for), he continued to demonstrate his compassion and caring through his actions and empathy during therapy.

He had to suddenly and unexpectedly quit his practice in July due to rapid onset of Parkinson's-related dementia. I miss him tremendously, and joined PC just yesterday as a way to cope with the grief and loss. I am so very glad that I told him I loved him, and I know that from one human being to another, he loved me, too.

Yes, she probably does already know. I'm so happy for you that you are blessed in this way.

Yes. Everyone I love, I tell them. Without wanting to sound melodramatic, I've been around too much death to waste my time holding back. With my therapist, I had a think beforehand. When I was sure it was "real", I said it. She took it in her stride and didn't freak out

Do it!

I have never said those "three little words" but my therapist knows how I feel about her, and is very understanding and compassionate about the situation.

I have said it and written it. Initially, I felt very sad (masked as angry) when she didn't say it back. Now I realize I would have completely freaked out if she HAD said it, because she has said other very nice things and it made me want to run out the door. I do know there is a unique kind of love in the room and for now, that is enough. Her boundary ended up working out perfectly even though it was very emotionally upsetting at the time.

Definitely tell your therapist. It is YOUR space and you will grow so much from it, no matter what the response. Nothing is wasted in therapy!

yes we tell each other i love you every day quite often ♥

I am teetering on the edge of telling T.... I do love T so so so so so much, but am a little fearful that it will freak T out (doubt it, though!) and change things (doubt that, too!)

However, if T said it back to me? That would freak me out. T can care for me, but I don't think I'd be comfortable if T said those three little words back.

I've told my T i've loved her many times, she obviously doesn't respond, because it's usually made a comment explaining something like one time I was telling her how lonely i am and I go 'i love you and all but you can't always be there for me and i'm lonely and sad....'

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It's beautiful.

Yes, it is beautiful. Thanks for this.

I don't love my T so no, I didn't. How could I? I know him only in his T role.
I think you should tell her if you do love her. However, T saying it back? Weird...

I couldn't read it all. Too long, short attention span