What was being hugged by your T like?

i would give anyhig to be hugged by my t right now. i miss her so badly. i need her to come home.

I want to give my new T a hug when I see her. My first breakthrough with her.

You better ask though if she hugs or not (I learned that the hard way).

She does as she hugs other clients.

I being seeing my T for 3.5 years. I asked her if She hugs after 6 months of seeing her. She said yes but I need to initiate it. It took me until 2 weeks ago to ask her for a hug. I was so nervous. I have social anxiety. She said something when we hugged but I was so nervous I didn't hear what she said. I now want to hug her after every session but scared to ask her.

I am terminating-firing- my analyst of 5+ years - on Monday. She has said she would hug me - well isn't that grand of her - at the end of my analysis, but I'm thinking there will NOT be a hug at the end of Mondays session.

Not sure it would be good for me anyway at this stage. A year ago.... Yes !, but now, I don't think so.

The time for hugs is long gone. I am wounded.

Wow. Thats interesting. I've had a few therapists over the years, none have ever hugged. I was under the impression they weren't allowed to. I'm not a huggy person anyway, so I don't know what I would get out of it. I never really had the urge to hug them, even with this last therapist whom I have grown very fond of.

It's interesting, I am sort of like you but when I really wanted to hug my Therapist of 4 years after our final session I felt very hurt and upset when she rejected it.

I haven't hugged my T since I was desperate back in the psych ward in september. However I really am feeling adrift lately and am going to ask for one on Monday, This hsould prove interesting since last time I didn't ask for a hug I just literally threw myself on her and clung.

I hugged my college therapist goodbye at our last session before I moved away, on impulse. I think I caught her off guard, but she was pretty natural about it. I had kind of a big sister thing going on with her. I don't even remember what that felt like exactly, just that it was positive. My current T is a man in his late 50s (I'm a 26 year old woman) and I never ever ever want to so much as bump fists with him. It just would feel so unsafe and weird.

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I agree that age difference plays a big part in me wanting to hug or not, until recently I rarely hugged anyone that was say 15 years older than me, but I seem to have relaxed that rule a but (still won't hug any relatives who are much older than me- not even my parents).

Pretty cool!!

You know what? Maybe it was an age thing. This last therapist was at least 10 yrs younger than me. I saw her as a younger sister type. I'm the oldest of my siblings. Even though I deferred to her guidance on the couch, I could tell there are probably several things she can learn from me as well. Our last session was last Monday, I didn't get the urge to hug but we parted with a handshake. At the last second as I was pulling away, she grasped my hand with both of hers. I wonder if that has any meaning?

Not really sure, but I sort of remember after a former Therapist of mine gave me a handshake at our final meeting I think she may have taken her other hand and placed it on top of mine but I don't really remember (I was too upset at the time for other reasons).