[googley]

Do you all miss your T between sessions? Even though I have been going back and forth between trusting/ not trusting, and having all this drama with my T, I still miss her. Between sessions I miss her. I have sessions on Thursday, but by Monday I feel like it has become so distant. I don't want to be dependent on my T. But I want to be there and feel safe. I hate this missing feeling. Does anyone else ever feel like this?

Sometimes I would just like to touch base with him about something or other, but I don't know that I'd go so far as to say I miss him. I have work and my husband and three very rambunctious boys to keep me pretty distracted. I read which takes me into my imagination. I keep my life pretty full. He's one hour out of my week. A very important hour, not one that I would want to miss, but he has that place in my life. Other people and things fill the rest most of the time. When I'm in crisis I need him more and I don't hesitate to see him or call him if I need his stabilizing input and support.

[chancy512]

I was just talking to my T about this today. I miss her so much during sessions. She is the only one I open up to, so I live and breath for my 50 min. on Mondays. She has always said I can call her anytime, and I have in desperate times. But I don't want to bug and bore her with my petty problems.
My T, is one of the most amazing women I have met. I trust her and respect everything she says to me. ( even if I don't want to hear it)

I read this forum daily and can relate to almost all the topics. I don't tend to post too often, but you are all in my thoughts daily.

Be well!

[3velniai]

I don't miss my T. But that's me, I don't miss anyone, ever, I'm not sure I know what this word actually means.

[deliquesce]

i go between missing them quite often to being distracted/busy like farmergirl to being so "no one can touch me, i'm indestructable etc" that there is no emotion there whatsoever.

[sadden]

sometimes, desperately

[Mike_J]

Yes very much so. I used to see her every week, but I cut back to every other week, I felt I was becoming to dependant on her. The weeks I see her go so much better than the ones I don't

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by googley

Do you all miss your T between sessions? Even though I have been going back and forth between trusting/ not trusting, and having all this drama with my T, I still miss her. Between sessions I miss her. I have sessions on Thursday, but by Monday I feel like it has become so distant. I don't want to be dependent on my T. But I want to be there and feel safe. I hate this missing feeling. Does anyone else ever feel like this?

no I dont miss my therapist. at first and for a long time I did but somewhere along the way I discovered I didnt need to depend on my therapist for getting myself out of problems and solving my problems. somewhere along the way I discovered all the things my therapist was teaching me with walking me through fixing my problems I could do things the same way on my own. I didnt notice when I did it but my partner did. one day I was ceiling deep in bills and trying to budget and my bank account was very tight. my usual reaction to this kind of stress was start balling because I was just so frustrated and stressed and I would run for the phone and call my therapist. she would walk me through calming myself down and taking things one step at a time.

but this time I was at the dining room table getting frustrated. my partner saw and offered to to help. i literally swiped all those bills and past due notices and bank statements off the table and then sat back took a deep breath and said no I can do this all I need is to calm down and take it one step at a time. first step separate everything into their own stack electric here fuel for the furnace here, bank statements here. my partner watched for a bit and then watched from the living room. somewhere along the line my partner left the house. when I was done all bills were getting some sort of payment and my bank would be in the black instead of overdrawn. when I went to stand up the lights went out and my partner was carrying in a small cake with congrats you did it all on your own. complete with decorations on it and candles.

from then on I just naturally dealt with my problems and my therapist took the back seat. I no longer thought of her during the week. I thought more of lets write this down so I don't forget to tell her about this. I dont miss her when I dont see her because I dont "need" her to be a part of my every day life. I can do it myself and shes there for me to celebrate when I accomplish things and there if I struggle with something I cant figure out. like she says I have graduated from carrying her in my pocket, on my shoulders to standing on my own two feet but can see her across the room if I turn around.

[Melbadaze]

yes I do miss T, and I'm glad I do.

[lily99]

yes! and especially this week for me as it's a week of big changes. I want to call her every hour on the hour

I used to miss my T all the time between sessions. I consider myself a dependent person is several aspects, and that was one of them. It's not abnormal to miss your T though, it's quite common!

I do miss him. Even when I'm really busy, he's there in the back of my mind. I like when I can go to see him.

[jexa]

Yeah, I miss her, sometimes a lot. I can't help but wish she was my friend and I could call her up to chat whenever I wanted. We "have something," you know? We connect. And we've both recognized it and spoken about it -- it's a mutual feeling. If a new, good friend was in your life, you would see them more often than once a week. So it's hard not to see her more.

[zooropa]

I miss my T, a lot. I wish I didn't because sometimes I wonder if I'm too dependent (such a common fear here!) or co-dependent (need her to tell me how I feel, or that I'm ok). I don't have a lot of distractions or other things going on in my week to keep me busy, sometimes it's just waiting for a week until my next session so I can have that true connection with someone.

[WePow]

Originally Posted by googley

Do you all miss your T between sessions? Even though I have been going back and forth between trusting/ not trusting, and having all this drama with my T, I still miss her. Between sessions I miss her. I have sessions on Thursday, but by Monday I feel like it has become so distant. I don't want to be dependent on my T. But I want to be there and feel safe. I hate this missing feeling. Does anyone else ever feel like this?

Googley, yes. I do miss my T. I have never really had anyone who could help me the way T is helping. It is frightening in many ways. But my T is so safe for me that it is nice when I am there. I would not want to live with T! LOL! But I could very easily live in T's office in the corner of the room with the stuffed animals :-)

It really depends on what is going on with me....I usually only see T once every two weeks. I tend to miss her immediately after my session and the next day, and then I get busy with life stuff and the feeling fades.

If we're doing EMDR or processing deeper stuff, I can miss her quite intensely.

Still, even when I don't "miss" her, I still think about her a lot. I don't think a day goes by that I don't at least think about her--something she said or something I want to tell her next time we meet.

[Kiya]

yesssssssssssssss....

[TayQuincy]

I do miss my t sometimes, but not very often. I used to miss my previous T so bad between sessions, and i saw her twice a week. I could barely cope with the few days in between without seeing her. I see my current t every other week, and it actually feels better that way.

[Amazonmom]

Oh, yes I miss my T between sessions. I rarely contact her in between sessions though. I don't want to give her the "best friend" role when I know she is only my T.

Pretty much nonstop missing of him...

[crazycat000]

YES!!!! I told her that its hard for me to even go a full week without seeing her. It is rare that I go without a phone call, text, email, or extra session between sessions. As I get farther away from our last session I start googling and thinking about her more. It's definitely bad how much I think about my T. That's why I am having such a hard time this week. I know that I am skipping this week because of Thanksgiving and 2 weeks without seeing her is driving me insane. Of course she tells me to call if I am in crisis mode, but I really don't want to bother her during her thanksgiving break.

[MoxieDoxie]

I hate the empty, loneliness feeling between sessions.....I wonder how I functioned without a T before. Now I am scared to go at life without him.

[Rzay4]

Nope as I see her almost weekly between individual, family, and group. I don't have time to miss her as she is just a phone call away.

My other Ts though I do miss.

[Daeva]

Most definitely!

[junkDNA]

i wouldnt say i miss T but we still text throughout the week so its not like we arent talking ever