[purple orchid]

I don't seem to have made much progress over the last few months.
I still have goals that I haven't reached but I'm beginning to think that maybe they are unrealistic for me and I should just settle with accepting how I am.
How do you know when it's time to stop going to therapy?

[HealingTimes]

i think it all depends.
If it were me, i'd ask myself if i was putting as much effort into it as was needed. If i was, i would then go and tell my T how i am feeling.
Sometimes our T can see progress when we cant. Maybe that is the case here? Maybe you need a different T to help you push further, or maybe you need to tell your T that you need to be pushed.

[purple orchid]

Originally Posted by HealingTimes

i think it all depends.
If it were me, i'd ask myself if i was putting as much effort into it as was needed. If i was, i would then go and tell my T how i am feeling.
Sometimes our T can see progress when we cant. Maybe that is the case here? Maybe you need a different T to help you push further, or maybe you need to tell your T that you need to be pushed.

Thanks for replying.
I know I'm not putting as much effort in as is needed.
I just feel tired of it all and that maybe this is as far as I can come.
My T is good and does try to push me, I've just stopped doing the things I should to progress.

[HealingTimes]

Well, there is your answer then Do you know why you arent putting in as much effort? I get the tiredness, it can be exhausting when every day feels like a continual fight. But what is the alternative? To stay as you are? Would you truly be happy with that?
Those are the things i tell/ask myself when i think the same as you are right now.

Come on, fight just a little harder? A little longer? You are worth it! Perhaps explain this to your T and s/he can help you to figure out why you are sabotaging yourself by not helping yourself.

[critterlady]

I think it's pretty common to reach a point where you plateau for a while. Think of it like a resting period - a time to catch up to the progress you've made. It would be an unrealistic goal to make continuous progress forever.

Have you talked to your therapist about your goals and whether or not they are realistic? If they are, what's keeping you from getting to them? Is there work you need to do, but can't face yet? Talk to your therapist. You're a team - the two of you will figure it out together.

[stopdog]

Have you thought about trying another therapist?

[sweepy62]

I agree , I think I'm at a rest stop for now, I was contemplating giving up. Sometimes you need to take a breather and look at the progress you have made no matter how minor , then continue on.

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[purple orchid]

Originally Posted by HealingTimes

Well, there is your answer then Do you know why you arent putting in as much effort? I get the tiredness, it can be exhausting when every day feels like a continual fight. But what is the alternative? To stay as you are? Would you truly be happy with that?
Those are the things i tell/ask myself when i think the same as you are right now.

Come on, fight just a little harder? A little longer? You are worth it! Perhaps explain this to your T and s/he can help you to figure out why you are sabotaging yourself by not helping yourself.

Thanks for your encouragement, you made me feel better.
I think I'll bring it up in my next therapy session and see what my T says.
You are right I don't want to stay as I am. It's just sooo hard sometimes.