Confused

I have 2 therapists. 1 is for my eating disorder and the other is for DBT. I also attend a DV support group and see a dietician. Today my DBT T told me that in order to continue with DBT, I must cut all ties to my ED T, dietician, and support group. I understand the part about not having another T. What I don't understand is why I have to stop seeing my dietician and going to support group. I don't see my DBT T until January 9th, and I have until then to make my decision. I am not to contact my DBT T until then either.

Right now I need the support of my friends in the support group to help me make it through the holidays. The T that runs the support group said that she has never heard of anything like this before unless the therapy is conflicting; meaning that both Ts are treating the same issues. She went as far as saying that my DBT T is on a power trip.

I just want to scream I am so confused as to what to do.

That doesn't sound right and I think the T in the support group is right Sounds like she is on an ego trip as well. I say find another DBT T!

Will you ED T contact your DBT T and question this demand that you quit everything else?

Usually it means the dbt group is trying to get certified, so they have to prove they get results, and to prove it, their clients cant be seeing anyone else or else the results arent controlled. They dont tell you this is why - that they are basically doing it for money - or that it means they can stay in business - they just pressure the poor client! Weve seen it here on pc a few times in the past couple of years. Its kinda sucky.

I would not do it.
Just the way he informed you about it seems controlling- no explanation, there you go, tell me on our next session. Ultimata don't sit well with me. I would take it into consideration only if there was some pretty good reason behind it (but I fail to even imagine one) that my T explained well to me, I had the chance to properly discuss with him/her and others (EDT, group T...) agreed with.

I'd find another DBT T. S/he is trying to cut you off from life saving treatment. Its like him/her telling you if you had cancer you can't go get cancer treatment while seeing him/her. S/he is treating you for a completely different issue then ED. I venture to guess s/he doesn't understand the physical and mental parts of ED.

Now that I have had a chance to "cool off" I am seeing my DBT T's thought process. I have not fully been immersing myself into DBT. I don't do my diary card on a daily basis nor do I do my homework like I am supposed to. I also not calling for coaching calls when I was in a crisis. I think this is why she wants me to temporarily stop seeing the other professional supporters in my life. I am going to call my dietician and see what she thinks as my next visit with her is Jan 8th. My ED T is understanding of me not seeing her anymore. I will still be able to see my psychiatrist, which is a good thing.

Very good insight buttrfli, glad to hear you see the reasoning.

Didn't read others responses, but my suggestion? LEAVE DBT T immediately! This T is destined to harm you if she's demanding you cut ties with the rest of your treatment team!

My treatment team consists of my T, my dietitian, my psychiatrist, my general doctor, and my DBT therapist. They all work together to ensure I get the best treatment and have the most support possible as I battle this ED (which recovery is going well, finally, after 2.5 years of hell.) The more support you have surrounding you during recovery, the better. My whole team communicates with each other to best help me. Also, it's nice cause there's always at least one person available in emergency situations, instead of only having one person to rely on.

The thing with leaving my DBT T is that I won't be able to go on to EMDR therapy. I still have a lot of praying and consulting my treatment team before I make my decision. Such a hard decision to make.