[DelusionsDaily]

My T is on the verge of having her second child any day. She will be on maternity leave for 4 weeks after the baby is born. I am really excited for her but the closer it gets I just can't imagine those 4 weeks of not seeing her.

I have all these weird fears of my life just totally falling apart while she is gone. It is totally illogical...I know. I mean as long as I continue doing all the work that I do and keep her posted via email I should be fine. Right?!?!? And she has said that if I absolutely need a session she will find a way even if it is via FaceTime. So why am I so worried that everything will fall apart while she is gone? I never worry about anything to do with a T being away for a while and here I am semi-freaking out now about 4 little weeks.

I just have to remember she doesn't keep me together...it's the work I'm doing that does that. So if I continue doing the work while she is off there will be more progress. It's not likely if I'm doing the work that I'll fall apart.

Ugh! I am exhausted. Time for me to go to sleep.

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[sweepy62]

You can do it of course it's natural to miss your t, but it's not going to be for long and she even offered a FaceTime session that's awesome.

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[Raging Quiet]

I can believe maternity leave is so short in the USA, in the UK it's like 9 months!

Saying that, 4 weeks away from your t is an anxious time. I'm sending you strength;

'This too shall pass'

x

[Daeva]

Originally Posted by Raging Quiet

I can believe maternity leave is so short in the USA, in the UK it's like 9 months!

Saying that, 4 weeks away from your t is an anxious time. I'm sending you strength;

'This too shall pass'

x

It's usually 8 weeks in the USA. The T must have chosen to go only 4 weeks.

[anilam]

4 weeks is short time for ML but a very long time for therapy break. The longest my T takes is two weeks over xmas. I had to take 3 long breaks (5-9 weeks) due to work and I survived- it gets better with time. So nice of her to offer you mail contact and the possibility of emergency session.

[DelusionsDaily]

At the office I see her at she is only taking 4 week. Her other office she is unsure and at the hospital she is taking 12 weeks.

She is a wonderful T. I'm hoping I won't NEED a session with her since she is only going to be gone 4 weeks but atleast if I do end up needing a session I know it is available.

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[unlockingsanity]

Wow, you guys have it rough. It's 1 year in Canada.

[HealingTimes]

If she is self-employed, she may have to only have 4 weeks as she wont get maternity pay (not sure if you guys have that over in the US).

Anyway, i recommend thinking of things that could help you out of a tough spot if the need occurs. Like journalling, or other techniques that you have had experience with.

Good luck, it sounds like a tough time.

[RTerroni]

That is one of the consequences of going to see a Female Therapist (in particular a younger one), although I think that is a small price to pay because I have always felt most comfortable around Female Therapists (in particular those who are in their 30s or early 40s), I was lucky that the Therapist who I saw for 4 years (who I saw when she was in her late 30s) never went on maternity leave.

But at the same time I wouldn't feel too mad if my Therapist had to go on maternity leave because if that did happen it would remind me that my Therapist is a real person, i.e. young women have babies and when they do they go on maternity leave.

In Sweden, mothers take 15 months' leave and fathers 4 months, on average. Most guys I know who have kids have taken 6 to 12 months. So no, not tied to it being a female therapist at all, not everywhere in the world.

That being said, four weeks is a considerable break in therapy, and I'm really sorry you have to experience this. Is there a backup T you can contact if you need to?

[RTerroni]

Originally Posted by Mastodon

In Sweden, mothers take 15 months' leave and fathers 4 months, on average. Most guys I know who have kids have taken 6 to 12 months. So no, not tied to it being a female therapist at all, not everywhere in the world.

In the US though it is only for women, I would think that for a male the only issue might be they may take a few days off before their wives due date to make sure they are there when the delivery happens (and even then they can't be sure of it).