[Bentay]

Had my final CBT session last week after two years of therapy. I miss my T So much and I'm finding it So So sad that I won't be able to see him again on my therapy day. I don't know what I'm going to do when that day comes and it's the time of my session and I won't be able to go see him don't know how I'm going to cope with the loss. Why does therapy have to end and leave such a huge painful, painful void.

[Asiablue]

Could you plan something like a massage on the time you'd normally go to therapy? Something nurturing for yourself?
Terminations are hard and it is a loss, even if it's planned.

[rainbow8]

I understand how you feel. I've felt sad after terminating therapy, too. It's a relationship like any other, (well, it's not like any other relationship and sometimes grieving for a T can be even more difficult than grieving for someone we're not as close to) and it's okay to grieve for the ending.

I'll be seeing my T twice/month instead of weekly, and then once/month so I have to think of replacement activities too. I agree with finding something special to do for yourself during the time you had your session, like a massage. I may try that. What about being in a group, either a therapy type group or something else completely? Or attend a class you've always wanted, like yoga, exercise, dance, or art. I know it's not easy. It takes time to get over the sadness. Allow yourself to cry, too.

[Rzay4]

I too have had closure with two of my Ts it was quite hard. Though one of them was see you in the near future so that made it easier. I agree with above schedule like a massage or yoga during that time. Good luck.

[Bentay]

Thank you so much everyone. It's really nice to have PC where people understand and are supportive.

[RTerroni]

I know how you feel my last Therapist decided to abruptly end Therapy with me after only a few months and that was very hard to take, but I am planning on returning to Therapy with an intake scheduled for January 6th at a new practice.

[Bentay]

Originally Posted by RTerroni

I know how you feel my last Therapist decided to abruptly end Therapy with me after only a few months and that was very hard to take, but I am planning on returning to Therapy with an intake scheduled for January 6th at a new practice.

It's not right that you were treated that way. I really hope it goes well for you at your new practice

[Karrebear]

Why did you have to stop?

I most definitely understand the pain of saying goodbye to a T. One of the most painful losses Ive had to experience. It will get better with a lot of time.. but you will heal.

[Pandora94]

I´m in a similar situation here, grieving for an ended therapy. I don´t understand how it feel this miserable even though i terminated willingly after moving to a new city and not starting therapy again. I felt that I have learned a lot in therapy and am happier and heathier. So deep in my heart i know that i am ready to quit or at least have a longer break from therapy. Yet the last session was awful, i somehow managed to hold myself together during the session but after that i went home and cried the whole night. Therapists are, in most cases, complete strangers to their clients and yet losing them hurts like hell So i understand your sadness Bentay

[Bentay]

Originally Posted by Karrebear

Why did you have to stop?

I most definitely understand the pain of saying goodbye to a T. One of the most painful losses Ive had to experience. It will get better with a lot of time.. but you will heal.

Thank you I had to stop as my T thought it was time, he's recommended that I go onto group therapy for SA. It's so hard, I really miss him and think about him all the time, he'll always hold a v special place in my heart because of what he did for me.

[Bentay]

Originally Posted by Pandora94

I´m in a similar situation here, grieving for an ended therapy. I don´t understand how it feel this miserable even though i terminated willingly after moving to a new city and not starting therapy again. I felt that I have learned a lot in therapy and am happier and heathier. So deep in my heart i know that i am ready to quit or at least have a longer break from therapy. Yet the last session was awful, i somehow managed to hold myself together during the session but after that i went home and cried the whole night. Therapists are, in most cases, complete strangers to their clients and yet losing them hurts like hell So i understand your sadness Bentay

I'm so sorry your hurting Pandora94 , it really is very hard. It's such a strange relationship, it's real but not really, you tell this person your inner most thoughts and feel understood (perhaps for the first time) without being judged. Anyway, I'm sorry I'm going on, it's really nice to hear you feel happier and healthier. It's a huge loss but with time it will feel less painful for both of us

[purplemystery]

Hang in there Bentay. You will always have the memories of everything that your T has done.

[Bentay]

Originally Posted by purplemystery

Hang in there Bentay. You will always have the memories of everything that your T has done.

Thank you so much purplemystery, your kind words are appriciated
Your right about the memories. Every time I do something I couldn't do before therapy, is because of my T (I have SA) and I always think of him in those moments.