There is room for everybody on Couch 72

My old anxiety concerning T cancelling appointments has reappeared. So, every week either on Thursdays, or all day on Friday leading up to my late afternoon appointment, I worry about T cancelling on me. And maybe, I am just especially worried about it this week, because I have stuff that I really want to talk to him about. Either way though, it sucks. I hate feeling so worried about whether or not I will have an appointment. If he cancels, he cancels and there isn't much I can do about it. And in general, if I can't wait until the next Friday for an appointment, he will try to fit me in somewhere. I am really am tempted to email him and ask him for some reassurance.. Which, I really, really don't want to do!

(((healed))) Could you maybe email him some bullet points of things you want to talk about tomorrow, and ask him to let you know that he's got them? Would he reply to an email like that - because then you'd get a confirmation that he'd be there, without having to ask outright for reassurance.
Does he cancel often? (I feel I should know this, but I don't - I'm sorry.)

Why don't you want reassurance if it would help and if he would give it to you?

Chopin - instead of furthering the misunderstanding, I am going to pm you, because it is becoming disruptive to the couch. I am sorry you are going thru marriage issues, that is difficult for anyone.

Mast - I am glad T went well this morning.

Healed - I pretty much am sick of your T canceling on you, so I can only imagine how YOU feel! Sheesh. I do think it would be a good conversation to have with him, he needs to know how his last minute cancellations are affecting you.

Sd - wise words, thank you.

I had some early appointments and am just getting on PC now. H is home sick, son has pneumonia, D is with her stupid boyfriend who keeps dumping her and taking her back. I don't know why she thinks it's okay for him to treat her like this, it is not the way her father treats her or me. It is quite stressful for me.

Mast- Thanks for the suggestion. If I want reassurance that he will be there for my appointment, I really have to come right out and ask for it. If I just send him an email with things that I want to talk about, he most likely will not respond to the email. And yes- he has cancelled on me a lot in our two year working together. I am so shocked to hear of those whose T's have only ever cancelled on them once or twice in a couple of years.

SD- It is just one of those "things" I have talked to him about all kinds of things, but to actually say out loud that need him, or that appointment time, is probably one of the scariest things I could say to him. Even if it is through an email.

Wikid - sorry to hear about the sick family - pneumonia is a giant whack on the system. It has always taken me awhile to recover.

I just tried cashew milk in my coffee. At the moment - not a fan of the combination.
It will be good in smoothies, oatmeal etc. But not coffee.(for me)

Healed - I hope he is there for you this week properly.

Mast - maybe Grammar Whiz? or Swiss Fish? lol, I'm not good with titles, obviously!

Stopdog - I keep going back to soy creamer, even though I am trying very hard to eliminate soy from my diet. I should just drink it black, because I can't find a nut milk that tastes good in coffee.

OH...
Stopdog, I once made a vegan chowder with cashew milk, it was so good. I put some broken up Nori in it to give it kind of a New England clam chowdah taste. I can dig around for the recipe if you want. You could always put some clams in it...

Wikid - thanks for the offer but I am not a fan of nori or fish in general for the most part. I tried a clam once and still have not fully recovered from the experience.
I usually use the soy wrappers when I make california rolls.

Bookworm.

You've had pneumonia more than once?

Finally up, hoping for a good day

I saw an article at the cardiologists office last week that mentioned PC. Very weird, I wish I could remember the magazine...hmmmm.

Interesting, but doesn't really surprise me much though since it is a well known psychology website.

yea...it was saying it was good therapy for BPD.
I took out my phone to snap a photo, but of course got called in right then and there.

Funny, because I never touch mags in a doc's office, but I saw the pc logo and had to check it out.

I agree with this. Whenever there is a run of people feeling hurt/misunderstoon on here, I'm like "Well I've been reading the Couch and am very confused." I never really see anyone being mean to anyone else.

The only thing I have to say for myself is that I only post when I have a relevant response to someone, or if its someone I feel close to. That is how it is in real life, you pay more attention to the people you care about not because you don't care about others. This couch moves fast, and most times I"m scrolling on my phone in a minor lull at work, so I have no time to reply.

RTS: I have seen you get upset about feeling ignored before, and whenever I read back to your previous posts, you don't specifically ask for what you need. I suppose its like therapy, you probably are going to feel less than 100% satisfied unless you actually state your needs because people are focused on themselves, are reading quickly, etc…and unless a post says "I'm having a s**t day, can someone please remind me i'm ok?" Or whatever…and I bet you will get responses. It isn't burdening anyone, nor pestering if that is what you are afraid of.

That is just my meager thoughts, from someone who only ocassionally posts in here!

Thanks velcro...that sums it up for me. I usually am like

I'm kind of dense though, so I don't always pick up on vibes, and I usually figure people are talking about pm's when I see nothing in text.

Happy Birthday John Steinbeck...
How many Steinbeck novels have you read? I had to go look thru his books to count up the ones I've read... 11.

Hi.
I'm usually in another forum but the title of this caught my eye.
Room for everybody. So....Hi

Yeah there's room for everyone here

Hi Punky...welcome!

Any one hear from Jersey? She okay?

I think I've only read one of Steinbeck's books. Of Mice and Men.

Hello. Welcome to the couch.

5.... for a comparative literature paper in high school... East of Eden and The Pearl were particular favorites

Saw a recent post on FB so she is FB okay for whatever that counts for.