[sweepy62]

At the last session which was the 3rd session , I don't talk that much, but I do present some drawings, and some poems. I know they read body language .

I did tell her I like logical explanations, but damn she so far has told me that I use black and white thinking as an avoidance mechanism ( true) I did not admit to it. She told me I have very deep and emotional feelings and I feel it to the core( true) I did not admit to it. She told me, I have a tremendous struggle within a constant battle within , ( very true) also did not admit to it.

She told me I want to be able to experience all these feelings and emotions but I'm so afraid of them I keep running, and I look for logic as a defense, OMG !!!!!! WTF !!!!! Who is this lady and why is she saying this stuff to me on the 3rd session 3 hrs of my life.

So does she think she knows me?

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[unaluna]

Okay. I talked to my t about this. Not about you. But with each new t, you dont start over at the beginning - you pick up where you left off. Imo, you take a big step forward, not backward, cuz i think things can stagnate with the old t. A new t can blast you forward. Are men really fooled by women's oh no im a virgin act? Thats what this sounds like to me - i dont get it. If someone understands you, why would you not want them to?

Is she challenging you? Because you are thinking about whether she is right or not.

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Honestly, those seem like fairly easy things to clue in about about you. You have to remember there was consultation between your last T and this T, so she started knowing more about you than a T starting from scratch would.

The observations are pretty broad, not details. Why does it bother you that she seems to get you? That's a good thing. If she wasn't that attuned to you, I suspect you would be upset about that too. Maybe what you need to do is just allow this relationship with this T to develop on its own and try not to nitpick it to death. You are creating stress where there really doesn't need to be any.

[Asiablue]

She will have your notes from previous T, plus clients are how you describe it all the time so therapists come to recognise it. It's not some sort of vodoo

Why wouldn't you admit it, why are you fighting against her? It's counter-productive.

[Raging Quiet]

I agree with Asia - there was a handover between your last t and her.

I also think each t brings a different 'gift' to their client.

Take care Sweepy

[sweepy62]

Originally Posted by hankster

Okay. I talked to my t about this. Not about you. But with each new t, you dont start over at the beginning - you pick up where you left off. Imo, you take a big step forward, not backward, cuz i think things can stagnate with the old t. A new t can blast you forward. Are men really fooled by women's oh no im a virgin act? Thats what this sounds like to me - i dont get it. If someone understands you, why would you not want them to?

because, from t1 to t2 , t2 in 3 sessions, was not saying all this to me, unless she knew and was not relaying this message, but I find this t gutsy to have told me all of this, which is totally correct, but the fact that its told to me after 3 sessions which equals 3 hours which equals 180 minutes and so on, its unreal.

[sweepy62]

Originally Posted by Michanne

Is she challenging you? Because you are thinking about whether she is right or not.

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I love challenge, the problem is not there, she is not pushing at all, I love to have my thoughts challenged, because i love logic in things, i like things to make sense, instead of involving feelings and emotions in it, because feelings and emotions dont involve facts.

[sweepy62]

Originally Posted by 1914sierra

Honestly, those seem like fairly easy things to clue in about about you. You have to remember there was consultation between your last T and this T, so she started knowing more about you than a T starting from scratch would.

The observations are pretty broad, not details. Why does it bother you that she seems to get you? That's a good thing. If she wasn't that attuned to you, I suspect you would be upset about that too. Maybe what you need to do is just allow this relationship with this T to develop on its own and try not to nitpick it to death. You are creating stress where there really doesn't need to be any.

That is true, so she was a step ahead of the game, as far as a new t without really knowing me, you are correct. maybe I am stressing this too much. I do nitpick alot, I over analize everything, that is something I should work at. It creates alot of anxiety in me. I will see, thanks.

[sweepy62]

Originally Posted by Asiablue

She will have your notes from previous T, plus clients are how you describe it all the time so therapists come to recognise it. It's not some sort of vodoo

Why wouldn't you admit it, why are you fighting against her? It's counter-productive.

I know, i do have this inner conflict, im constantly battling myself, i still havent let go of my old t, im kinda slowly giving her a little bit of a way in ( the new t) as she has been very attuned to me. I just have this constant battle, first i have to let go of the fear of the fact that, she is not just going to leave like the rest, I am afraid to open up more, become vulnerable, and then come to the office and have her say, sweepy i took another job somewhere else. We have spoken about this, and she reassured me that wont happen, but guess what, that was reassureed to me twice over.