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Sorry, I had to delete because it doesn't feel safe

[smmath]

Can you talk to her about this?

[A Red Panda]

I'd ask. Are you sure that it was a total delete and not just a very limited privacy setting? That really sucks. I've had someone do that to me... where they accepted my friend request and then deleted me after a few days! It hurts.

And your T should know better. If nothing else, she should have sent you a message apologizing for accidentally clicking "add friend" and for creeping on you!

[HazelGirl]

That is very weird. Definitely something to bring up.

My T added me to her LinkedIn, which was bizarre in a way, but since it's a business site, it makes sense to an extent. I could do things like write a review of her services if I wanted to, so it's quite a bit different than being added to her Facebook.

It was weird, I thought she might have sent a text explaining! It wasn't a privacy setting as when I clicked into her page it said add friend so she deleted me straight away because it was a mistake. She was still spying in me

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[RTerroni]

Do what you feel is right, if my Therapist added me, I know that I would accept (although I accept almost everyone).

[googley]

Maybe she was trying to block you so you couldn't see her page and made a mistake on how she did it?

No cos block and add are in two separate areas, she probably clicked add by mistake as I have done it once but now I know she was spying on me

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[TheWell]

You keep saying she was spying on you. Maybe she was just curious. If your facebook profile isn't private then she wasn't spying on you. You need to talk to her about it.

Well it feels like she was spying on me and now I feel rejected because she deleted me. I think she should have text or sent email explaining

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[coolibrarian]

When my T was new to FB, she accidentally friended everyone in her email list, including clients. She acknowledged her error, apologized, and deleted us. I didn't feel spied on.

[BlessedRhiannon]

It's possible that it was just a total accident - maybe she was using the "find friends" feature to try and locate someone...it grabs all your email addresses and tries to match those to people on facebook. If she were using that and accidentally checked your name instead of or in addition to the one she wanted, you'd have gotten a friend request.

Once, when I was syncing my phone contacts, facebook tried to add as friends all my contacts, and I had to stop the process real quick, because that's not what I wanted to do. Maybe something similar happened to your T.

Only way you'll know for sure is to ask, but I bet it was a random accident, and she probably wasn't looking at your FB page, or anything intrusive. She probably also didn't decide to invite and then un-friend you because she changed her mind. It was probably more of "oops, that didn't do what I meant to do...now I have to unfriend all these people."

Facebook will sync with email lists. Probably what happened completely by accident.

Yes, maybe this is possible but somehow I don't really se it as something that happened here. She has a separate email that she uses for clients and is nothing to do with her Facebook or phone

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[Mactastic]

Originally Posted by Cherbiej

When my T was new to FB, she accidentally friended everyone in her email list, including clients. She acknowledged her error, apologized, and deleted us. I didn't feel spied on.

This could totally happen.

It's going to fester until you bring it up. I would ask her about it. Awkward? Yup! But not more awkward than not saying anything.

Originally Posted by monalisasmile

Yes, maybe this is possible but somehow I don't really se it as something that happened here. She has a separate email that she uses for clients and is nothing to do with her Facebook or phone

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How would you know what email she registered her Facebook page under? You really don't. Mine happens to be under my work email. Try not to jump to she's spying on me.

[HazelGirl]

So your two options are sit around and stew, wondering why she could have done something like this. Or ask.

[sweepy62]

The fact is she was on your page, so yes, there Is no mistake on that, so yes she was looking at your page. Now while scrolling or something, she could have accidentally hit add friend, or hit add friend to see if you accepted to see more on your page. Then deleted you. So yea its snooping, and if she did it intentionally she should have left a message.

This I something to mention asap in session as it could affect your relationship. I would freak.

[doyoutrustme]

I don't think she was stalking. Facebook makes it easy for newbies to add all their contacts.

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Originally Posted by sweepy62

The fact is she was on your page, so yes, there Is no mistake on that, so yes she was looking at your page. Now while scrolling or something, she could have accidentally hit add friend, or hit add friend to see if you accepted to see more on your page. Then deleted you. So yea its snooping, and if she did it intentionally she should have left a message.

This I something to mention asap in session as it could affect your relationship. I would freak.

Actually, no. If Facebook synced up with her contacts, she didn't have to be on the page at all. One of the more frustrating stupid features of Facebook.

[IndestructibleGirl]

Yeah I'd bank on the syncing thing too. Something similar nearly happened me when I got my first smartphone (two years ago, so a lot later than nearly everyone else I knew and I was totally clueless) and it tried to join up EVERYONE in my Skype, Facebook etc. Drove me nuts!

[Mactastic]

I agree with Sierra, just because she friended you that doesn't mean she was ON your page.

[sweepy62]

Originally Posted by 1914sierra

Actually, no. If Facebook synced up with her contacts, she didn't have to be on the page at all. One of the more frustrating stupid features of Facebook.

I was thinking about that feature, I posted to quickly, and also I keep forgetting that most here email thier therapists, so thats a possibility, my apologies to monalisa for rushing to judgemement.

[Leah123]

Facebook requests don't mean someone looked at your profile.

I am often given the option to add anyone whose email I have to my Facebook as a friend, because Facebook imports email addresses from my email account and matches them to people online, so that might have happened with your therapist if she has your email address.

I DO hope she will apologize though for the mixed signal, it's hard to be deleted like that!!

[A Red Panda]

Y'know....

Even if she was looking at your page, how is that any different from all the people on here who look up their therapists and psychiatrists? Everyone gives them support for looking up their Ts, so maybe you should try to have a slightly kinder outlook towards your T.

Yes, she should have not been doing that. Yes, she should have sent a message saying that she made a mistake. Here's hoping that she will at least apologize and explain herself when you see her next.

But it doesn't have to mean that she was spying on you. It's no different than people looking up their Ts... it's just normal curiousity. I'd try to look at it like that until getting to talk to her.

((Side-note: if my T added me to his fb, we'd probably have mutual friends and I wouldn't mind at all - everything on my fb is "Niece-friendly"!))